BFN again- is there any hope?

[TheFoxes]

I am out again. Tested on day 9 and then day 11 and both negative. I just have one small reservation which is that my urine was clear as water both times - it always is because I drink allot of water and herbal tea. Both occasions I tested were at about 4am after 5hrs in bed.

Last time I had a BFN I was spotting on day 25 and bleeding on day 29 of my cycle as I always do. This time no sign of anything.

I just rang my clinic and the woman I spoke to said to stop taking my mediation and booked me a follow up but it then transpired she is admin staff so I have asked for a nurse to call me back. Should anyone other than a nurse or doctor be telling me to stop medication?!

I know it’s like 99.99% certain I am not pregnant but I feel I want a blood test to firmly rule me out.

Any thoughts? Am I clutching at straws?

[Millbanks]

So sorry to hear this It absolutely sucks.I would think by day 11 your test result would be accurate - but stranger things have happened. Your progesterone should stop you bleeding so this is normal.

However I would definitely wait to speak to a nurse before stopping meds - will your clinic to a blood test as standard or would you have to request it?

Hope you're looking after yourself - sending love xxx

[TheFoxes in reply to Millbanks]

Hello lovely. They don’t do blood tests as standard but I have booked one in for tomorrow. I need to be 100% sure. Feeling totally blue. Really didn’t expect something that come so easily to most to be so difficult. My friend and I started taking folic acid at the same time and she has had 3 babies in that time?! 2 friends have contact me in the past week about their forthcoming births. I really would be happy with just one! I know you and all the wonderful women on here understand. We’ll plough on of course and are strong and resilient but wouldn’t it be nice for once not to have to be strong and resilient? Xxx

[Millbanks in reply to TheFoxes]

I totally hear you - most of my friends are on to baby number 2.... One close friend in particular told me she was pregnant last summer the same day I found out my transfer had failed. She had her baby last month and it made me feel utterly crap. I felt very sorry for myself for a wee bit - then I gave myself a little shake and remembered that it's not a race and we'll get there!It would indeed be so lovely to not have to be so strong and resilient all the time - it's exhausting. The only positive about this is I'm finding strength in me that I didn't know I had. Sending love xx

[Lovemylion]

Hey lovely. Im sorry to hear about your BFN. I agree with u that it should be medical staff to advise you to stop medication. How many days past transfer are u? I would have thought the pregnancy tests are accurate. Even if your urine is a bit diluted it should still pick up some HCG, even if it's a slightly fainter line. No harm in doing another test tomorrow morning to make doubly sure though? Your period might be held off cos of the medication. It can vary from cycle to cycle. Big hugs

Xxx

[TheFoxes in reply to Lovemylion]

Thanks my love. It’s SO gruelling. I guess we’ll crack on with another round based on docs advice but 😐. It gets harder each try. X

[Jam-master]

Hey, just wanted to say I’m sorry, and you definitely should speak to a nurse and not just the admin! I unfortunately got a BFN this morning and I’m devastated, it’s just so shit. And I’m sick of failing!! The nurse I spoke to didn’t even say to continue my meds and test in 2 days. They normally do, and this time I knew so stopped anyway, but she didn’t seem to care at all! Just wanted to let you know I’m thinking of you xx

[TheFoxes in reply to Jam-master]

Hi lovely. Really sorry to hear of your BFN. It’s genuinely so devastating each time. Thinking of you and sending you love. ❤️

[soccerkt6]

Hi lovely, I am so sorry to hear this. I’ve been thinking of you and hoping for the best. Sending you a huge hug at this very shi**y time xx

[TheFoxes in reply to soccerkt6]

Thanks Soccer for this lovely supportive message. Love this forum. ❤️

[muststayhopeful]

I’m so sorry to hear of your BFN. Thinking of you xxx

[HelenJudi1]

I’d been looking out for your post! I had my fingers crossed for you and had hoped to read better news.

I’m so sorry... ❤️