I’ve just done an embryo transfer on 1st Nov and do not have anyone to speak to about my journey so thought I’d post here. I am 39 and know the clock is ticking. I do not have any children. I felt I was ready to have children at the age of 32 not knowing it was going to be a difficult journey. We thought we could do it naturally but that wasn’t to be and at the age of 35 I sought fertility help but the first attempt didn’t work.
I am going to do a home pregnancy test today although I am aware it maybe too early (7 days after implantation) but there is apart of me that is anxious and wants to know if it hasn’t worked so I can get on and try again for my last attempt as this is all I can afford.
I do not have friends I can confide in to talk to so reaching out here. X
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Hello Meli. I'm in exactly the same situation like you. I had my embryos transfer on the 1st November after first unsucesfull one in May. Luckly this time we managed to also freeze 2 embryos and if we are not sucesfull this time, next will be our last attempt. I'm happy to talk whenever you need. Very best of luck!!!
Ok that is really good Monday sounds like a perfect time and I assume you are not bleeding now so my fingers crossed for you. It’s important that we support each other through this 🤗
Hi Meli, I’m just two days behind you having had my 3rd transfer (2nd FET) on 3 November. I’m 44 with one frostie left on ice so it either happens this time or next and then I think we’re done.
The 2ww really is horrible isn’t it! 7 days is quite early though and might not give you the piece of mind you want. I would wait at least another couple of days but I understand if you can’t. I’ve been there. I’m telling myself I’m going to wait until my OTD (16th) but not sure if I’ll manage that.
All the best of luck for you. I’m happy to chat if you want somebody to talk to.
Hi Hope yeah waiting feels hard. I do hope for a positive result for you too. I was cool for the first 4 days then started to think about testing my Hcg levels. Hmmm this isn’t a nice thing to go through which is why we need to be here for each other 🤗
Hi Meli,welcome to the group of wonderful and experienced ladies here.You are not alone in this journey we all are either in the middle of cycles,waiting for miracle etc.
I am about to start my fet cycle🤞which is long awaited soon il be in 2ww so if you feel like talk or for anything feel free to dm.
I was suppose to have transfer on 4th Oct which had to be put on hold as I had some stiffness in calves due to some drug and since then I was waiting for periods to show and now it showed so will have soon🤞
I went for a scan and was given Progynova (estrogen) will go again in few days and then may be I will know when will have the transfer as doctor has not given any dates as of now.
Btw I am also 39😬 had transfer in june which was negative,hopefully this time it sticks
hey I tested 2 days ago but as you can imagine it was definitely too early to test so was negative. I am now resting until next week for the blood test. 😊
Hi Meli, fingers crossed for you! Hope it works this time. I'm in a similar boat, on FET #2 after a MMC last time. I had my FET on 4th November. Starting to get the itch to test too but it's too early so I'm telling myself to step away from the tests and wait for next Tuesday which is OTD. It's going to be a long week...
Hi Rosesssss, I don’t have any symptoms at all. I can’t remember if I did last time. I had my transfer on 3rd November and trying not to test until OTD next Wednesday. I don’t want anything to break the little bubble I’m n now until it has to.
Hi KediT thank you so much, my fingers are crossed for you too with your egg retrieval please share how you got on. I found it a really challenging time when I went through it so the anxiety is normal x
hi Meli the last update I got was that the 2eggs out of 4 were matured and fertilised. My day 3 fell on a weekend and on Monday when I called they said they will give me feedback on Tuesdays. Yesterday I got nothing even though it was day 5. The clinic said I must speak to the dr and he will discuss the results. Still annoyed because I was told that they will call me yet I’m told to speak to the dr he was doing deliveries yesterday and didn’t get a call.
I’m ready to change clinics although it might sound extreme. It is the principle for me and the customer/ patient experience. I mean why can’t they send/share my results with me? I told the lady at my dr’s rooms I don’t think the clinic understand what we go through during this process. She said dr said all is well… I don’t want to take her word for it I want to see the results and go through them with the dr /embryologist
I honestly feel like Iv had more information from this forum than the clinic itself. So I’m grateful for the opportunity to interact with the awesome ladies on this forum.
