Is it time for donor eggs?

[Bluedestiny]

After a very difficult 18 months we have had our follow up from our last failed round. We discussed various things but ultimately my consultant does not think we should go through another round, and I agree, 4 rounds later 1st total fertilisation failure, 2nd cancelled, 3rd double transfer but they weren’t at blast stage and 4th the same as 3rd. Retrieved 4 eggs on 1st round, 3 on 3rd and 2 on 4th. We have severe MFI so will always need ICSI but my consultant has said it is an egg quality (and low egg reserve) issue plus an endometrioma on my right ovary. Following all this he has recommended donor eggs and thinks we could get good blastocysts with my husbands poor sperm. I’m sure people ask a lot of questions about this but my mind is in overdrive at the moment. I would consider donor eggs but I just don’t know if we’ve looked down every Avenue but I don’t want to throw money away if the best option is donor. I don’t know wether to get a second option or what to do really and then if we go down the donor egg route would we do it in the Uk or abroad and what peoples opinions are on this.

Never easy and always bad news but we continue. Thanks everyone x

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

To help your research take a look at the following website hfea.gov.uk [UK fertility regulator]Treatment then scroll to Treatment abroad then scroll further down for Using a donor and follow the prompts for all the information you need

Good luck

Janet

[Bluedestiny in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you Janet

[Skittles11]

Hi Although our range of issues are not identical I have had similar things go wrong across multiple cycles of IVF. If you look at my profile you will see some of my recent posts asking about donor eggs and also asking about low stims to see whether that may improve egg quality. There may be things on there relevant to your situation.

I don't know that I can suggest much but I understand wanting to make sure every possible stone has been unturned. I would say it is always worth getting a second opinion. Has your clinic made any changes between each of your cycles? Has your partner had tests on the sperm?

Xx

[Hidden]

When our embryos weren’t making blasts by day 5 we were advised to go donor eggs. I went to another clinic and paid for a consultation to get a second opinion - you can just book it yourself and pay for the appt without committing to other treatment. For me the second clinic said exactly the same as the first and we pursued donor eggs in the UK - feel free to message me if you have any questions but might be worth getting a second opinion as really helped me make the decision x

[Bluedestiny in reply to Hidden]

Hi daisy thank you this is really helpful. This is exactly how I feel I think if another consultant told me the same thing I could look at starting to get my head round it. I just don’t want to feel like I’ve not tried everything. I’d love to message if that’s ok just to know your experience, who you used, Cost, how you’ve felt throughout the process etc honestly my head is fried at the moment but it’s expected xx

[Hidden in reply to Bluedestiny]

No problem at all xx

[Babyrainbow]

I did not have similar issues like you, however, my clinic in Netherlands told me that IVF/ICSI with our sperm and egg quality would not be good to try another round ( i had tried 3 IUI and 2 IVF rounds, 3 transfers, 2 BFPs both of which were miscarriages in the 6th week). They don't support donor eggs in NL. So i booked consultations with 2 different clinics in Prague for opinions. I had the same results in both the clinics and DE was my way to go. I did take my time to think about it and then decide on DE. I am currently 15 weeks pregnant with a Donor Egg (IVF/ICSI). If you need more details or just want to talk about it, feel free to PM me.

[Jules0277]

We had a similar experience with own eggs. We did approximately 5 fresh rounds and never anything to freeze, poor fertilisation rate and not a sign of a positive pregnancy for each transfer. We decided to use donor in the UK, the main decider for us was that the donor could be traced should any child being born feel the need to find their roots so to speak. Donor was also the next step for us as I wanted a chance of carrying our child.

We have had 2 transfers with donor eggs and had a positive pregnancy each time, our next issue is not miscarrying. We had a blighted ovum followed by a biochemical.

Take time to research options. Donor eggs in UK now don’t have a waiting list as they used to have so it’s all very quick and a lot simpler than having your own cycle and eggs collected. I found it a lot less stressful.