I have always been ambivalent about having babies and knew I didn’t want to do it alone. Still, at 39, a round of “insurance” IVF egg freezing led to no eggs surviving, an internal infection and 1 week in the hospital.
Now, 2 years into a great marriage (with 2 step kids) 46 yo. Went for egg donation, 3 embryo transfers and early blood results show potentially twins (echo in a couple of days).
1- why is everyone else way more overjoyed than me? I feel neutral (to positive) and I keep hearing myself saying that my life is good with and without kids and I will wait until the danger has greatly passed in month 3 to really celebrate. Anyone feeling the same? is the peak of the miscarriage risk at month 3?
2- to my knowledge, the egg donor being 28 and in great health means that we have a higher change at a successful pregnancy than with my own eggs (see above) and the baby will likely be healthier. I declined genetic testing of the embryos prior to transfer to minimize embryo risk (and you can test later). And with Epi genetics, the kid/s will have some maneurism and DNA influenced by me. Am I correct?
3- I have stopped all things raw cheese, meat, alcohol, and heavy lifting / exercise. I have been doing some light stretching. Caffeine is down to one espresso a day, and that’s it. I also wear a CGM to monitor my sugar spikes as recommended by a friend who got gestational diabetes. I don’t have diabetes but I will likely get pre-diabetes if I continue like this. I am reading recommendations about pineapple? What else? Is there a recommended list of dos and donts?