Sorry I need a rant

Been having a flare up now for around 4-5 weeks tried everything I can. medications, tens therapy, hot/cold therapies, exercise, diet changes, herbal remedies, plan pace and prioritise. Nothing has worked last Thursday I contacted my gp who has been no help at all as it was they insisted I fill out an e consult which I did however not getting a callback this this Friday. Don't no what I'm supposed to do and family don't help as I'm the one that cooks cleans does laundry shopping ect and it really does take its tall.

[fenbadger]

that's bad, but isnt it usually the way the people most in a position to help, usually dont. I'm often glad I'm single and self reliant. Just takes longer to do things and in space, no one can hear you scream

[Hidden in reply to fenbadger]

Oh I do believe me I scream from the deepest parts of my soul xx

[Sally444]

Hi Nayne. Sorry to hear that you are struggling so much. It is so hard to be the one who is responsible for everything too. Looking after a house and kids is a full time job and very stressful. I'm afraid I don't have any answers that will help but I can sympathise with you and I do understand. I was a single mum for quite a few years so had to do everything as well as work and study.....it is really hard but I just tell my friends that if your kids are fed, watered, warm and safe.....you've done a great job already. 🙂

[Hidden in reply to Sally444]

Awe bless you means a lot xx

[Midori]

Wow! If you are doing all that for the rest of your family I'm not surprised you are flaring. Look up and print out The Spoon Theory if you can, then make everyone read it. It helps folk understand how your energy depletes during the day. Do you work? If so, can you cut your hours?

Can you get the shopping delivered?

Time to make some rules for the family. Everybody cleans their own rooms. Everybody takes turns at washing up and laundry. Most everyone can cook occasionally.

You need a Family meeting to explain it all to them and tell them it's time for them to step up to the mark, and take some responsibility off your back. You could also explain at the same time that you will have to cut your hours at work (if you do) as you can't do it all.

Cheers, Midori

[Hidden in reply to Midori]

Thank you, my kids both has disabilities which makes planning for them a nightmare, my husband works from 7am up to 9pm doing overtime to make ends meet as I had to give up work as I have multiple injuries and still having operations 5years after a car accident. We also have my my last living grandparent who lives with us and is bedbound. Maybe we can put something together so I can maybe get a rest on the weekends. Crossed fingers xx

[Midori in reply to Hidden]

I certainly hope you can manage it.

[Hidden]

Hiya hun you don’t say how old your bairns are? And are they old enough to give a hand!? I know you can feel like it’s your responsibility to do it all and believe me a lot of us feel that way but you know if you stop doing certain jobs the family soon notice! You stop doing their washing or the dishes and if they are they are able to help you I’m sure they will! But that’s assuming the bairns can do those things??👍🏻

[AllthatGlitters]

Hi sorry to hear you are ill and in a flare for weeks what a nightmare for you. Sending a hug as this is hard.Can you do a rota in your house so you get help? It shouldn’t be solely up to 1 person to do everything in a house. No wonder you don’t feel well.

I hope you can get some rest x

[penny]

Sorry to hear that you are suffering; why don’t you stop doing some of the chores? It’s amazing what a motivator discomfort is. You could look after yourself and let the others look after themselves, assuming that they are above the age of 10.

[UltimatelyMe]

Hey, how are things a few days on? Perhaps doing a weekly plan with the kids might help giving them all tasks for the week? It is hard though…keep one foot in front of the other…

[Hidden]

Hi I'm sorry I was trying to reply to everyone individually but mu hands just can't take it, I appreciate all the suggestions, support, understanding and advice. I will update everyone when we (here) manage to sort something. Once again thank you all so much xx