Is there any hope?

[PurpleWillow]

So I became pregnant with my rainbow twins (3rd pregnancy, 2nd IVF/ ICSI attempt). Unfortunately I went into premature labour at 21weeks and lost them both. My husband and I are completely broken.

I just don’t know what to do. I’m 33 with PCOS and I just can’t have a baby. Is there any hope? I don’t know if I can go through all this again.

Thanks for listening x

[Nenad]

I am so sorry for your loss, this is heartbreaking. Please don’t lose hope, you are still quite young. Were the embryos tested? Could be down to chromosome abnormality, or you can request further blood tests to rule out any underlying condition you may have. I’d be keen for more information/further testing before continuing on this journey xx

[butterfliez]

I am truly very sorry on the loss of your baby twins, this is so heartbreaking. There is no pain like it and I really send you both all the strength in the world. It feels like a cruel twist having had ivf/icsi treatment to go on to lose your babies. I hope you have support around you. It will feel like all hope is lost after this and you will be in shock/grief for sometime. I really understand how it is because we lost our daughter last year 34 weeks after our 2nd icsi round, and have gone on to have more treatment after too.

I can't give up hope as hope is all we have, one day you will feel hopeful again.

there is lot's of support out there, I have joined the sands online forums, there is specific threads for parents who have lost babies after fertility treatments and going on to try again this may prove of some help to you in the future.

Feel free to message me anytime. xx

[Babydust79]

I am very very sorry 😞! There is not enough words to tell you.. Please don’t give up, your dreams will come true soon! 🙏🏻

[Jess1981]

I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious twins 🥲 I had a late loss nearly 2 years ago ( and 3 earlier losses one before our first daughter) After losing Amelia and 2 early losses we did go on to have a sibling for our daughter Francesca- Eliza arrived in February this year. I was 40 having her! I don't have PCOS but I do have endometriosis. The rawness of the grief for Amelia has subbed sided but there are days which I still find a struggle. You never forget a loss like that but as time goes on it does get a bit easier and you learn to live with it and eventually able to live again ( it takes time) I hope you have all the support around you ti get your through this unimaginable loss that no parent should have to go through . Xx

[ForABabyPanda]

I’m so sorry to hear this!

[Squareark]

I am so sorry for your loss, it must be heartbreaking. I pray that you will get through this dark and traumatic time, and find some form of peace. While I don’t know you, Im sending you my best wishes in this painful journey.

[Elmo13]

I just wanted to send you some love. I’m so very sorry for your loss. It’s truly devastating. Please don’t give up hope, this isn’t the end of your story. Xx

[Applepie7]

Im very sorry to hear of your loss. I feel your pain. Thinking of you and sending you my best wishes.💜

[Twiglet2]

I am so so sorry for your loss😢 I hope the medical world gives you some answers and a plan for the future as I am sure there is hope for someone so young. Sending you healing thoughts and hope you have loads of support around you xxx

[FirstIVFer]

Please get referred to Prof Andrew Shennan as a cerclage may really prevent this next time. It sounds like a weak cervix?

[FirstIVFer in reply to FirstIVFer]

My waters broke at 21 weeks too and I lost my little girl.no reason at all but om now u der Prof Dhennan foe next tpregnancy hopefully and will get weekly scans to measure cervix from 12 weeks. If there are any signs of shortening he will put in a cerclage and it will prevent a loss x