Fresh Transfer - A week ago today. Today is hard. Two week wait.

[Cuppppatea]

Today is hard. It's so hard not knowing and symptom spotting all the way. I don't feel able to make plans for anything....its like limbo! I keep thinking it would have to be some kind of miracle if this works first fresh embryo transfer, early blastocyst, no PGTA testing.

I'm holiding hope but I feel terrified of the plan and what's to come if it's not successful. I haven't really started to put that in process apart from having an idea on the clinic and i may like to try mild IVF.

The husband has totally clocked off. Drunk Saturday, pints yesterday, pints planned for Friday.

Love going out to anyone else feeling it. X

[neonpg]

Hiya, I'm just a few days behind you (4dpt) in a very similar situation. Disastrous second round of IVF ending with an early blast transfer.

For me what's helped is making a plan of action for next steps in the event that this fails. I've decided to try one more cycle and I've already started compiling questions for our consultant, and I've got Ovum supplements in my amazon shopping basket to order as soon as I get the BFN. I know it may sound like I'm mega pessimistic, but working through the worst-case scenario in my head has really helped me to feel some semblance of control in a situation that's largely out of my hands.

I've also had frank discussions with the wife about how much further we want to take this. I've decided on one more cycle, as although we have the funds for more I think that emotionally that's all I'm prepared to do. I believe there's freedom and happiness on the other side of this journey, with or without a baby.

I mention my partner here as I believe that any decision we make we have to be all in together. And I'm really sorry that you feel like your husband has mentally checked out-that must be really hard especially as it's your body that's going through all this. Whatever the outcome it's definitely time for a frank discussion with him and maybe consider therapy to work through these issues. There's another thread on here about someone else who's having relationship troubles with IVF so I'd definitely recommend checking out all the advice on there.

[Positive20 in reply to neonpg]

This is exactly how I dealt with transfers - not pessimistic but always had a plan for the next steps. We did have multiple attempts and I am pleased to say I now have a very beautiful perfect baby from it all. Don’t lose hope. Xx

[Positive20 in reply to neonpg]

Oh and you also do need in your Amazon basket a treat for if it’s not successful - a gift for yourself or a takeaway/meal out. I always had something planned or a treat I was buying myself just to celebrate being so strong to make it that far. Xx

[neonpg in reply to Positive20]

Thank you, that's a great shout. I've already planned a hot bath with half of Lush tipped into it, but will definitely get myself a nice gift too. Congratulations on your baby 💛

[Positive20 in reply to neonpg]

Yep - hot bath with Lush products was always one of my TLC’s! Xx

[Greenleaves1]

Good luck. I always like I know my next steps so I feel I have a sense of control. I was always apprehensive with mine being an early blast as well, I felt it should have been further on.

You're half way there, I always find the second week is the hardest.

[MiniCeeCee]

hey Cuppppatea sending a week of extra strength your way! Sorry to hear you’re finding it tough- no real advice other than to keep yourself busy where you can this week - set yourself a couple of books to read, book a meal out maybe, binge a box set. And like others say, have that plan in place for the world where it might not have worked - could it be a weekend away, or a massage, a hair cut / pamper day, journaling etc. sometimes the little things can make a bit difference, sending lots of love x

[Kitkat10]

good luck, hang in there xx

[Twiglet2]

I hope they aren’t making you wait a full 2 weeks after fresh transfer and you only have a day or 2 to go now 🤞🏽 good luck and hang in there! Xx

[Cuppppatea in reply to Twiglet2]

Yeah they are ! Can I test earlier ? X

[Twiglet2 in reply to Cuppppatea]

You can test whenever you like 🤗 I’ve always had a reliable result but 8 days past and my test dates with fresh transfer is usually 10-11 days past so a full 14 days is quite long unusually only have that with a FET. Be warned though whenever you test it could make you a pee on a stick addict! Good luck! Xx

[Cuppppatea in reply to Twiglet2]

Could it be because it’s an early blastocyst I wonder? I will probably cave and test early xx

[Twiglet2 in reply to Cuppppatea]

Oh absolutely that’s based on a 5day embryo, sorry add in a few more days then to be safe! I’m hopeless started testing from 4 days last time which I defo wouldn’t reccomend!! Hang in there lovely 🤗💜 Xx

[neonpg in reply to Twiglet2]

just to add to this, I had an early blast transferred and my clinic are asking me to test 11dpt, the same as when I had my FET in December with an expanded blast. So I don't think it'll be necessary to wait all those extra days; I think it's just discrepancies per clinic. FYI my transfer was 17 Feb and I'm testing Monday 9dpt as I have a pitch on OTD.

[Kate-92]

I found the hardest part of the 2WW the symptom spotting and comparison to others - I actually tested everyday from the day after transfer to manage my expectations & emotions. I know everyone is different but I found that worked best for me x wishing you lots of love & luck for the coming week, be kind to yourself x