need some moral support

[sharonissexy]

I have not posted on here for a few months now, although I have been keeping up to date with things on here.I just need a bit of support right now, my partner of nearly 11 years passed away on monday and I really am not coping.

[hamble99b]

Oh sharon I am so sorry for your loss.

Please come on here and talk all you want to, we are here for you.

Do you want to tell us your partner's name?

Please know that I am thinking of you both.

Sandra x

[fastball]

Sorry to her of your loss. We are all here to listen and help if we can. Have you got any family you can talk to, can someone come and stay with you for a while.

Hope you soon feel a bit better

[Hidden]

Hi there

I'm sure you will find a very warm reception from everyone here.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's so hard when you have been together such a long time.

Christmas time seems to heighten loss greatly.

Please be kind to yourself and just try (easy for me to say) to maybe give yourself some peace by just accepting that you can't cope at the moment.

Perhaps, if you can, just give in for a while and don't put any pressure on yourself.

Don't beat yourself up. No one will be expecting you to be coping at the moment.

Is there anything particular you feel needs to be done that you can't manage?

Do you have the support of your family?

When strangers were expecting me to "act normally" I simply explained that I'd been bereaved.

I found that most people would just say to me "I don't know what to say".

Please keep in touch and let us know how you are managing.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Gentle warming hugs

Louise xxx

[Hidden]

Much Love and much healing for you, please take care, and know you are loved and supported through your grief x

[Royalspec01]

Dear Sharon so sorry to hear or your great loss you must be feeling so alone and in such a strange place cause he's not with you there in the same way anymore I wish I could say its easy but its just a day at a time until things seem more bearable this site is great for company and compassion and understanding I know what made it easier after loosing my mum was to remember the good things and yum those memories cause that what made them so special in our lives I so hope I haven't spoke out of turn love and blessings to you

[Saskia]

Oh Sharon, I am so very sorry for your tragic loss. I cannot begin to imagine how devastated you must be feeling. Have you got anyone to turn to for practical help and/or moral support…family or friends or maybe a counsellor? Have you seen your GP for some support? You know that you have all of us on here. You can always message me if you want to offload. I have suffered bereavements at Christmas and so I do know how hard Christmas can be. All you can really think about are the losses of people you have loved who aren't here to enjoy Christmas any more with you in person. But…. I am sure all our loved ones are with us in Spirit, which is a comfort as time goes on, though I know that it isn't a comfort in these first few days, weeks and months which are so difficult to get through. I shall be thinking of you and remembering you in my prayers at this very sad time. I am sending you a warm comforting hug. Please keep in touch with all of us here. Saskia XX

[suffolklass]

Hello Sharon

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I understand how you must be feeling at the moment. My husband passed away suddenly 5 years ago.

It was the biggest shock I have ever had and felt so numb for a long time. It took time to be able to live again and it isn't the same as before.

Please do not expect yourself to carry on as normal as your normal has changed. Be gentle to yourself. You have a lot to do over the coming weeks. If you would like to chat then by all means pm me.

I pray you have someone, friend or family, who can help you through these times but I am here.

Is xx

[shaz66 in reply to suffolklass]

so sorry sharon for your loss god bless u and help u through this terrible time gentle hugs xox

[sue32]

Oh no!! I'm so, so sorry for your loss Sharon. I lost my husband nearly 8 years ago and it's awful to lose your soulmate. Don't expect to be able to cope; it just won't happen. You are grieving, and you have to grieve. Your life has been turned upside down and inside out. When you think there are no more tears, they will flow. I could be smiling one minute and in floods of tears the next. You will go through a whole load of emotions - anger, guilt, and deep, deep sorrow. In my case, my daughter and I found it helped to talk about Barry, difficult at first, and we read his diaries, which went back to 1972!! I felt guilty for laughing or enjoying myself!! Of course, I know Barry wouldn't want me to be miserable, but you really can't help it. If you can, try to talk to someone, most people are prepared to listen. Time is NOT a healer, despite what people might tell you. It doesn't get better.....you get better at dealing with it. Take care, and remember, people don't expect you to cope right now. You will, but in your own time. My sympathies to you and your family. XXXX

[sharonissexy]

thank you to everyone for their kind words, sorry not replied before now, or individually, its just too hard xx

[Matrix]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss ,it's never easy to cope when you lose a loved one .We are all here for you whenever .Just take baby steps it's only been a week and you are bound to be struggling .Sending you a gentle hug .x