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ivf embryo transfer 1st Nov after 1 failed attempt

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Hey all nice to meet you,

I’ve just done an embryo transfer on 1st Nov and do not have anyone to speak to about my journey so thought I’d post here. I am 39 and know the clock is ticking. I do not have any children. I felt I was ready to have children at the age of 32 not knowing it was going to be a difficult journey. We thought we could do it naturally but that wasn’t to be and at the age of 35 I sought fertility help but the first attempt didn’t work.

I am going to do a home pregnancy test today although I am aware it maybe too early (7 days after implantation) but there is apart of me that is anxious and wants to know if it hasn’t worked so I can get on and try again for my last attempt as this is all I can afford.

I do not have friends I can confide in to talk to so reaching out here. X

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Dotty0483

Hello Meli. I'm in exactly the same situation like you. I had my embryos transfer on the 1st November after first unsucesfull one in May. Luckly this time we managed to also freeze 2 embryos and if we are not sucesfull this time, next will be our last attempt. I'm happy to talk whenever you need. Very best of luck!!!

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Meli_ in reply toDotty0483

Hi Dotty I hear you. Have you taken a home pregnancy test or are you going to wait for the blood test?

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Dotty0483 in reply toMeli_

Ill take a home pregnancy test next Monday :) Last time, I started to bleed 4 days after transfer. xx

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Meli_ in reply toDotty0483

Ok that is really good Monday sounds like a perfect time and I assume you are not bleeding now so my fingers crossed for you. It’s important that we support each other through this 🤗

Hi Meli, I’m just two days behind you having had my 3rd transfer (2nd FET) on 3 November. I’m 44 with one frostie left on ice so it either happens this time or next and then I think we’re done.

The 2ww really is horrible isn’t it! 7 days is quite early though and might not give you the piece of mind you want. I would wait at least another couple of days but I understand if you can’t. I’ve been there. I’m telling myself I’m going to wait until my OTD (16th) but not sure if I’ll manage that.

All the best of luck for you. I’m happy to chat if you want somebody to talk to.

Xx

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Meli_ in reply to

Hi Hope yeah waiting feels hard. I do hope for a positive result for you too. I was cool for the first 4 days then started to think about testing my Hcg levels. Hmmm this isn’t a nice thing to go through which is why we need to be here for each other 🤗

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I will keep everything crossed for all of us in this journey. You will find that this is a really supportive group xx

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Yes I am finding this so far, please keep us updated with your progress xx

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Star3129

Hi Meli,welcome to the group of wonderful and experienced ladies here.You are not alone in this journey we all are either in the middle of cycles,waiting for miracle etc.

I am about to start my fet cycle🤞which is long awaited soon il be in 2ww so if you feel like talk or for anything feel free to dm.

Xx

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Meli_

Hey star that’s so sweet I will do. When are you due to have your transfer if you don’t mind me asking? X

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Star3129 in reply toMeli_

I was suppose to have transfer on 4th Oct which had to be put on hold as I had some stiffness in calves due to some drug and since then I was waiting for periods to show and now it showed so will have soon🤞

I went for a scan and was given Progynova (estrogen) will go again in few days and then may be I will know when will have the transfer as doctor has not given any dates as of now.

Btw I am also 39😬 had transfer in june which was negative,hopefully this time it sticks

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Meli_

Sorry to hear your first attempt didn’t work as well. I am using progynova as well. I hope your one sticks. My fingers are crossed for you 😊

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Star3129 in reply toMeli_

Thanks for the wishes hun💕 very much needed...This time would be my 6th transfer so very much well worsed what it feels like😬

I hope we both have our bfp🥰

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Star3129 in reply toMeli_

Hey how are you getting on.Did you test? Do you have any symptoms by now? Hope you are OK? Thinking of you xx

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Meli_ in reply toStar3129

hey I tested 2 days ago but as you can imagine it was definitely too early to test so was negative. I am now resting until next week for the blood test. 😊

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Star3129 in reply toMeli_

When is your Otd? I know the symptoms right now could be anything.

