Alcohol a month before FET

[Siothew12]

Hey all

I wanted to know peoples opinions on this. I have not had any alcohol from January until June this year. I did two egg retrievals and we have 10 frozen embryos. We didn’t manage to do a fresh transfer due to unexpected complications with my egg retrieval.

Anyway I am fine now and my clinic has said we can do a FET whenever. My husband and I are going to Italy on Saturday for 6 days where I was finally planning on drinking some red wine and enjoying myself. My cycles have been lengthened since two egg retrievals and it will work out that I will 1) either have my period on 14th July and ovulation will occur on 6th August for transfer or 2) I wait for my period on 20th august and ovulate on 12th September for transfer.

I don’t want to budge on the drinking early July. My husband and I have been through a lot in the past 6 months and we need the relief. Mentally however I am also struggling with the waiting around. If I go for a transfer early August having had a decent amount of alcohol the month before in Italy (I don’t plan on drinking after) do we think this will impact my chances of success? If so, do we think I should wait until September instead to transfer? I’m thinking we’ve already made our embryos so surely the alcohol will be out of my system by early August but just wondering what everyone’s thoughts are?

Thanks all x

[CornflowerMoon]

My thoughts... go and enjoy yourself, make the most of it. You deserve it!

[Solly-44]

I’m 100% on team go, have a drink, enjoy yourself! I don’t think it will make a single bit of difference x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi Siothew. My feelings are to enjoy yourselves. No need to overdo it. Just be careful

, so your bodies are in good nick when you get home. Fingers crossed for the transfer. Diane -partner

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100% have a drink and enjoy yourself, I drank in the month before, and I even had a glass of wine the evening before my FET and my daughter is 11 weeks old - i think it helped that I wasn’t stressed and feeling like there was huge pressure because I was sacrificing everything but instead the FET was just something we were doing as life continued. Good luck x

[Siothew12]

Thanks so much for all your responses guys! Super helpful and maybe I should stop guilt tripping myself all the time about enjoying myself for a few days! Crazy what infertility makes you feel guilty about!

Thanks all for sharing your thoughts x

[Eloquentia]

Definitely enjoy what Italy has to offer! Once you start the drugs for the FET, of course, you should stop drinking.

[Habibi87]

having a good time is the best thing you can do! The embryos are already there waiting for you xx

[Twiglet2]

You’ve done the hard part the embryos are already made go enjoy yourself and still have the transfer! The round that worked for us was a FET where I drank (heavily) a few weeks before at a night out … then the clinic opened up again as it had been shut during covid!

All the ones before where I was t-total and following all the ridiculous expectations fertility books and Instagram pages can put on us didn’t work!

I think personally a trip to Italy with lots of wonderful food and drink is one of the best possible ways to prepare your mind and body for a nice relaxed transfer 😊💜 xx

[MontsJ]

I’d definitely be having a drink! You’ve done the hard part creating embryos as healthy as they can be. Enjoy

[AshleyJB]

I went out for a couple of cocktails with the girls the month before FET, no regrets, the way I saw it was a couple of mojitos wasn't going to harm an embryo that was in the freezer! I like you had lived an alcohol free life for about 9 months! Sometimes you have to feel like you again and let your hair down. Enjoy the wine! You deserve a treat. This is tough! xx

[Positive20]

Enjoy yourself! Xxx

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I drank moderatey up to transfer and all is well currently 20 weeks pregnant , this is a hard enough journey have the wine x good luck x