Stressful egg collection and low vibes

[Annbiel]

Hi all! Just feeling really low after the egg collection from Yesterday and need to vent to someone who understands the feels. My closest folks, mum and husband just don't get it...

I had my laparoscopy at the beginning of January and decided to go for the next cycle of semi-stimulated IVF. I had my egg collection yesterday with a mild sedative, I didn't really feel anything but I was still awake. This was my third egg collection and I had 7 follicles. As I'm there I suddenly see lots of blood on the tools and the doctor said I was bleeding quite heavily. Next thing I know they called the main doctor to stop the bleeding.

Although I'm physically fine just sore, I just can't shake the whole thing out of my head... First the laparoscopy was mentally really hard and now this. It's like I'm freaked out by seeing all the blood and being in pain.

I'm back at work today, life goes on and I have responsibilities to attend to but just feeling so low. I was really excited about this cycle because this is our best shot in 3 years, I will have a transfer in a few days and my husband is excited but I'm kind of ruining the mojo 😞. Thank you for listening xxx

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Hey there, sorry to hear you had such a stressful time. Big hug. It is traumatic when things don’t go quite as expected and you experience complications. It’s bound to stay with you. It’s good that you are sharing it as it helps to process what’s happened. I had a temporary racing heart rate coming off the sedation and it was really scary. You forget that these are mini operations really. Thankfully my second egg collection was absolutely fine .

The whole thing is mentally and physically exhausting so no wonder you are feeling a bit low. Be kind to yourself & take things as easy as you can over the next few days. Talking to a councillor might be worth as shot too if you feel that’s something you would consider. Good luck with your transfer.x

[Joeysjourney]

Oh gosh I'm sure that was a fright! My BP plummeted after my collection and they had to bring back the Dr as I was grey, it's always a scare when things don't go to plan!

If definitely shakes you. I remember feeling low after egg collection and transfer as its such a build up to it, preparing yourself and so much anxiety and hope in around them. I think it's quite natural and don't forget you've a whole load of hormones zipping about! I think every round takes another bit out of you!

Hopefully the next few days reignites some hope and excitement! Don't be too hard on yourself and maybe do something nice for yourself over the next couple of days (something you denied yourself while prepping for collection). You deserve it xx

[ZiggyandBC]

So sorry it was so stressful! I’ve also had a laparoscopy (mine was to remove endometriosis) so I know how hard it can be to recover and have more medical tests and be poked and prodded. At my egg retrieval I very nearly fainted when they put the cannula in my hand as she put it in wrong and loads of blood ended up coming from my hand! She had to call another nurse to lay me on the bed in case I fainted! It was so scary and that was before I’d even had the collection! Any medical procedure can be scary and traumatic so don’t put any pressure on yourself to be feeling a certain way! Sending you lots of luck for your transfer! ❤️

[LadybirdLulu]

That sounds so traumatic. I feel traumatised by my procedure mostly because the Dr didn't explain what to expect and I had a lot of pain and bleeding for the days afterwards. But your experience sounds absolutely horrific. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It must have been really scary. I am now 9dp5dt and am a little regretful that I didn't give myself time to heal for a cycle before doing the transfer. Just because I think a lot of what I thought were symptoms (which have now suddenly disappeared) may have been from the operation and healing process. I just feel like my body wasn't completely healed and in the best condition to host anything. My fingers are crossed for both you and for me!

[StarsAllAround]

Hi Annbiel, I'm sooo sorry you have had such a negative experience. I had a laparoscopy to remove an ectopic pregnancy 3 years ago and was in a dark place for a long time it almost broke my marriage as we did not communicate very well. Have you thought about counselling? Most clinics offer counselling so ask yours if they could arrange a session sometimes talking through things to a complete stranger who just listens can help massively maybe your partner could join aswell. I would also suggest giving yourself a little treat and planning nice things for yourself and things for you and your partner to do together. Like a meal out, trip to cinema, a night away etc. This was what really helped us focusing on the nice things we could do together and we have learnt to communicate better. Really hope things get better for you xx