It's so hard being good!!

Anyone else struggling to eat 100% healthy in prep for treatment?

I know this seems really trivial compared to what everyone is going through - but it is so hard to be good all the time!

I have cut out so many 'bad' things. But trying to enjoy events and family occasions without alcohol and treats is a struggle for me.

If I am not drinking everyone is assuming I am pregnant (I am not!)

Just a mini rant in case anyone is feeling similar! A small inconvenience compared to the actual treatment for sure....

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[Skittles11]

I gave up trying to be 100% healthy before treatment long ago. I eat healthy most of the time but I will no longer be as strict with myself. Like yesterday I went out for some tapas which consisted of halloumi sticks, bang bang cauliflower and gyozas which had a salty type soy sauce. I am visiting friends for a bbq this weekend and I will eat what is on offer there. I'd say my balance is more like 90/10 or even 80/20 now, for me personally I can't be "good" all the time, I've been trying for 3 years and that would just make me even more unhappy xx

[Hidden in reply to Skittles11]

Yes makes total sense - having times where you indulge cannot hurt surely, esp over long periods. I would go mad! 🤣

[Hidden]

Yes right, don't be so hard to yourself. Alcohol is a thing that I never enjoyed and I always try eat healthy all my life, so for the IVF I didn't changed nothing.

When I was kid I was used to see others women drinking and smoking cigarettes, that never eat healthy foods getting pregnant, so I believe that it is God wishes and choices, then I am praying. Praying and doing my part as going for IVF.

So if I can to say something to you is: don't drink to much alcohol but one time per moth half glass of wine won't make you incapable of conceive.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes so true xxx

[ZiggyandBC]

Yes! 🙌🏻 A few months before we started our cycle I went full healthy, no chocolate, lots of fruit and lots of fresh meals which most of the time I didn’t enjoy. I never drink alcohol so that wasn’t an issue to give up but the chocolate and the take aways is difficult!

I’m trying not to be hard on myself if I have a take away or a bar of chocolate instead of fruit and a fresh cooked meal but it’s still hard. I found it more stressful trying to eat well all of the time and I sort of got obsessed over it, like if I ate anything ‘bad’ then the cycle would fail.

I’m trying to focus more on keeping my mind healthy and happy rather than focusing on how much veg I can eat in a day! X

[Hidden in reply to ZiggyandBC]

Yes I agree - I am just enjoying my holidays and summer. I am overall quite healthy and have a 'normal' bmi.....can totally understand the obsessing about it!

Xxx

[Boo718]

Honestly, the best round I had was when I didn’t restrict myself. I just ate as I usually would and if I fancied a glass of wine or a piece of chocolate I had it. I spent all the rounds before that going crazy trying h to be healthy and eat nothing bad and all I did was go insane xxx

[Hidden in reply to Boo718]

Yes agree! It is hard as you have to behave like you are pregnant before you are pregnant! 😀

[Missl73]

Give yourself permission to relax a little. I was so strict my first cycle and it ended in miscarriage. I’ve since had a son via ICSI and I’m now almost 20 weeks pregnant with both these successful cycles I didn’t do anything to my diet other than take my supplements and avoid alcohol (I’m not really a drinker anyway). You’ve got to still have a life or you’ll go crazy! X

[Hidden in reply to Missl73]

Ah yes I spend a fortune on supplements and generally healthy!

Congratulations!

We have 1 daughter that came naturally after a failed IVF.

Trying to make her sibling 😀

Xxx

[HollyT7]

I was super good for our first which ended in chemical, pigged out on Chinese and all sorts for 2nd and 3rd and caught on both. I always think of the very overweight people and those who don't look after themselves and still get pregnant. You'll be doing more than most so don't be too harsh on yourself 😘