Denmark also suffers from infertility

[CamillaLar]

Hi!

My name is Camilla Larsen. I’m 36 y.o. My DH and I are currently living in Denmark. I’m found of it, indeed. Vejle is perhaps the best place for quite living. It’s also a wonderful town for bringing up children, I’m sure but. The Problem is that we do not have kind of opportunity to become parents in natural way. No, that’s not correct. There’s a bunch of opportunities. Also we are a fertile couple but conception means quite a big danger for our future children.

Oh, God! I couldn’t imagine how it’s hard to describe all of that. I’ve got a tight knot of emotions to express. You know… I just want to be honest in each word I’m going to publish…

We have been married for 7 years. I got pregnant suddenly in a year after our spectacular wedding party. It was a mistake. I’ve been taking insulin injections twice per day since 15 years old.

I suffer from type 1 diabetes. You mustn’t be a physician in order to understand that might harm my baby. In short, we decided to terminate a pregnancy. This didn’t reoccur during those 7 years.

My dear husband Erik doesn’t think too much of parenting. He’s totally involved in business. He loves me and monthly revenue more than all. He’s 40. He’s often too busy to think about children. I suppose that most of the quarrels we had occurred because he didn’t understand my true desire of being a mother. It means madly a lot to me. He was born in relatively rich family having 4 brothers and sisters. He can’t just realize my pain. I’m not the one who blames someone for the issues.

Recently I’ve asked him what about your heirs you old cheapskate! Who will manage our business when you get tired after all!

He accepted my offer. We started handling things towards the goal. I’m going to share my experience soon if you don’t mind, if it’s interesting to know.

I am an orphan and I really want a child to give everything I didn’t have on my own. Surrogacy is a very controversial decision, doubtful step, whatever.

I didn’t have a great practice in forum communication. Maybe I’m not that good at some specific aspects. Feel free to stop me if I say something wrong or talk about myself too much. I’d like to be friendly. Wanna know your stories and support you despite the distance and time zones. Thank you very much. It was my very first try.

[LKT1]

Hi and welcome!

I’m sorry to hear of your diabetes affecting possible pregnancies that must be really hard. For some women and for most on this forum, it is such a strong and natural desire to be a mother. It can be hard talking to those not in the same position as they will never fully understand. I have found this forum a safe and comfortable place to chat and ask questions. Whilst I can’t be of much help I’m sure there are many people on this forum who may have considered or used surrogacy as an option.

Wishing you all the best.

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[CamillaLar in reply to LKT1]

I'm so happy that I've found the support here. Thank you for those kind words!

[Hidden]

Welcome. You have found a great place for support and hopefully at times people will be able to advise based on their experiences and successes. Wishing you speedy success xx

[CamillaLar in reply to Hidden]

I'm interested in your experiences. Thanks!

[Saya85]

Welcome Camilla

It's true- wherever you are in the world infertility strikes us all the same.

It was a lovely post to read and you can tell how conflicted you are

It's good your husband has now agreed to have children but he really does need to be on board if you are struggling to conceive

It's a very emotional journey and you need to support each other - do try and talk as often as you can or take specific time out just to discuss more deeply how you both feel XX

I'm so sorry to hear you grew up an orphan...I wouldn't be able to do surrogacy either but I have always wanted to adopt and foster orphan children to give them the childhood they are missing out on. Have you considered adoption instead ?

I wish you luck in your quest to be a mother

This forum is a wonderful support if you do need an ear.

It's also great for asking for specific medical and treatment and infertility advice in terms of what options you can go for

Good luck to you x

[CamillaLar in reply to Saya85]

Thank you for advice but, you know, sometimes it's too hard to discuss the issue. I'm trying. We've considered adoption and came to the conclusion that it's high risk. Thanks for your support!

[runsoncuddles]

Hello & Welcome CamillaLar. This forum is amazing for women like us. Please feel free to share whenever you can. I hope you will find the support, information and encouragement we all so desperately need at a time like this. Sending you lots of well wishes ✨✨

[CamillaLar in reply to runsoncuddles]

Thanks!

[magda22]

Hi Camilla, welcome and it's nice to read your story. This forum is wonderful for support, information and advice. My partner does not understand my strong desire to be a mother - a biological mother if at all possible - so we have had many difficulties and fights, but I've got to the point of trying treatments. It's been very hard, but the emotional support I've received here has helped me keep going, and helped so much with the fact my partner is largely against assisted reproduction, and that my friends don't have any experience of it. So do ask questions and share! Much love x

[CamillaLar]

Oh it's so hard. Thank you for your support! I'd like to ask you all I care about.