Feeling sad and depressed due to continued length of flare. It never stops😢

[Smilesalot]

I try to be jolly even when in pain. But lately I can't be jolly as the extreme pain has drained it out of me. I'm even struggling to fake it for more than a few

Minutes.

I'm so exhausted physically and mentally.

People keep pointing this out to me making me feel worse n deciding to hide further.

I've just started with a psychiatrist after 9 years😮. The pain meds I take don't work well barely.

My GP won't touch my meds. It's down to mental health. And that's very new. Help????

[hazelcats]

Just wanted to send a gentle hug your way. Living with chronic pain often is a hand in hand with MH difficulties to - certainly in my case. Perimenopause, OA, fibromyalgia and now inflammatory arthritis let alone Huge Life problems all over the last 2 years. So mental health has taken a big hitCan I just say you should feel a proud of yourself for realising you need some extra help and commencing with a psychiatrist,that's a really positive move on your part. It really is.

I can be quite honest about talking about any aspects of health but some people shy away from the subject and I'm sorry that you too can feel hurt and maybe a little isolated when others don't offer the support and care you may need.

There are of course responsible organisations who specialise in MH, maybe contact one like MIND for some extra advice?

I was once told " it's ok to not be ok "

I'm no expert in any of this, just trying to do my best on each day. It's good you reached out on here because I know that many of us use that false smile when in reality we are struggling.

If helps,so you aren't alone. Take care x

[Smilesalot in reply to hazelcats]

Thank you hazelcats🤗 Dawn

[Pastafox]

I understand we're your coming from my emotions are all over the place stay safe

[Gulfstream_Maggie]

Hi Dawn

Hats off to you with recognising you need extra support and even more so getting it.

Mental health is no quick fix so in it for the long term.

Just take it one day at a time and set little achievable goals, knowing we’re all here to help, support or just be that non-judgmental ear/shoulder that you need.

We all suffer in some way or another so can empathise every step of the way.

We’re here when you want with lots of virtual hugs 🤗

[Lovecoffee]

I’m like you try be happy smile, but pain to much, I’ve always got sleep in the day can never keep my eyes open, I take duloxtine in morning but only take edge of waiting on pain management been waiting year, I feel your pain

[Africanmonkey]

You are not alone here, I have been in the same situation as you many times but always seem to be able to get out of it in the end. I am in one now but still have to get up and go to work as a carer with my wife. I have put L plates on the car now so she can drive and she loves it.At work now but just sitting on the sofa as that's all I can do until he wants me to change the nappy. I will be thinking of you as I try to care for him today

[misspicky82]

Sending you my biggest hugs sis, I've sent you a message so won't leave one on here, but I'm sending you hugs, love and kisses my lovely 🤗💞😘 xxxx

[Hidden]

I hope things improve for you and you get some kind of relief from it all.

[Brigga]

I’m the same at the moment. I tried to get out the house to cheer myself up but the pain was too much. I haven’t spoken to anyone other than my husband for about 3 weeks. I’m doing some crochet today and going to try and read a bit later. You’re not alone xx

[Midori]

Menopause? Time to make sure you are getting your quota of Calciun and Vit D, especially. Try to get some exercise every day to keep the strength in your bones.

Cheers, Midori

[KimiJay]

Do you know anyone among friends or family, or a local group of 'Reiki' students who want someone to practice on? Just a thought as people who have chosen to do it often want the chance to grow in understanding and compassion and actually want to understand the pain of others! It's also empowering if someone is willing to teach you the basic symbols and can give you an attunement. It helps me feel less helpless especially when I am unusually distressed and my cat likes the Reiki strokes from my hands when I am focussed on doing it. It just might open up a happier corner of the world and if you can't find anyone, you can read about it online as some people say that you can attune yourself. - Just having a Reiki Master to ask questions of is more encouraging though.

Hope your exhaustion lifts soon. (My own lovely lady Doctor told my husband that older people often need to put back some salt in their diet. He currently has stents in for kidney stones and had overdone drinking water and been worryingly sallow complexioned and exhausted for days. The change as soon as he started the recommended meds - a bag of crisps every day - has been dramatic! Meanwhile, I send gentle hugs and wish a cure for you like as much as he likes that.

[MaggieSylvie]

Hi Smilesalot, I'm sorry you are in this horrendous flair. There's not much anyone can say, I suppose to make it better, apart from knowing that there are others out there suffering similarly.

So your GP has said something along the lines of "it's all in your head", has he? Well, most of us know that pain starts in the head but shows up in the body. If there's anything they can do to stop the pain at the starting post, then I would be happy to let them try. So long as they don't just give you anti-depressants, cos sometimes they work but there are side effects. There's nothing untoward in trying down that road - at least you can say you tried, and you'd have someone to talk to.

But when you're really suffering like this, you need to take a holiday from it all. Go to your appointments, do something to distract yourself, but nothing else. They say a smile takes less muscles than a frown, but I would think a face in repose takes less as well. Only smile if it's not an effort.😊

[saxcat]

Sending you a gentle (((Hug)))

Hope your flare passes soon.

Sorry to hear your Dr won't help with your meds.

Can you maybe change Dr?

It has took me years of different Dr's to finally find one that I am quite happy with.

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer]

Reaching out too you and members here who are struggling with so much pain😞hopefully your doctor will refer you too the right team too help you with depression,sending hugs and push your GP until he moves you forward , even take hubbie with you for some support on an appointment xxxxxxx

[squarah40]

I totally understand how you feel. I’ve tried everything and nothing works. Just take it one day at a time xx