That due to your disabilities, or health problems, you are mostly house bound so relatives phones at the last minute knowing you will be home when they are out and about, sometimes out of town/city, and assume that you can look after their house and pets overnight as they've decided to stay overnight somewhere?
I really hate being taken for granted, well I can't type the words I want to say in an open forum but you can all make a pretty accurate guess at what they are, and even though I don't mind helping out I hate it when it's assumed I will do it without actually being asked if it's all right or if I'm feeling well enough to actually do it?!!
No warning given. At all.
My brother and his family decided to go to Edinburgh for the day today, and just phone my Mum to say they are staying overnight to take the kids to see a Panda or something similar tomorrow and he wanted us to go take the cats in as they let them out when they left, feed them, lock the house up and then let them out in the morning because they don't know when tomorrow they are coming home yet.
Strangely enough, common sense says that Edinburgh would be full up during a holiday weekend so he must have booked rooms for him, esp. as it's a family of five and I can't believe a hotel would have a vacancy at the drop of a hat (and he is staying overnight at a hotel). He hasn't remembered to phone before hand and his wife has probably asked if he remembered to phone and ask us to look after things this weekend and he hasn't and phones assuming we have no plans or life which can take precedence.
It's so irritating. I know I don't have the health and energy to go out for the day let alone have a real holiday but I find it more than frustrating that it is assumed that a phone call, even at the last moment (and that's happened more often than I can count) to look after his house and his pets. I find it totally P**ed off that he now assumes we will take care of his house/pets every Easter, October and for the summer holidays (at least 5 weeks to 5 and a half weeks) while he swans off to his holiday home in France. He doesn't ask now, he just announcing when he is leaving and assumes we will be house/cat sitting while he's away.
It just irritates me. I hate being taken for granted. Just saying please, or can you, or do you feel well enough, would make all the difference but it never happens. It's generally an announcement and bye, off he goes to wherever he wants.
I just hope for his sake he understands when my parents are no longer with us, so to speak and totally dreaded it, that I can't handle looking after his house, pets as well as my own due to my disabilities. Common sense would dictate so but he never seems to take it into account when he phones our Mum with these favours despite the fact I'm the only driver in our house and his house is too far away to walk to.
Sorry for the rant. But I'm feeling lousy today and was looking forward to a quiet relaxing day without having to go out, I hurt all over and feel completely 'blah' and cant even get the energy to ask my Mum to wash my hair as I'm too sore to lean over to have it done.
Yuck. I feel yucky and ache all over. Bad day to ask for a favour, or rather assume we would do it. I doesn't help that when I try to explain how I don't feel up to doing it I'm the bad selfish one who gets the cold shoulder and snapped at by our Mother?!!
Again sorry for the rant. Can't do it out loud as mentioned above due to being the 'bad' selfish sibling. Feel bad enough without getting the cold shoulder and cutting remarks.