Advice need for moving on from infertility

[Squishycat]

My husband and I have been TTC for two and a half years. We already have a little boy , which I am very thankful for . We are both 42 and I think it's just a case of my age and low egg count. We had all the meds for IVF but unfortunately they didn't make any difference so we went for iui instead . This didn't work and the clinic have advised us to not try again for any more treatments. We can keep trying g naturally but decided to draw a line in the sand . It's only been a week but I'm really struggling to come to terms with the idea that this journey has to end . Any advice from anyone who's been through the same ?

[Mercury363]

Aw lovely it is so hard to say you are done and get your head around it.I was done but couldn't settle and decided on one more round and at 41 it will definitely be my last.

If this doesn't work I will try counselling and have to find myself some new hobbies. I have one little boy who is a dream baby and I am very lucky. It takes such strength to make this decision and you have already been through so much.

It's hard to get the images of what you dreamed out of your head, but remember everything you think you would be missing out on by not having another you will / have experienced with your little boy. You are not missing out, it may Just have to mean more as you go through it. Take your time and savour it. Someone told me this during the week and it put a lot of things in perspective.

Keep posting on here. The people are great and so supportive. You will always find someone to talk to. Good luck lovely xx

[Squishycat in reply to Mercury363]

Thank you for replying . I think your right , things will get better with time. I have a few counselling sessions to go to so hopefully they will help. That was good advise from someone. Hold on to every minute with your little boy .

Lots of love to you .

[Anonymou5]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I’m 42 we have decided that this next round, next month is the last round I’m going for. It was hard to say those words out loud, but how many more rounds, how many more fails and how many more heartbreaks do I go through. It’s hard to go through all the mixed emotions of grieving. Because that is what it is… grieving. Time is a healer and we will find peace with our decisions. Wishing you all the best with what you decide xx

[Squishycat]

Thank you for getting back to me . It is grieving but we don't get the chance to heal . I guess I just have to let myself heal after this hard journey . I wish you lots of luck on yours . I read this somewhere and it helps keep me going. This applies to the last person who replied too ...

Whatever happens is meant to be , if it's not what we want to happen, instead of thinking that this is happening to me , we should think that this is happening for me and that our path ahead was the path we were meant to take .

Lots of love to you. X