Stark White BFN 6DP5DT FET...FEELING DEVASTATED

[43andFinalGo]

We transferred a 4AA Frozen blast on May 1st , and I know I'm not doing myself any favours but I've had stark white BFNs every day since... its now 6DP5DT and I feel devastated .. I guess I'm just wanting to hear other stories of success with later bfps ... and if you did test + later , did it work out? any issues? what did you end up having?

[Millbanks]

Hi lovely,

It's still pretty early for a positive test - I've seen tonnes of ladies on here getting later positives. It's so hard to know when the embryo implanted and started releasing HCG.

I know the pain of a BFN though - it's never easy to see. If you do a search on this forum you'll see lots of stories of late positives xx

[43andFinalGo in reply to Millbanks]

Thanks for your reply. BFNs suck and I try not to compare my experiences too much, I guess it's hard to not obsess and then keep all that "crazy " to yourself.

[Millbanks in reply to 43andFinalGo]

Its so hard not to. I've been through it many times and it never gets easier. There's always hope I find that worse TBH. I'd rather get it out the way and know, without the hope that it'll change - early testing really messes with your head....

x

[Kate-92]

hello, i got my positive at 9DP5DT x i had a very faint, not even a line line on day 7 but didn't see anything that would class as an actual positive although still very faint until day 9 ! you are still super early. I think my embryo didn't implant until slightly later as i didnt see strong positives much until later on (Look on my profile - My first post has an image of the line strength from day 9) - I am currently 27 wks pregnant x sending lots of love and luck x

[43andFinalGo in reply to Kate-92]

Aww congrats ! do you know what you are having ??

[Kate-92 in reply to 43andFinalGo]

yes a little boy - we had a private NIPT quite early on for extra reassurance and opted to find out the gender x thank you for the congrats ✨ sending lots of love & luck for the remainder of your TWW ! 🤞🏼🙏🏼

[AnnanyaBiswas in reply to Kate-92]

Did u get or feel any early pregnancy symptoms on 9DP5DT?

[Kate-92 in reply to AnnanyaBiswas]

Just sore breasts to be honest & tiredness, I had nausea but later on - probably more around 6-7 wks onwards x I wasn’t sure if my soreness at that time was the progesterone or an after effect of the stims but it was 100% pregnancy as I still have it on and off now x

[Kitkat10]

it’s still really early. I had a faint line at 9dp5dt and now 32 weeks 🤞🤞 it didn’t get darker until 12 dp5dt and when I had HCG done as I was panicking, it was 1035. I used the little strips and they didn’t show much up at all, despite the recent HCG. keep going, I know it’s really hard at this stage trying to wait and rest but maybe wait until day 9 if you can? Xx

[43andFinalGo in reply to Kitkat10]

That's amazing.. I know it's hard not to get a little bit anxious.. the stress, meds, cost, ...so many factors. Thankyou for your reply. And congrats!! Do you know what you are having ?

[AnnanyaBiswas in reply to Kitkat10]

Congrats dear. Did u get any early pregnancy symptoms on 9DP5DT? This is my 2nd transfer and quite tensed.

[43andFinalGo]

Update: 8dp5dt Still BFN. I honestly think I'm out... and can't stop feeling like it's something I did. I know it's irrational, we go through so much, the medication, poking, prodding, building of expectations... and it's greif that we deal with every time...

[Millbanks in reply to 43andFinalGo]

I’m sorry to see this hun. But it’s definitely nothing you did. Sometimes even with the perfect embryo and perfect conditions, the little one just doesn’t have enough energy stored to keep growing. Absolutely nothing we can do about it. It’s so hard to get your head around because you want answers but please don’t blame yourself.

Sending a massive hug xx

[Kate-92 in reply to 43andFinalGo]

Don’t write it off just yet - always keep a little hope x 🙏🏼🤞🏼 sending lots of love x

[Alwaysfullofhope]

I think I had transfer the same day as you 1st May? I've got a BFN too!!! This is round number 7 transfer number 4! Just wanted to jump on and say your not alone, but you 100% did nothing wrong, along as you took your meds as instructed there's nothing else you can do, these embabies can survive alot and most people don't even realise there pregnant and life continues as normal drinking/smoking not eating a fertility rich diet etc and it does not even affect the baby so I think what I'm trying to say is you've/ we've done everything we can it just wasn't meant to be this time! Give your self the time to grieve get something planned that's fun and exciting and when your ready get back to it and just believe it will happen one day!! We've got this!!!💪🏽🤍 xx

[43andFinalGo in reply to Alwaysfullofhope]

Thankyou. And hugs for your bfn too.. xx

yes we have done everything we could

.. I've gotto stop going down crazy research rabbit holes.. but I've found more than one study that indicates high serum estrogen and progesterone actually inhibit implantation.. theres a golden ratio apparently ... but then I look at my levels and they're more than that range and think... is it the FS being careless or a cowboy with meds.. ehh.. im no expert.. just grasping at straws

[Alwaysfullofhope in reply to 43andFinalGo]

I find Google the worst place! So many contradicting information that makes you feel your going crazy, one study will say one thing the other will tell you to do the opposite, now I'm not sure how many rounds you've had but I believe you should just live your life as normal and everything in moderation, and along as you take your meds then there's nothing else you can do, speak to your clinic about anything that concerns you and make sure you are satisfied with there answers to stop the Google searching (we are all bad for it). Get out for some cocktails with your girls let your hair down, or if you don't drink join a boxing class and let all your frustration out I do both, but the cocktails after the boxing 😆😆 everything will be OK and life will work out how we imagined one day but in the meantime try not to stop life because time doesn't wait, get something fun planned you deserve it!!xx

[43andFinalGo]

Beta is Monday.. I've already booked am appointment with my FS to talk about options for next round. I'll just keep taking my supplements, eating well and minimising my stress... next one will be it !!