Is anyone fed up being told they look alright, even that they look well??

[shazzad]

cos i get told that and i hurt so much and drag myself out of bed some days...

[sarah111]

Yes i do all the time Shazzad,and what makes it more fustrating they make you feel like your putting it on for attention or somethn.I have said the way i feel an just get looked at as if iv 2 heads and then it gets to the stage i wont say coz i feel they dont believe me...then when i dont say they think im alright and im asked to baby-sit eg....ya cant win no mater wat way ya go with this illness

[Hidden]

oh yes, even when I was having a carers assessment, the carer told me she was suprised how well I looked considering everything I had wrong with me, I do try if I go out to look nice, my 2 daughters make me try to keep up my standards, when I cant I stay in

[getactive]

I know this is so frustrating makes you feel guilty for feeling rough take care xx

[bbfreak]

Absolutely! It was even written on a medical report for incapacity benefit a few years ago that I looked healthy and well groomed, and was marked down for it! I feel so much better when my hair and make-up are done, and I refuse to let myself go! Keep your chin up hun. X

[Catsrule]

I agree with bbfreak, because I work 3 days a week and keep my self well groomed then people do not realise. I must admit I don't tell people that I have something wrong with me. I admit I probably fake my happy disposiiton 90% of the time! My 5 year old son struggles to understand that I can't do things and it's not his fault that his mummy is not well some days. However, we have to keep smiling

[Hidden]

I try to avoid people now cos fed up with people saying that.

I went to my old work a couple months ago with the cat(i worked in a vets) ans had a friend take me and carry the cat cos i was using crutches as i could barely walk. No one had seen me for a year yet they all said how well i looked.

I hadnt washed my hair and put a dress on cos easier to do than jeans etc and had crutches. Made me feel like they never really looked at me before if they thought i looked well.

But try not to let it get to you, after all stress will make you feel worse.

gentle hugs.

[westgate]

i have learnt the hard way. i sometimes say - good job youre not a doctor - cos you clearly dont know s**t!

Grrrr xx

[Hidden]

Yes, I'm fed up of this, especially with people who I've explained my condition to - I respond to them 'I look well but I'm not, it's invisible', in turn I can get, 'you looked worse last year' as they want to prove themselves right, or I've had things said to me like 'we all have something' - 'I never feel refreshed in the morning' - 'we all get tired' - or on talking about my cognitive problems someone once said 'I call it a senior moment' they don't understand and try to compare themselves...... which feels hurtful and dismissive. They can tend to step back when pain is mentioned. I don't speak much about my symptoms anymore......

[Hidden]

on my atos medical, its was said I was well groomed, and intelligent what the hell as that got to do with being ill, also at my dla tribunal the panel told me I didnt look ill or in pain

[Kasha]

Sometimes I tell myself I'm not going to mention it, I'm not going to tell people but then I find..I cant walk that fast...or cant manage a trek around one more shop.....or cant go out for the evening when Ive had my grandson all day! so I cant help but mention my pain or tell them how im feeling and then I see my friends look at each other as if to say "shes moaning again" people just dont understand and never will I'm finding myself more and more turning down things because I dont want to put myself in the position where I cant cope and people know I cant cope. I just go on pretending everything is ok and that the inside feels as good as the outside looks!!

[demelza]

i no a girl who was turned down for D LA because she had dyed her hair blonde and the doc said she looked ok shes allowed to just like any other person is x

[willowmuse]

Oh yes I get this too, worse for it are my own family!! Mother thinks if i got out of the flat a bit more and got some fresh air then all my ailments would disappear..........I wish, give up explaining now, i have an aunt whos constantly on at me to go see her, and gets quite annoyed when i say i cant. Really fed up with trying to please everyone now, wheres the help and understanding when i need it..........................................xxxx