Just read an article called "How to be happy" - it related so much to me and my FM - and how I deal with it - Thought I would share it with you in an abbreviated form ---
1) BE REALISTIC - Being happy is an emotion. We can't will it into existence just by wanting to feel it. Happiness is a by-product of what we do.
2) SIMPLE PLEASURES - Recognise what gives you pleasure and make time for it - go for a walk, spend an evening with friends or simply stop and stand in your garden. And if going to the gym makes you miserable, then don't go!
3) FINDING A BALANCE - Recognise that we all need to achieve a work/family/leisure time balance.
4) KNOW THE ENEMY - If you want to be happy, try to identify the conditions that make you feel the opposite and try to avoid them. When we feel happy, we're saying to ourselves that we feel safe and comfortable in our surroundings - the opposite of feeling frightened.
5) ACCEPT YOURSELF - If we are to be happy, we must first learn to like, value and care for ourselves. This is easy to say and HARD to do - but learn to accept yourself and the rest will follow.
6) JUDGE YOURSELF FAIRLY - Don't judge yourself more harshly than you would anyone else and stop listening to the inner critic that says you are unworthy. If someone compliments you then accept it gratefully.
7) LET GO OF GUILT - Society encourages us to think that we are not good enough. There always has to be someone to blame if things go wrong. Accept it didn't work out, don't dwell on it and move on!
8) RELAX AROUND OTHERS - If all you are thinking about is whether someone likes you or not, it's impossible to pay full attention to them. Stop worrying and start listening - chances are they feel the same as you!
Although this list may sound quite simple -- life is never SIMPLE and it helps me to cope with my FM by trying to apply the above list to the way I approach life every day.