I’ll try keep this short. After my miscarriage in June, we fell pregnant to our surprise and got a positive test end of August. My cycles average between 25-32 days and I ovulated on CD19. Therefore I could be anywhere between just shy of 6-7 weeks pregnant but based on my last period date, the EPU documented me as 7 weeks and I had a scan today.
The sonographer showed me that she could see the sac and yolk sac, but felt it was too early to see the embryo. I asked if it meant I’m going to miscarry and she said it didn’t mean that, it could just be too early and was a little more positive. I cried with a little bit of relief as scans are very triggering for me and walked back to the EPU.
The nurse was much more negative and said she expects things to change in the next week and that I’ll likely miscarry 💔 I asked if it could be that I’m earlier than expected and she said maybe, but for the size of the sac, she’d expect to see the embryo so told me to expect the worse.
If I miscarry, this will make it my fourth and honestly, I don’t think I have it in me to try again or go down the route of IVF again. I feel numb to the pain and I’m so tired of this journey and how challenging it’s been. I am SO incredibly blessed to have 2.5 year old twins from our fourth transfer and second egg collection, we just really hoped for a sibling and whilst they help to make all of this a little more bearable, it still stings my heart that this is how it is for us.
I know the next week could go either way but I’m not sure how to handle it all. It just really sucks 💔
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I went into the scan feeling anxious but hopeful and positive because I really thought this time would be different, we would be lucky. All that hope has been shattered because I’ve pretty much been told it’s unlikely to progress.
I have a scan again in a weeks time, so I should be between 7 or 8 weeks pregnant by then I guess if my dates are out which I know they could be. I just now have this overriding sense of doom planted there by the midwife so I feel silly for ever feeling like this time would be different.
I don’t think I’ve got it in me to go through this again. It’s making all the old memories and pain of everything before the twins resurface and I don’t know how to bottle that up 💔 xx
Please don't feel silly - we always have to have hope.
With my mmc they couldn't see anything at 6+4 except the sac, but at 7+4 they could see the fetal pole. Granted mine didn't progress but it was measuring 9 days behind. With yours you just don't know exactly where it should be, so there is definitely still hope.
I think don't bottle it up - allow yourself to feel it all - it's awful for sure but it's part of you and pushing it down probably won't help you. xxx
Thank you. I want to be hopeful and I need the midwife to be wrong for my own mental wellbeing. It’s going to be a very tough, long week and I’m also doing it alone as hubby is away traveling with work for a few days 😭
It truly is so hard. All your emotion poured in to this one little embryo - it's exhausting.
Oh no! That's so hard. But at least the twins will keep you busy!! I know it's impossible not to overthink it but try and keep on a level. There's a good chance it could go either way so try to stay in the middle, hope but realism...
So sorry you're in this situation. My first scan the doctor was very negative, but it all turned out ok. Hopefully they just can't see properly or the dates are wrong as you said. I know the anxiety is awful though. I'm keeping everything crossed for you to get good news 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 xx
Thank you, I’m really praying things take a better turn next week and it’s positive news too 🙏🏼 It’s only been a few hours but I’m already struggling with the news that it may not be. I’m really glad in your case it turned out okay 🤍
You’re right, thank you 💛 I’ve woken up feeling sick and just so tired, it feels cruel to have symptoms that may not be for good reasons but I’m hoping it’s a positive sign 💛
Definitely, miscarriages has robbed me of the innocence of seeing those two lines on a pregnancy test. It’s just short lived excitement turned to fear, panic and anxiety xx
Oohhh huni! 😓I really feel for you I do! It’s the waiting that’s the WORST and scans are so so triggering! I think you’ve got a positive and there’s a sac there so it’s all positive! 🙏🏽 maybe just too early to see the tiny embryo yet!? I’ve heard so many stories the same as yours, and they have gone a week later and can see the tiny baby then. Remember every pregnancy is so different! Doctors and nurses have to prepare you for the worst, but just cling onto any positives to get you through ( I know it’s easier said than done!) 😓 It’s so unfair we have to go through this, but we are here for you and sending positive love and hope your way! X
Thank you so much 🥹 I’m really trying to stay positive and hopeful. The waiting is really, really hard and slow. A week feels like forever in moments like this, doesn’t it! Xx
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Viability scan 6 weeks 6 days no heartbeat 
*Trigger warning* 6+6 scan - empty sac 😢
Scan at EPU update 
Hoping for a miracle 🤞🏻
