Any advice/me too’s

[bonny12346]

Hi I have my actual doctor coming today. Praise the Lord!

My son doesn’t want anything to do with me because he can’t talk to a two year old. We used to be so close my heart is broken.

When I couldn’t get any support from my daughter too

when my beautiful dog Eddie had to go to doggie heaven. I wondered what sort of people I’d raised.

My brain is now in total mush. I don’t know what is real or a dream. I sleep all the time but not when I am supposed to. I am convinced I have done something bad or been nasty to a loved one every single day.

My nightmares are so graphic it can take me days to recover.

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[Painny]

So sorry to hear about your situation. We always think families can be supportive but that is not always the case, they can become your foes with lack of understanding.

I feel if a child does not understand a mother then that is their problem not yours. Instead I would choose strangers over this kind of family. You don’t need to have a family to function. I’d suggest get a dog, if you can, for companionship.

Hope one day they regret what they are doing to you. My belief is if you do good you see good.

Wishing you well 😍

[Hidden]

Sorry your son shows such disrespect to you,maybe have him present when the doctor calls and ask doctor to confirm your illness and how bad it gets..sometimes family can be so rude about their lack of knowledge on fibro,,i had to shame my X into understanding the symptoms it brings ,the fatigue and the help you need even when you are still a young parent...I told my X if he didn't help me I would force the house up for sale because I knew he could,NT afford to buy me out..after four years we parted,he,s in a high rise now on his own,,our friends say he bad mouths me a lot because he,s angry st what I did..one friend says to him. If you had got the Hoover out you would still be married!

[Painny in reply to Hidden]

Good on you NurseGlady, Thumbs up to girls power 🤫

[worried4me5]

Hi bonny12346,

I'm sorry you have had to deal with this with your children. I do think that there is only so much you can do when bringing up your kids, it's not all down to you as they have outside influences as well that help to carve them into the people they are today, so please don't blame yourself for their lack of consideration for you.

They might realise in time how they are being unsupportive and turn things around. There's always time for that.

Hope you get support from your GP and that you have others around to support you.

Best wishes

[Midori]

Personally Bonnie, I think your son is the one acting like a 2 year old. It is vicious and unkind to belittle you like this, especially as you brought him up.It isn't your fault, but you can get past this.

If he still lives with you, give him notice to quit. It may bring him up short, or he may go. Its a gamble, but you deserve better.

If he no longer lives with you, just stop speaking with him. The saying 'you can choose your friends but not your family' applies here, but you have no need to try to keep hold of people who are so nasty.

Can you get out at all? if so, try to find a 'Chatty Cafe', or similar. Chatty Cafe's are places where, on a certain day each week, and for a couple of hours, a cafe will have a table or two set aside for total strangers to chat about whatever takes their fancy. You can look up Chatty Cafe's on the Internet.

I found one in my town just before Christmas. Its great, and you can make new friends that way. There are often 'Knit and natter' groups if you are into that kind of thing, your library might know of one, or even host one. They can be easy to set up too, if you feel like organising one.

The way you write makes me think you are probably religious, Can your Church help at all? It's worth enquiring.

Cheers, Midori

[Shazzzy]

Hi Jonny,, some meds will make nightmares more graphic