A bit of moral support - FET number 3; 3dp5dt and feeling like I'm out again

[Minniemouse88]

Hello lovely ladies,I hope you are all holding up well.

I know, it's early but I'm convinced transfer number 3 hasn't worked - feel exactly as I did for the last two transfers.

I'm struggling to concentrate at work and quite tearful today. Not sure how I'll get through to test day at this rate!

Sorry for the negativity, promised myself I'd not do this, but here I am again 🤷❤️xx

[Yellowlove]

Hey, I totally hear you on this, I’m actually a little further along in the two week wait, at 10dp5dt (FET 2) and have had a lot of those days, as I’m not feeling much. It’s so emotionally hard on us with all the sacrifices and changes we make and the hormones in our systems. The stress of previous negative cycles is the worst, and carries over into subsequent cycles. You are human so don’t beat yourself up for feeling this way! We don’t know until we know, hope you get a positive x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Yellowlove]

Thank you for your kind words. It's very true that you feel haunted by previous failed cycles and it always seems to be day 3/4 for me. Well done on surviving so far. You are right, we don't know (even though we feel we do). I really hope the next few days bring you a positive. Good luck 🍀💕

[Yellowlove in reply to Minniemouse88]

Thank you so much, hope you do too! Take one day at a time at this stage and put yourself first! We always expect the worst, but like my acupuncturist keeps telling me, your ticket has to come up some time because nothing ever remains the same. X.

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Just take each day as it comes be kind to yourself Keep talking to your OH - rest when you can - eat a healthy diet & have a wee treat every couple of days - pamper yourself Have you tried acupuncture for your stress levels -may be helpful

Thinking of you

Janet

[Minniemouse88 in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you Janet, I haven't yet tried accupuncture but might give it a go. I'm doing yoga, walking and eating well and trying not to worry too much about being a bit 'under par' at work. Thank you 😊💞

[LuxFleur]

Oh lovely, three days out from your transfer is no time at all. The embryo hasn't even had a chance to finish implanting yet if it's done so, so you wouldn't have any "symptoms" anyway. But most people don't have symptoms that tell them it worked. All the emotions and stress, and the drugs for FET, means you will or won't get any sensations that can be called symptoms anyway, regardless of the outcome. Try to stay strong and distract yourself. It's a marathon and not a sprint. Take the day an hour at a time if you have to. The drugs will make you feel all the things—tired, emotional. bloated, cramps, all of it. Or you might not react to the drugs very much and that's normal too. Try to be easy on yourself. The time will pass. x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to LuxFleur]

Thank you so much. Definitely been an hour at a time kind of day today! Day 3 is seeming to be my 'meltdown day'. Hard to explain but around this time I feel everything sort of relax inside and drop, which triggers my anxiety. You're right it could be the meds and not worth second guessing. Thank you for your reassuring and lovely words. Sending best wishes back xx 💕

[AuroraXen]

It's completely natural to feel negative - I think it's a self-preservation thing sometimes, we get used to disappointment and almost expect things not to work. Remember that everyone dealing with infertility feels that way, that they'll never see a BFP/never get to 12 weeks/never get to hold that healthy baby in their arms... until they do! I never had a snifter of a BFP during all my IVF cycles and transfers, and got to a point where I couldn't believe people actually get pregnant. But they do, and I did, and everything crossed, it will happen for you. There's every reason to believe this time could be it for you 😘 Symptoms or lack thereof aren't relevant at such an early point, so try not to worry about them (I know it's much easier said than done!) Be kind to yourself and try to take some time to rest and relax in the 2WW. Wishing you all the best xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to AuroraXen]

So nice to hear, congratulations and thank you for sharing. It does feel like a bit of a hamster wheel at times so good to hear lovely success stories. Thank you x💕

[Givemesunshine1]

hi,

I’ve had 4 transfers all BFN. The first 3 I had all the symptoms & the last one I only had dizziness on one of the days. Other than that I felt normal. It was still BFN.

You can’t tell if your pregnant by symptoms I think the medication masks a lot of it.

[Anoncasper]

Hello Minniemouse88, please don’t write yourself off just yet.

I did exactly what you are doing with my 3rd FET. All of my symptoms were exactly the same but this time round I had a positive result.