Hi KediT I can imagine that being really frustrating and upsetting for you. I always think it’s you should only have people involved in your fertility treatment whom you feel comfortable with. I always have the nurses speak to me instead of the doctor unless I have made an appointment with the doctor, is it possible if you can do that to help ?
I did build rapport with both the nurse and embryologist from the time we were doing my partners tests to the time I went and they even gave us results. So now I’m not sure what is so difficult for them to tell me what the update is. Finally called drs rooms this morning and expressed my dissatisfaction. Il wait for tomorrow for the full report from the doctor. Will keep you posted
I have decided to wait for my test after testing negative at day 7 it was inevitable but you can’t help being so keen sometimes when it comes to self control and wanting to start a family. I decided to post my result to help others x
good luck for your OTD. I’m on the 2 ww too. Had transfer 3rd November. So tempting to test early isn’t it. I’m also ill with a high temperature 🤒 so not sure if the drugs and injections are impacting my immune system.
Good luck everyone else in the 2 ww. We got this girls 💪🏼 the hardest time xx
Hi ladies! Hope you're all hanging in there! I'm flying to Spain today for FET tomorrow. Im 38 and this is our only PGT tested embryo. I've had 5 round of ivf after a stillbirth in March 2021 so paying this time works🙏🤞 I'm not feeling amazingly healthy this time round. Work has been busy, moving house recently etc and feel a bit tired and run down. Panicking now wondering should I defer this cycle🙈 but I've been on needs for 3 weeks and had all my scans so not sure its worth it!!! Good luck everyone, my advise would be to stay in your pregnancy hope bubble as long as possible as early testing drove me crazy! Made me turn into a total neurotic 🤣🤣
that’s so sweet thank you for your positive words because it is a very long journey, when I think about it that way it makes me feel more optimistic 😊 Good luck with your treatment if you decide to go ahead with it this time round. I am saying to myself everyday now if it’s going to happen it will happen so if it doesn’t it doesn’t knock me too much and I will have the strength to try again 😉
Hey girls. I have another 3 days waiting until my OTD. It's driving me crazy. I have no symptoms. I had couple of times mild cramps in the evening, panicking my period is coming but no bleed. I don't feel pregnant at all
Im trying not to panic, I so get what your feeling. I still have zero symptoms not even cramp. I am also psychologically telling myself as there are no symptoms to be prepared for a BFN (and even if there were symptoms I am would tell myself the same thing). I am finding it lot easier to cope with psychologically this time round in terms of my mental well-being. I am now thinking the same as usual (looking forward to hitting to doing my high intensity gym sessions after the test result if it’s a BFN, may have a little tipple across Christmas, do some running, fitness classes and do things that wouldn’t be appropriate to do if I was pregnant) - it might not be the best way of thinking but that’s what’s helping me be less anxious and feel more positive about the future.
I have had a failed transfer before and was shocked it didn’t happen so as the days have gone by with this one my emotional and mental side has become stronger. In the begging I took a test at 7 days after the transfer and it was negative (somewhat inevitable) but now I am feeling stronger and have more composure. My partner is suffering from serious health issues so he is having mood swings, outbursts and can’t be as supportive as he wants to because he has his own fight to deal with but he tries a lot. I have my blood test some point next week if it’s positive or negative I will let everyone on here know by posting 😃 I try to stay positive as positivity makes the world go round 💕
hey guys I have had a BFN on this try it’s my second go after trying for around 6 years. I have had a roller coaster of emotions and feel quite disappointed but still have some hope for the future. I have just moved home so that is stressful and has me feeling disorganised but working on trying to get a routine together so I can be healthy. I’ve drowned my sorrows, eaten all the foods I want have taken time out for a couple of weeks but now I’m working on being focused again and being positive
hey guys I have had a BFN on this try it’s my second go after trying for around 6 years. I have had a roller coaster of emotions and feel quite disappointed but still have some hope for the future. I have just moved home so that is stressful and has me feeling disorganised but working on trying to get a routine together so I can be healthy. I’ve drowned my sorrows, eaten all the foods I want have taken time out for a couple of weeks but now I’m working on being focused again and being positive
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