Where to go next? Please help!

[Vivkim]

Hi all

Firstly, sorry for the length post. I’m desperate for advice…

We’ve just had a failed cycle at ARGC. 3 blasts sent for PGT-A testing, all come back abnormal. The follow-up consultation was extremely thorough. We’ve had karyotype tests (normal), hysteroscopy (normal), at beginning of cycle: FSH 7.9, estrogen 196, both described as ‘a good place to start.’ AFC was 6 (described as on the low side.) AMH is 17.5. Lining described as ‘beautiful.’ Estrogen increased to 7800 which were told is great. I responded well to relatively low dose stimulation (225 f**timon.) Sperm count and movement ‘good,’ but morphology was only 3% (low).

Resulted in 9 eggs, 7 mature, 4 fertilised, 3 blasts (but abnormal.)

3 previous failed cycles (7 transfers), 1 miscarriage at 9 weeks. Aged 39/40.

It was strongly suggested we move onto donor eggs but the possibility of conceiving using own sperm and eggs was not shut down totally.

Please can someone advise us of what to do? We have enough savings to go again (own or donor), but not enough to do both. I’m so conflicted.

I’m also soooo overwhelmed by the process of using donor eggs. Hoping someone can explain the steps simply (with some recommendations if possible.)

Love and strength 💜

[Estherlovescats]

Sorry if you have tried this already. Just i failed 2 cycles of ivf then tried ovulation tracking with mira and a fertilily conception cup and got pregnant naturally right away after the 2nd failed cycle. Have you been advised about that and drugs like letrozole. I think services are too quick to run to ivf. Im 40 btw

[Doodlebug23]

I am 13 weeks pregnant with a donor egg. I’m with a clinic in Spain. Donors in Spain are completely anonymous. I only know the age. Selected by the clinic from their list of donors by matching to photos of me. Took about 2 months from initial tests to first fresh transfer.

[Scruffy01 in reply to Doodlebug23]

Just read your post, I had a failed IVF cycle at 16 wks, I’m now looking at DE options as I am 43 yrs old. Please can you message me which clinic you are using, PM if not allowed to say which clinic publicly. Many thanks

[Purple_User23]

Has your partner's sperm been tested for DNA Fragmentation?

[Babytocome]

Hi,

To be honest I should have tried before to win time …I made a post a few days ago to bring some hope on people that are here

“Just wanted to say that even though it is a very hard decision and a very individual journey, once the baby is in your hands all that fear and sadness from lack of genetics, is clouded by the unconditional love someone can feel once that baby arrives after 9 months.

It is also incredible how epigenics works, as your blood is mixed with this baby blood inside you!

I don’t know what the future holds but for now I just want to give people hopes on that very hard step, but once you made it, believe me love overcomes all!”