5 weeks - heavy bleeding (potentially sensitive)

[Rubyr3d]

Hi All, I’ve been through a whirlwind over the last few days.

BFP since 7dp5dt and with tests getting stronger every 48hrs up to 13dp5dt.

Then on 14dp5dt I started to see dark brown and watery blood in the morning. By the evening, it was full on heavy, red blood with huge clots and pain.

Eventually, I went to A&E. They monitored me and kept me in overnight due to significant blood loss. HCG showing 1,500. Bleeding eased off a bit and they sent me home. It’s obviously too early to see anything on a scan (4 weeks 6 days) so they couldn’t confirm a miscarriage.

I’ve now been told to carry on taking my IVF meds and booked in to the early pregnancy unit in 10 days. I would be 5 weeks +1 today and I’m still lightly bleeding. My boobs have become sore since the bleed which I know is just the hormones which won’t leave my body quickly after loss.

This is torture. In my head I know this is a miscarriage but have to carry on injecting for another 10 days until the scan. I understand some people bleed in pregnancy for various reasons but I just can’t see it being viable after so much blood loss.

I guess I just wanted to reach out to this community because others are less likely to understand what I’m going through.

Hope everyone else is as ok as they can be today. This journey can be so cruel x

[Kmcdon]

Oh I’m so sorry to hear what you’re going through. I’ve been in that situation and it was horrible, particularly carrying on with medication when you feel there is no point. I posted about similar symptoms and although in my case it wasn’t a happy ending there were lots of people sharing similar stories with positive outcomes.

I think probably you do have to wait for absolute confirmation but totally understand the hell that is. I’m glad the bleeding has eased off as that is so distressing. Be kind to yourself and I’m thinking of you. Please let me know how you are and feel free to dm me as well. Xx

[Rubyr3d in reply to Kmcdon]

Thank you. I really appreciate your reply. The bleeding has just got a bit heavier again. It’s such a rollercoaster. I’m not feeling up to going to work and staying at home just means I’m in my own head.

[Pebbles345]

Hi Ruby,

I'm really sorry to hear this. I know how you feel as our experiences are almost exactly the same (I am 5+5 days with bleeding and cramps).

Have you got someone you can talk to about it? I just feel so angry and just wish it had been a BFN so I could start another cycle next month as I know this is going to put us back months.

When will you be 6 weeks? In our area we can be referred to the early pregnancy unit for scans at 6 weeks so im hoping to see them on Wednesday.

I really hope that you are one of the lucky ones and things do go your way 🤞🏻🙏. If not then I am always here to talk to xx

[Rubyr3d in reply to Pebbles345]

Thank you for your reply and sorry to hear you’re also going through a similar experience. It’s so tough isn’t it? I just want to be out of this limbo of not knowing what’s coming.

I have my partner to talk to and he’s doing his best to support me but I know it’s hard for him to understand. I’ll be 6 weeks this Sunday. I have an early pregnancy unit scan booked for 6 + 4 (next Thursday). Seems so far away.

Sadly, we are unable to fund IVF ourselves so there was a lot riding on this one.

Fingers crossed for you too. Feel free to keep in touch if you feel it would be useful x

[Pebbles345 in reply to Rubyr3d]

it's just so unfair that this happens. It feels enough that you have to go through IVF in the first place and then to experience a loss just seems so cruel.

The scan feels like a long way off but I really hope it comes around quickly. I've decided that I will watch films and tv to take my mind off things if at all possible.

Sending you hugs xx

[Sarascottxox in reply to Pebbles345]

Just wanted to reach out and add that if this does turn out to be a miscarriage/chemical... it won't necessarily put you back months if you have other embryos frozen. My clinic maje you have one 'normal' cycle between transfers regardless of if its a BFP or BFN.

My first fresh transfer resulted in a BFP but around week 5 I started brown spotting. Annoyingly mine never did get heavy but I was told to continue meds even though my gut told me it wasn't looking good. Eventually I insisted on blood tests and the second one confirmed HCG had dropped and I could stop meds. This was in March 22. I was beyond devastated. It was my first ever transfer and we genuinely thought we were the lucky few who's cycle works first time.

Our clinic advised I needed to wait for a bleed and then have one normal cycle before transferring again. After I stopped meds the bleed became heavier right away but was just like a heavy period. If you don't get regular cycles this is where you could be delayed but mine were fortunately and I got my next period 5 weeks later, so only slightly longer than normal. They say up to 6 weeks. They then booked my next transfer in for May. Unfortunately that was a BFN from the start but after following the same process, my third transfer was in July and I'm happy to report I'm say here in bed, very bloated and uncomfortable at 35 weeks pregnant! Worth noting I also bled at 5 weeks, 7 and 9 in this pregnancy but it was all fine (only light brown or watery blood causes by small hematoma).

Anyway, I just wanted to send out a story of hope. IVF is brutal and the devastation when it works but then stops is beyond cruel but keep going.. it can work! Xx

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So sorry to hear this. Do you have an early pregnancy unit ? I would contact them & see if they could do a second blood test to see what the hormone levels are doing. If the levels are significantly dropping then sadly that would give you an answer. 10 days seems an awfully long time to wait, Again so sorry you are going through this.x