Sorry to post a downer but I genuinely feel like I am slowly dying.
Beside the fibro I have high cholesterol, spondylosis, diabetes, depression and anxiety.
This is made all the more upsetting by the fact I am nearly 60, I have a 12 year old son and my diabetes means a life shortened by 10 years. I am so upset all the time and conscious of all my health issues constantly. Life has been so hard and I thought when I had my son my life would begin to get ebtter, instead, my age etc means my health has started to get worse, I feel I don't have much time now to enjoy life before all these things stop me from doing even the small amounts I can do now.
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I can fully understand how you feel as you feel time slipping away and things only getting worse health wise. I try to just concentrate on one day at a time and not look too far ahead and I find I now cope much better.
Is there anything you could do yourself to help your health say changing your diet or trying to get a tiny bit more exercise as it makes me feel better if I know I am being proactive about my health.
As you are so low it might perhaps be best if you had a word with your GP. suggestion of jointing a fibro group near you mm is excellent as you wouldn't feel alone with this illness which is bad enough in isolation but when you have multiple health problems can be difficult to cope with.
Do come on here whenever you need to as we are a group of people who can fully understand. Let us know how you are.x
hi sammtank feel for you, but age is the least thing to worry about , I have multipule illnesses and I'm nearly sixty nine. including depression and mental heath issues, various thinkg I need to live for, but age definetly is not the issue. can you explain how you feel to your care person. xx
My GP Knows how I feel but not really much can be done except painkillers and meds. I think as time goes on I might feel better just a shock to me to know that diabetes is life shortening. I have just lost my mum before xmas, my friend had heart attack and died xmas day my auntie died last week and another of my school friends died of diabetes complications last Weds so I am just in turmoil. I will let you know if I improve but atm I am so scared, so upset at my future wondering if I have one.
Why do you think diabetes is life shortening. I have fibro,diabetes,oa,hbp,and a few other things.my drs never say it's life shortening if properly controlled. My father had it with many other issues lived a long life and died of pneumonia witch he said oh iv got a cold and didn't see a dr. Our family friend gg is in her late 80' and is in great shape. I wish there was something I could say to ease your worries. As the others here have said you should mention that to your care person. I also have one child a son too! Sleep well,hope things improve for you soon.☺. Chris x
I hear you and I often feel the same. But don't be defined by your conditions, as it becomes a lead weight. Just deal with how you are in this moment, and truly be with whatever you feel and think. Without judgment. I live with chronic anxiety and fear about my future. But when I remember to be in the way I describe above, it makes way for a bit of hope and sunshine. I hope it can do this for you too. xxx
All i can say is i truly understand you. and i'm going to leave you with this.
"take things one day at a time, today is a gift, tomorrow isn't promised, so do today what you have always wanted"
i know that's easier said than done with the fibro and other health conditions but i remind myself of that saying every time i get really depressed.
Sorry to hear you are feeling like this but you have a lovley 12 year old son who needs you. therefore go to your GP and ask for some help linked to your emotional feelings and ways to support you looking at the great things you already have in your life. Go swimming or look at ways to have time with friends to lift your moods. Have your hair done or experiment with makeup and your wardrobe to make you feel good about yourselg. Any Illnesses is never easy to live along side but dont' Let it overtake you. Start fighting back in small steps.be strong because your worth it. Your son needs his mum so kick back as you will feel better. Look in the mirror and smile .
take vitamins .like vitamin D. Magnesium. Vitamin C. Multi vitamins.
When things have been bad for me i have shared my concerns with the Samaritans who gave me so much advise with no prejudgement of my situation.
Make a list of things you want to achieve and do them when you can because it won't long before you see how much you've achieved without even knowing it. You are a fibromyalgia warrior like many on this site so we know you can make changes to grow in to a good well-being.
Good morning sammtank, I am not sure why you think your life may be shortened by 10 years. Like others have said if you look after yourself and control your diabetes there is no reason I can see why you shouldn't live a long and fruitful life.
It may help for you to talk things over with your GP. The best of us can become low and depressed with long term illness no matter what we suffer with.
You owe to yourself and your son to seek out all the help and advice available to you. Taking control of your illness no matter what it is can make you instantly feel less hopeless.
Sometimes we need a little extra help to get us kick started so I will add a link to the samaritans help line. If you have not spoke with them please do. They are very helpful and understanding. Hang in there and try and live taking one day at a time. Who knows where any one will be tmw never mind in 10 years time. ((hugs))
Thank you all for your kind words and advice.I am determined to get my head around these medical problems. I suppose it hasn't helped having all these bereavements at once. I read that type 1 diabetes reduces your life by 20 years and type 2 by 10 years. Every article I read says this, and at no point does it say that is if you don't look after yourself. I suppose it might be an individual thing. I do know of at least 3 people who died youngish with diabetes. My son is my reason for everything and I am focussed on him so getting there slowly.
A day at a time. try to spend the time you have with the ones you love! unfortunately none of us can predict exactly when we are going to "kick the proverbial bucket" but if you enjoy each day for what it is i find sometimes it can help you get through even the toughest of times. i've personally been through 3 nervous breakdowns and i kept telling myself i had to just be there for the people i love and i know care about me. Fretting about everything all the time isn't good for you. and as some others have said if you're this worried about things it might be an idea to talk this over with a doctor or see a councsellor. (sp) they might be able to help you get your head around things a bit better. i'm not saying you're nuts.(excuse my language i can't think of another word - foggy today!) you don't have to be nuts to need counselling. sometimes just talking helps. and we're all here if you want to post.
Hi, you've just had a massive emotional shock to your system with those bereavements and some of it is grieving, as well as having to deal with your other illnesses. Try and do something nice for you, watch comedies to make you laugh and smile and try to focus on nice things with your son. I found I was getting too angry about the Brexit situation (the way cuts have impacted on the poor mostly) and politics and such-like so I've tried avoiding it all and feel a bit better. Won't help my financial situation but as others have said, one day at a time and see beauty in the little things. can you have a cuppa and a laugh with a neighbour or friend? Choose wisely. Amazing how some people cheer you up and others drag you down. Wishing you well.
This might sound cliched but don’t worry about what time you have left - do something each day that’s gonna to amaze , suprise or challenge try and think of activities that you can do that will occupy your time - speak to a dr and make sure your receiving the right care/medication - perhaps see a counsellor. Most importantly take care of your self
I am suffering like you; am 61. my life is try to sleep, get up and ready for work...run on adrenelin for 8 hrs...come home wash my meds down with about 6 vodka; then when pain subsides enough...I try to sleep...I cry as have no life; days off...nothing gets me out of bed.
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am i going to crash like everyone says?
I feel like I am running out of options
Feel like I`m going round in circles
Well looks like I am going to be let go !
I am starting to believe someone does not like me
