Chemical pregnancy first experience - any recovery tips?

[Minniemouse88]

Hi, Reaching out once again for your experiences and tips. After 2 BFNs (March and May) I had a slightly different outcome this month with a very low HCG followed by gradual bleeding and confirmed chemical.

As my husband has azoospermia, this is the furthest we've ever been to pregnancy so it has been tough. For the first time in this IVF journey I've had to take a few days off work to process it all.

I'm now experiencing fatigue and headaches and generally just a bit 'spaced out.' Does anyone have experience of this and how quickly did you start to feel a bit better?

Mine was a natural FET with just one lubion injection per day this time, so wasn't expecting as much of a hormone withdrawal effect.

I guess it's all a learning curve.

Sending love and hope to you all and as always thanks for taking the time to read my post x

[Saskia9]

Hey, when I had my first chemical I felt weird and dizzy for a day or two but it went away quickly. With my second chemical I felt fine.

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Saskia9]

Thank you. I think it must have been a hormone drop thing as headaches seem to have stopped now. X

[Hidden]

I’m so sorry.. I can imagine it’s tough I’ve had a chemical and a miscarriage a bit further along . No dizziness with the chemical but with miscarriage, the day before it happened I was very dizzy and I thought I was going to pass out. In both cases I felt physically normal after a couple of days I think

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry to hear you had such a bad time of it - I hope you are well recovered and doing okay.❤️ I read dizziness is quite a normal response to hormones dropping. Thankfully I feel much more normal today so worry over. Take care and thank you xx

[FierceGrace85]

hey, so sorry that you are having this experience. I’ve had this experience. It’s really hard, because you allow yourself to get your hopes up and you know that you were pregnant, even though it was brief. It’s still a loss. It’s an early loss, but still a loss. I had to allow myself space and time to process it and feel some grief. I also used the time to treat myself and do all the things I love that I couldn’t do if I was pregnant (eat medium-rare steak and blue cheese, go to a spinning class, running, boxing etc. dye my hair! Get a full body deep tissue massage. Have a caffeinated tea!) basically, I pampered and nurtured myself until I felt better. It’s such a tough process. Sending much love x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to FierceGrace85]

Thank you for this, it really does make me feel less alone. I did exactly as you said yesterday and went for a good run, which I haven't done for a few weeks then indulged in some sugary treats. It felt really empowering. I think we forget how much we give up in this process! Take care and sending much love back ❤️

[Skittles11]

Hey lovely. Am so sorry to hear you have had this experience, I know how tough it can be. My first loss was a chemical and it is a hard thing to get through. I think the spaced out feeling can be linked to drop in hormones as you say but also the experience you are having is not an easy one. I have had times going through everything where I have felt numb and like not really "with it" if that connects at all with what you're experiencing. I agree with some of the other advice in that treating yourself is defo something I would recommend xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Skittles11]

Thanks again Skittles for sharing your experience - it really helps. Thankfully I'm feeling much more myself today. I think it must have been the hormone drop yesterday - I literally stared at walls for ages and had bad headaches, which is not like me. Going for a little outing to an Aquarium with husband tomorrow so looking forward to staring at a few fish instead of walls! 😂 Thank you again xx

[HedgehogMad]

Hi lovely sorry to hear this. Mine was a chemical too and it just felt like a slightly more be painful period. But I think it's different for everyone and of course all the stress can cause fatigue too. Make sure to be kind to yourself ♥️Interestingly out of all our transfers, our two brief positives were both on completely natural FETs (our other ones with progesterone/steroids etc were all straight BFNs). I do wonder whether natural is the way to go (for those of us with no identified lining/ovulation problems)

[Minniemouse88 in reply to HedgehogMad]

Thank you. I'm really sorry for your recent result too although I hope, like me, it has given you a spark of hope that our little embryos can get comfy. Yes, I think natural rather than HRT seems to be working for me although I had a wee bit of progesterone (1 lubion injection) but began spotting/ bleeding a bit prematurely so considering a bit more next time. Sending love xx