Hi all. Not posted for a while but I found out today that the lady I shared eggs with in my first cycle gave birth to her baby at the beginning of the year. Also that the second lady I shared eggs with unfortunately didn't concieve but she has a frozen embryo to try and she is having a go this month. I'm so happy for the first and crossing everything for the second. I'm lucky enough to be in week 27 (touch wood) and was just wondering how anyone else who donated eggs or shared eggs considered how to discuss this with their child? I know I'm a long way off but I've been thinking, it's a beautiful but also important thing to tell my (hopefully) future child, that she has a genetic connection to someone out there. Ive been keeping a diary for her to read when she is older but I wanted to sort of be open from the start and was wondering how you'd explain it to a child? Obviously a simplistic and easy to understand way. I don't want it to be something I tell her when she's older, I want her always to know in one way or another? Seems silly I'm thinking about it now - I think focussing on each new development is helping not to focus on the worries that all IVF couples go through from start to finish. Helps to plan as if she definitely will get here now rather than pray nothing goes wrong all the time as it wasn't helping me cope very well.
I/we don't get to know who the couples are I only get to know if they have babies and then, one day when those babies are 18 they can find me if they want but they don't have to. But I always want our little one to know I think it's a wonderful thing and so important for her to know. Hopefully. One day all being well. I don't want it to be a dirty secret or shame that comes out when she is a teenager because it's not something nasty it's something incredible and I've never been ashamed or worried about it. But at the same time it's obviously a delicate matter. How would all of you handle it?