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You never know what someone is going through. Therefore, a little more kindness, patience, and ‪#‎love‬ is needed.

I would add -

telling someone "but you look so well" or

"there's hundred's worse off than you" or

" so-&-so has pain but she still works"

we are all individual.

there can be no comparisons.

it's not a competition.

one person's illness problems or pain does not diminish yours.

with love,

H :)

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What a great post Ham and so very very true, we are all individuals and blanket responses often do more harm than good.

Thank you :-)

Foggy x


Hi Hamble

Oh so true, words can do more damage than a hammer to some people, it is the fakers that the words do not bother,because they are not Anxious, depressed, Insomniac, Anorexic, bulmoniac, or have self loathing problems.

They just pretend that they are to get the sympathy so they are ill in another way.

Life is so full of complications and complicated people.

Take great care and kindest regards


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Thank you so much for this, it is one of those posts where you say to yourself, I know what you mean!


This is all so true and it just makes me cry. Why are so many so cruel and heartless. It seems to me that there is a culture of being 'superior' and 'smarter' than everyone else. I feel that humility and empathy are lost these days. I don't know if it was always this way. I am 61 years old and I can't remember. I don't know why, but I can't, so I don't know if it was always this way or if I just took it all in stride until I became so vulnerable.

People could teach their children humility and empathy with some careful examples and questions on a regular basis. I used to do it with my kids. We played the 'What if' game which I made up to find out how they were thinking about interpersonal and ethical things. I'd pose a question like, for example, "What if you saw your friend take something that you knew belonged to someone else? How would you handle it?" We would then discuss each thing and possible reactions or outcomes. We used to do this while driving in the car. I hope it made them more thoughtful. Part of that game were questions like, "How do you think your friend would feel about this? Why do you think it is against the law?" etc. I don't understand why these kinds of educational tools are so little valued now.

It breaks my heart to see and hear how people are treated when they are abused or threatened or have lost something precious like a loved one or their health. Why must we keep up this idea of superior behaviour... bigging ourselves up and putting others down?

I would so love to have this posted in many places... like doctors' surgeries, church social halls, and in church magazines. Maybe it would get through to the ones who do so much damage with their uncaring words.

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Hi all

how true these words are, i know I've heard them all...

I went to the pain clinic last friday and for once i had the most amazing doctor who said that i have text book fibro, lol i could've cried that i'm not mad........

He also went on to say that he dose'nt have a magic wond to cure it but he hoped that he could make life a little easier over time...

I did leave feeling a little positive until my other half said well that's good news your soon be back to normal!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm not a violent person but I wanted to hit him over the head with my handbag....I asked him if he was in a different surgery????????????????????? I was so mad its not that i enjoy having fibro but when will people understand that they can say something that hurts so much without meaning to, I struggle to live this life remembering the person i was and I'd do anything to be that person again but i have to be the person i am now and feel guilty that i'm now a burden...

Sunshine hugs to you all xx

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Twice in one day, you are on fire! another great post and very true words :)


Hi bren876. This is Billie ! How true are your words Hun , just what I am thinking love. Why don't they teach it at school as well the world would be a much better and kind place to live in. I work in our local hospital and I wish a few people I work with thought the same ! . X x hope today is a good one for you :-) Billie


Hi Billie

Don't you just love it when we get a brilliant post that we can all connect with!!!!!!!!!!!

Today is a good day I've had a really bad flare for the last 6 days and today i woke up and wiggled my toes and they did'nt thats how i know that the worst has passed.

I hope your having a good day?

Lovely to meet you.. Sunshine hugs xxx


Thank you again Hamble. Another thoughtful and thought provoking post. Gentle hugs, Julie xxx


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