IVF at 29 years old

[Capri93]

A lot of people often tell me that I am young and time is on my side.

At 18 I felt something was not right with my body (periods were prolonged and painful, fluctuating weight) and I seem to have a phantom issue as nothing has been found wrong yet.

At 27 years old I had 8MC's last one in 2017. Since this MC I have never conceived again. But periods became regular.

So I went to my GP feeling like a failed women and had further tests, as per usual nothing was wrong.

I then asked if I could have fertility assistance and my GP reffered me to have IVF.

During my IVF assessments, they found some stuff... low AMH, lack of folicles, scarred tissue following removal of my appendix from a child.

However the IVF clinic said they will take me on and support me until I am successful.

So we started to do the usual IVF, it was a struggle as the FSH only got me to 3 good follicles, 3 basic and a few that were not growing as well. Anyways, I had a egg collection etc.

So 9 eggs were collected, 5 were matured and only 3 fertilised. The odds of a child is getting lower and lower...

We then had a call to say that 2 of the embryos are only 4 cell at day 2 but 1 is growing nicely but has some fragmenting.

This was the moment I felt it was all over.

I went in on day 3 and they actually completed a transfer for the 8 cell embryo that seemed to be a little fighter.

It is now the day after transfer and I am feeling anxious.

What do I do? How do I make this possible? Yes I'm young but I'm not producing like a young women. Any advice, help, anyone else under 30 that needed IVF...

Could use a IVF buddy where possible!

(Also felt good to get that all out, none of my friends u derstand they all have families and etc)

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

This forum will prove to be a great source of support for and I hope you do find an IVF buddy to help and support you Keep talking to your OH Try to keep busy during your 2WW - eat well - drink plenty of fluids and rest when you can Take any meds you have been given as directed

Sending you good luck wishes and a big hug

Janet

[green121292]

hi there, I’m 30 and, despite lots of people telling me time is on my side, I feel like it isn’t. I have Diminished Ovarian Reserve, so low AMH, few follicles etc. On the chart I’m looking at my fertility as a mid 40 year old.

We just did our first round with ICSI (morphology and motility low on my husbands side too) and we had 9 eggs out, 5 mature but only 2 made it and out of those 2 one didnt make it at day 4. We implanted our one remaining embryo, but I’m afraid I then miscarried at 5 weeks. Pretty devastating as I’d had 2 chemical pregnancies last year.

One of the hardest things is that every single one of our friends who are married are either pregnant or have a baby - 11 couples in the last year. They all managed within 9 months of trying and none had miscarriages (that they know of). Every pregnancy announcement or buggy I see is a knife to my heart, but I’m trying to stay upbeat and hope ghat my time will come.

The great news for you is that you have done the transfer, this is so exciting! In terms of making the next 2 weeks any easier, I say do something nice for yourself every day. Watch the trashy tv to distract yourself, get your nails done, do lots of walking etc.

Good luck! Xxx

[Capri93 in reply to green121292]

Hey girl THANK YOU!

That knife you feel, I get that. I always try to be positive or fake smile or just be happy for people. My boyfriends family is always popping babies out and I had to sit there at Christmas with them... worst day ever.

The advice on trashy TV is a good one I've been indulging in reality TV, which I don't usually watch but love island and geordie shore actually have me being that little more thankful for what I currently have in life!

The local area I live in is extremely high in teenage pregnancy, I used to Foster and a lot of the children would come and be 12 to 16 year old pregnant girls after the 3rd placement I had to stop as it was mentally damaging after a while. I thought it would distract me, it just triggered my emotions more.

Miscarriages are not nice and surely there must be something to do to prevent them. Doing ivf and misscarrying is my absolute worst fear at the moment.

I'm just praying crossing fingers and eating fruit.

Xx

[Weareback2]

With IVF/fertility training everything takes time, waiting on appointments, next scan, waiting lists etc. Always say to people to start tge process as soon as you can as it can take a few years to be successful x