Our body reacts differently in each round and the meds don’t help so please don’t stress yourself.

I wish you all the luck in the world xxx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Anoncasper]

Ah, thank you, this really helps keep me hopeful, thank you Xxx

[Anoncasper in reply to Minniemouse88]

Anytime. Stay positive ❤️ x

[HedgehogMad]

So sorry you are going through this, it's so hard and gets harder with every BFN. I was the same on transfer no 3, similar story to you, male factor infertility, high quality day 5 blastocysts each time and perfect lining. Worked myself into such a state by no.3. unfortunately it didn't work but by the next one I managed to stay more calm and distract myself - I don't think it has any bearing on the outcome but certainly makes the process slightly less traumatic. Best to distract yourself as much as you can, wishing you all the best for a positive outcome 🤞

[Minniemouse88 in reply to HedgehogMad]

Thank you 🙂x

[Mcher]

Hello, I know its hard but try and be kind to yourself. As others have written you wouldn't really feel anything this early anyway. The best advise someone gave me regarding past negative cycles as we go into another was - the body has no memory of the previous cycles, each one is different. Best of luck xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Mcher]

Thank you 🙂x

[Hidden]

It’s far too early! I know previous experience has clouded your judgement but try not to let it as each transfer is different. Dare to hope!!!

Please look after yourself- eat well, try some nice walks, meditate- I used the mindful IVF app during the TWW. Saw my acupuncturist and relaxed as much as I could. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family.

Remember how much time, money and effort it takes to get to this point. I felt on balance that it was better to enjoy being PUPO until OTD.

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you 🙂

[LSandJ]

Hi, just to give you some reassurance I had convinced myself I was out. Wasn't having any symptoms etc and just felt it would be a no (just like all the others!) It wasn't ANY different! But this time it's a BFP! You can't call it... I now wish I'd stayed positive and enjoyed seeing that line! (I still convinced myself I was out because it was faint!.. but a few days later and now I'm told its alllll good!) All that stress for nothing, but now I'm gona allow myself to be excited!

[Minniemouse88 in reply to LSandJ]

Thank you and huge congratulations! Enjoy your excitement - much deserved! X

[Beingamum23]

Its protection mode - stay strong xx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Beingamum23]

Thank you, I'll try x

[LV2020]

Hi Minniemouse88, this is such a rollercoaster of emotions we are going through in the 2ww for sure! I’m sending positive vibes to you 🤗.

I’m currently 8dpt 5dt FET and have only had cramps but they seem to have gone now, no other symptoms.

You constantly analysing every twinge and ache and it’s so hard to distract your mind. I’ve found reflexology has helped get me through so far, and keeping really busy at work.

I remember last time when I had the fresh transfer having more of the symptoms but maybe that was the different drugs 🙆🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️.

This is my first FET so it’s all new to me with what and when you should feel things.

Sending plenty of positivity your way and I hope all goes well this time for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to LV2020]

Thank you - sending you lots luck and positivity too xx🍀❤️

[PinkPanther1234]

Hi, you have had good advice already but just to add some reassurance. It is too early, though I know what it is like after previous BFN to try and protect your feelings. I did not really feel any different on my successful cycle and had no symptoms until after 6/7 weeks pregnant - and that was with twins. You are definitely not out yet. As hard as it is try to keep your mind on other things and keep positive, you are doing so well. Hope to see your good news soon x

[Minniemouse88 in reply to PinkPanther1234]

Thank you, really kind and congratulations xx

[Minniemouse88]

Hi all, Just a quick update as it's test day today. Sadly, I started spotting on Friday and it's progressively become heavier to period today so expecting my BFN from the HCG blood tests this morning. Thank you for all your encouragement and support. It's helped me get through these tough days. Take care xxx

[Purple_skies in reply to Minniemouse88]

Take care!

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Purple_skies]

Thank you so much. This time HCG confirmed a chemical pregnancy, which was a new buy equally upsetting experience for me. Trying to take a positive in that it tells me there is hopefully the potential for a pregnancy with the right embryo. Thank you xxx

[Purple_skies in reply to Minniemouse88]

You are a strong lady! Will pray for you..