1dp5dt Argument

[Goingforgold]

Has anyone had a successful outcome, when they have had argument 1day after transfer. It was small a small argument but I did get angry and shouted. Probably hormones. Have I wrecked everything? Positive success stories please. Argument probably last 5 mins but felt like 20mins.

[raverg]

The forum is pretty quiet tonight and I noticed that you didn’t get any replies at a time when you may need a bit of reassurance. I don’t have a positive story for this particular situation, but we all get stressed and anxious and especially have heightened emotions on all of these hormones when we go through IVF. Yet somehow women do get positive results in all of this so don’t stress about this particular episode and don’t let yourself get into a state of anxiety that will make those 5 minutes last for days in a row. It can take a couple of days for the embryo to implant anyway, so just move on and assume it didn’t affect it. Stay positive, put on a comedy, and try something like acupuncture for relaxation and balancing the emotional side effects of these treatments. Best of luck!

[Fruitandflowers]

I don't know if I can be as specific as 1 day after a transfer but I have been super stressed immediately before and after transfers, or (more rarely) quite relaxed and took a little time off, and it didn't affect outome either way. The one that worked and implanted really quickly was probably the one where I was the busiest at work, doing crazy hours and renovating a house. And tbh my OH and I have had such shocking and frequent rows over the last few years (infertility and then the physical, mental and financial toll of IVF is hard on any relationship), it wouldn't surprise me if one had been straight after transfer. You won't have wrecked everything - just think of the situations women get pregnant in all the time or where they don't find out for a while so didn’t all the 'right' things, and probably did loads of the 'wrong' things. I know you'll be second guessing everything right now but I really wouldn't add this particular worry to your plate x

[Mrs_MT]

Oh no, I hope you are feeling better after your argument. I think it’s always better out than in, so it is good that you got whatever it was off your chest (instead of it lingering and boiling in your system). I hope the argument is now resolved. I think you are absolutely fine because as you say it was only 5 minutes. I think it becomes more of a problem if you are chronically angry/stressed. But do speak to your clinic for extra reassurance to put your mind at ease xxx

[Systema23]

hey

I can totally relate to your post. My partner and I split up just before my last transfer and we were defining before and after it constantly, still am when we breath the same air.

and my hormones after transfer made me like a raging bull. The good news is I am currently 12 weeks 2 days pregnant and currently sitting in an airport lounge about to head off to a 5 star resort for sone much needed relaxation and distressing.

One argument will not detract from all the other times you have stayed calm or laughed. My advice to you is learn to let go of the guilt and move on rather than stressing about getting worked up because of an argument, and please be kind to yourself. You are a strong warrior.

Xxx

[Hanj10]

I had an argument with hubby day after transfer and all was fine currently 9 weeks 😊 it’s so hard not to worry about everything we do but I find when I start overthinking and getting anxious if I do deep breathing exercises it can help to calm me down. Everything crossed for you xx

[Goingforgold]

Thank you for your support ladies.xx