Devastated BFN

Am I clutching at straws, OTD is tomorrow I tested this morning BFN could it change? Or can I have a coffee?

Also where did my embryo go? IF it didint implant where is it?

[Loulav]

Oooh noooo 😢. Im so sorry to hea this. Have you not had a bleed in your 2ww? X

[Hidden]

No but I’ve got early menapause so my bleeds are so irregular anyway, because we used donor eggs I really believed it might work, what an idiot

[magda22 in reply to Hidden]

You're not an idiot, not at all. You're really freaking courageous - like all of us here doing this difficult stuff. From what the doctors have told me it can work even post menopause with donor eggs. Maybe this one hasn't worked, but another one can. Give yourself some time and love - I'm the same as you, as soon as a cycle ends I grab as much coffee as I can and probably have a night out too! Lots of love and thoughts xxx

[Hidden in reply to magda22]

Yes a night out would be so good x

[Loulav in reply to Hidden]

You're not an idiot. My heart sincerely goes out to you. Im lost for words. Sorry xx

[Hope4usall]

I'm so sorry Hun. How many days post transfer are you? Does you clinic check your beta HCG levels? Xx

[Hidden in reply to Hope4usall]

This is day 11 be honest will it change tomorrow do u think?

[Lizzielizzielizzie in reply to Hidden]

My clinic asks for test on day 13 after 5 day embryo transfer, my friend had a donor egg and her line was still faint on day 13 so the clinic made her test again on day 14. She had the baby last month. You’re really not out yet.

[Hope4usall]

If I'm honest I don't think it will change. I would still check it again tomorrow though. I am so sorry I really am. I've been thinking about you all morning hoping for good news. Please don't give up, it's nothing you've done. You are so strong coming this far and trying as many times as you have. So you know you can do it. Keep going, and keep hoping. I don't know why we are all tested in this way, it is so so unfair. Take it easy on yourself. You have not been stupid for hoping it would work. It's a normal feeling. It wouldn't have done you any good to feel negative for 11 days. It will happen for you. Don't give up. Sending you a huge hug and lots of love xxx

[Hidden in reply to Hope4usall]

Thank you I’m a bit numb right now trying to get through to the clinic but no answer, they always seem to pick up when I have to pay a bill tho. Xxx

[Hope4usall]

You will be it's understandable. Yeah good idea to see what the clinic say. Sending love xx

[Cinderella5]

Awww I'm so sorry! It's not a daft to hope that DE might work. It has a much better success rate but no guarantee of course. I know of a few ladies that had a failed first attempt but had their BFP on their second go and have babies now! Sending hugs hugs, I hope it changes.xx

[Hidden in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank xxx

[Lizzielizzielizzie]

It can change. Test again tomorrow. If it is a true bfn then the remains of the embryo come out with your lining when you have a bleed.

[Hidden in reply to Lizzielizzielizzie]

Ok thanks I wanted to know where my embie would be xx

[Rachael_]

I really hope that this will change for you its not nice at all ile keep everything crossed 🤞🏻.... i have thought the exact same im going to ask my consultant the same question when i pluck up the courage to go ... sending big hugs your way 💖 xx

[Tugsgirl]

It’s not over until otd. I really hope your result changes xx