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Meli_ in reply toStar3129

Hey Star3129 have you had your transfer now?

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Star3129 in reply toMeli_

Tomorrow I will visit the clinic and from there I should know about the transfer.How are you getting on,when is your Otd?

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Meli_ in reply toStar3129

Also I have no symptoms right now and the ones you could consider as being symptoms could be anything I guess …

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Eloquentia

Hi Meli. Very best of luck this time! I am 39 too and we had one failed transfer in August. Second one coming up in December...I hope this one sticks :)

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Meli_ in reply toEloquentia

Thank you so much, my fingers are crossed for you please stay in touch so we can support each other 🙂

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ButtercupGarden

Hi Meli, fingers crossed for you! Hope it works this time. I'm in a similar boat, on FET #2 after a MMC last time. I had my FET on 4th November. Starting to get the itch to test too but it's too early so I'm telling myself to step away from the tests and wait for next Tuesday which is OTD. It's going to be a long week...

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Meli_ in reply toButtercupGarden

Good on you you have a lot more self control than me… my fingers are crossed for you x

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Rosesssss

Hello ladiesVery best of luck to all of u..i am on the same boat wish me luck this is my second fet.i have crossed my fingers. Tranfer done on 30 oct.

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Rosesssss

Girls do u have any symptoms? Please share ....

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Meli_ in reply toRosesssss

Hey Rosesssss I do not have any symptoms I thought I did the first time round but it was negative, how about you do you have any symptoms? 🙂

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Hi Rosesssss, I don’t have any symptoms at all. I can’t remember if I did last time. I had my transfer on 3rd November and trying not to test until OTD next Wednesday. I don’t want anything to break the little bubble I’m n now until it has to.

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KediT

hi best of luck please keep us posted. Crossing everything for you hope it is positive.

still behind just started the process and went for egg retrieval last Thursday I’m so anxious as I’m waiting for the results.

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Meli_ in reply toKediT

Hi KediT thank you so much, my fingers are crossed for you too with your egg retrieval please share how you got on. I found it a really challenging time when I went through it so the anxiety is normal x

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KediT in reply toMeli_

hi Meli the last update I got was that the 2eggs out of 4 were matured and fertilised. My day 3 fell on a weekend and on Monday when I called they said they will give me feedback on Tuesdays. Yesterday I got nothing even though it was day 5. The clinic said I must speak to the dr and he will discuss the results. Still annoyed because I was told that they will call me yet I’m told to speak to the dr he was doing deliveries yesterday and didn’t get a call.

I’m ready to change clinics although it might sound extreme. It is the principle for me and the customer/ patient experience. I mean why can’t they send/share my results with me? I told the lady at my dr’s rooms I don’t think the clinic understand what we go through during this process. She said dr said all is well… I don’t want to take her word for it I want to see the results and go through them with the dr /embryologist

I honestly feel like Iv had more information from this forum than the clinic itself. So I’m grateful for the opportunity to interact with the awesome ladies on this forum.

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Meli_ in reply toKediT

Hi KediT I can imagine that being really frustrating and upsetting for you. I always think it’s you should only have people involved in your fertility treatment whom you feel comfortable with. I always have the nurses speak to me instead of the doctor unless I have made an appointment with the doctor, is it possible if you can do that to help ?

