looking for hope

[IVFat43]

hi ladies, really struggling to get through the 2WW. I’m on day 9 post 5dT and tested negative. Actual test date is in 2 days (day 11). Has anyone tested negative on day 9 and then positive on day 11? I’ve had all the right early day symptoms but since yesterday I’m having period like cramps. Really nervous as it’s my first cycle at 43 years old.

[H4rdx]

Hi

I can’t offer you any results, but can join you in the days before testing nerves. I’m due to test tomorrow on day 13 3DT. I haven’t had the guts to test yet. I also don’t check lottery tickets for as long as possible because I like to live in hope and also I imagine a false negative would be upsetting.

They have given us calculated test days, any other test days are unreliable because there may be left over hormones of not enough hormones to be detected. Keep the faith. I’m rooting for you.

[IVFat43 in reply to H4rdx]

Thank you and wish you the very best! I wish I hadn’t tested now and been sensible like you. 😌

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Try to keep yourself busy - eat well - take any meds you have been given as directed .Will be thinking of you on your OTD .Sending a big hug and lots of good luck wishes for the future Take care

Janet

[IVFat43 in reply to JA-fnuk]

Thank you Janet ❤️

[hoping2021]

Just a quick message. I'm 8dp5dt and also BFN. From my internet searches the vast majority have tested positive by 6dp5dt.

[AuroraXen]

I've done a LOT of Internet searches on this topic... Both of my last transfers I tested a couple of days early. Bottom line is, it's unusual for it to change so close to OTD. But it does happen. That's why they set OTD when they do, there are always late implanters. There's really no way to know until your OTD I'm afraid Lovely xx

[IVFat43]

Sadly period started last night so this cycle has failed. We have no frozen embryos so will need to think about next steps now. Gutted.

[AuroraXen in reply to IVFat43]

Oh love I'm sorry 😞 It's really so awful. We're back at square one too, over 20000 down and absolutely no closer to our dream 😢 Sending you lots of love at a truly $hitty time x

[IVFat43 in reply to AuroraXen]

Thank you. Sorry to hear of yours too. It’s gut wrenching. I’m going abroad for my next round, hope I have better luck there. Good luck to you too xx

[AuroraXen in reply to IVFat43]

Yep I am too. Need a change! Xx

[Lamagarden]

I’m so sorry, I know it’s devastating to get a BFN. We’ve just had one on our third round of IVF. We’ve always tested on the OTD as too scared to test beforehand. I’m 41. Not sure if this is helpful but we found our first BFN particularly devastating as I think we were a bit green to the process and on some level really expected it to work. So, whilst it’s still hard now, it’s somehow a bit easier to cope with, I say this to try and be helpful, to let you know, if you’re feeling very down, that you will feel better and try again xxx

[IVFat43 in reply to Lamagarden]

Thank you so much. You are right, it hurts a lot right now. But no doubt I’ll pick myself back up and try again. Good luck to you xx