Test day!!

[Jlee181]

Just done my test this morning of first ivf cycle an it's resulted in a BFN. Totally gutted to say the least an have done nothing but sobbed all day!! I done a 3dt this cycle as I only got 3 embryos so decided to do a 3dt because it was of good quality with 8 cells I let the other 2 go to blastocyst stage but unfortunately they weren't good enough quality to be thawed.. I'm definitely doing a second round just not atm letting my body recover an to get over this failed cycle does any one have any suggestions for my 2nd round should I let them go to blastocyst stage if I get to that stage etc. 💔

[Thierry101]

so so sorry, I’ve been where you are twice with the failed cycles and there’s no pain like it. Take your time to grieve in your own way and at your own pace, it’s awful. No advise going forward but sending you lots of love x

[Jlee181 in reply to Thierry101]

Thank you so much it means alot. They are going to try icsi for my second round as its me that's got the problem I've an auto immune disorder called graves disease an a low ovarian reserves but I just need time for myself so I can give it another shot thank you again x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi JLee. When I first started out in fertility, we only did 3Day transfers, as we disnr have the expertise to grow embies on to 5Day blastocyst. Syllabus got many successes, so hold on to that. You will be beyond devastated, but, feet together and look to your Frosties, who are waiting to give you a chance. Thinking of you. Diane

[Jlee181 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you Diane my frosties made it do blastocyst but unfortunately were not good enough quality to be frozen. My next go is with icis with RFC NI an if this dusnt work it will be private. I will hole on to your advice tho until I figure out when I'm ready to go through it all again thank you x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to Jlee181]

xx

[Livinginoz]

Hi, don’t have any suggestions but just wanted to say I’m sorry you’ve had a BFN. Hope you’re successful on your next round! X

[Jlee181 in reply to Livinginoz]

Hi thank you so much it means alot atm I'm just feeling abit devastated but god won't put before us what we can't handle. I just need abit of time for myself so I can give it my all again thanks again for ur kind message the people on this site really help alot knowing I'm not the only one having to go through this x

[Livinginoz in reply to Jlee181]

I’m struggling myself and the lovely people on here have really helped me too. We’re all different and for me, time is the worst! I just want to get straight back into it. I have to wait until Monday to confirm if my BFP was actually a chemical (I think it is). It’s so hard what we have to go through! X

[Jlee181 in reply to Livinginoz]

It really is its so emotionally draining. I'm wishing you all the luck an baby dust for ur next round x

[Anxiousintrovert]

unfortunately first attempts are often BFNs. I’m so sorry, just wanted to wish you the best of luck for the next round 🤞🙏

[Jlee181 in reply to Anxiousintrovert]

Thank you so much it means alot💖 hopefully when im back at my next consultation they will investigate more.an run more test to hopefully get a better outcome. Thank you again for ur kind message x

[Kitkat10]

sorry about this cycle, give yourself some time to rest and recover. It’s a tough process. My clinic only do 5 day transfers as they say they know much more about quality by that stage? I don’t know if there’s much difference in success rates between day 3 and day 5 though.

Good luck with everything going forward xx

[Catmumtogoose5]

sending you strength, love and prayers ❤️🙏🏼

[alma88]

Hi, I’m so sorry it didn’t work out this time for you, fingers crossed next time it works. Things happens for a reason and sometimes is better to have a BFN than a positive with complications.I’ve just came back from hospital yesterday after I had a medicated miscarriage a week ago( heartbeat stopped at 7weeks) which turned out to be incomplete and I’ve been badly hemorrhaging for 6 hrs till I’ve undergone surgery to remove residual tissue.If you ask me, I could’ve probably preferred a BFN than a miscarriage x x

[JB124]

so sorry that your cycle hadn’t work, I know that grief ever so well! Stay strong, give yourselves time to recover x second round tends to be better, the clinic normally learns a lot from your first protocol(first protocol is normally standard protocol for all) because they can see how you reacted to the medication and how your embryos developed and may suggest slight changes for the second to give you more of a better outcome or may not if not needed. You should have a follow up consultation where your clinic may be best to answer when it’s best to transfer. Wishing you all the best xx

[Crie1983]

I’m so sorry. I remember how awful it was hearing your first cycle has failed and the feeling of emptiness that followed. I just wanted to say I’m thinking of you. Xx

[Stylishinsa]

hi I am so so sorry .. I too like many here have been here so so many times… wishing you strength during this time… virtual hugs to you ☺️