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KediT in reply toMeli_

I did build rapport with both the nurse and embryologist from the time we were doing my partners tests to the time I went and they even gave us results. So now I’m not sure what is so difficult for them to tell me what the update is. Finally called drs rooms this morning and expressed my dissatisfaction. Il wait for tomorrow for the full report from the doctor. Will keep you posted

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Meli_ in reply toKediT

ok girl my fingers are crossed for you ❤️

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KediT in reply toMeli_

thanx Meli

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Meli_

I have decided to wait for my test after testing negative at day 7 it was inevitable but you can’t help being so keen sometimes when it comes to self control and wanting to start a family. I decided to post my result to help others x

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ButtercupGarden in reply toMeli_

Good luck Meli. Fingers crossed for you xxx

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Meli_ in reply toButtercupGarden

thank you so much xxxxxxxx

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Rainbowdreams82

good luck for your OTD. I’m on the 2 ww too. Had transfer 3rd November. So tempting to test early isn’t it. I’m also ill with a high temperature 🤒 so not sure if the drugs and injections are impacting my immune system.

Good luck everyone else in the 2 ww. We got this girls 💪🏼 the hardest time xx

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FirstIVFer

Hi ladies! Hope you're all hanging in there! I'm flying to Spain today for FET tomorrow. Im 38 and this is our only PGT tested embryo. I've had 5 round of ivf after a stillbirth in March 2021 so paying this time works🙏🤞 I'm not feeling amazingly healthy this time round. Work has been busy, moving house recently etc and feel a bit tired and run down. Panicking now wondering should I defer this cycle🙈 but I've been on needs for 3 weeks and had all my scans so not sure its worth it!!! Good luck everyone, my advise would be to stay in your pregnancy hope bubble as long as possible as early testing drove me crazy! Made me turn into a total neurotic 🤣🤣

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Meli_ in reply toFirstIVFer

that’s so sweet thank you for your positive words because it is a very long journey, when I think about it that way it makes me feel more optimistic 😊 Good luck with your treatment if you decide to go ahead with it this time round. I am saying to myself everyday now if it’s going to happen it will happen so if it doesn’t it doesn’t knock me too much and I will have the strength to try again 😉

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Dotty0483

Hey girls. I have another 3 days waiting until my OTD. It's driving me crazy. I have no symptoms. I had couple of times mild cramps in the evening, panicking my period is coming but no bleed. I don't feel pregnant at all :(

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Meli_ in reply toDotty0483

Im trying not to panic, I so get what your feeling. I still have zero symptoms not even cramp. I am also psychologically telling myself as there are no symptoms to be prepared for a BFN (and even if there were symptoms I am would tell myself the same thing). I am finding it lot easier to cope with psychologically this time round in terms of my mental well-being. I am now thinking the same as usual (looking forward to hitting to doing my high intensity gym sessions after the test result if it’s a BFN, may have a little tipple across Christmas, do some running, fitness classes and do things that wouldn’t be appropriate to do if I was pregnant) - it might not be the best way of thinking but that’s what’s helping me be less anxious and feel more positive about the future.

I have had a failed transfer before and was shocked it didn’t happen so as the days have gone by with this one my emotional and mental side has become stronger. In the begging I took a test at 7 days after the transfer and it was negative (somewhat inevitable) but now I am feeling stronger and have more composure. My partner is suffering from serious health issues so he is having mood swings, outbursts and can’t be as supportive as he wants to because he has his own fight to deal with but he tries a lot. I have my blood test some point next week if it’s positive or negative I will let everyone on here know by posting 😃 I try to stay positive as positivity makes the world go round 💕

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Meli_

hey guys I have had a BFN on this try it’s my second go after trying for around 6 years. I have had a roller coaster of emotions and feel quite disappointed but still have some hope for the future. I have just moved home so that is stressful and has me feeling disorganised but working on trying to get a routine together so I can be healthy. I’ve drowned my sorrows, eaten all the foods I want have taken time out for a couple of weeks but now I’m working on being focused again and being positive

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Meli_

hey guys I have had a BFN on this try it’s my second go after trying for around 6 years. I have had a roller coaster of emotions and feel quite disappointed but still have some hope for the future. I have just moved home so that is stressful and has me feeling disorganised but working on trying to get a routine together so I can be healthy. I’ve drowned my sorrows, eaten all the foods I want have taken time out for a couple of weeks but now I’m working on being focused again and being positive

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