Am I being selfish?

[Cheeky_84]

I live in Scotland and haven't heard about 2nd treatment as yet but hospital states everyone will have a timeline for starting next cycle by the 3rd August. My husband has a couple of outings and I am really worried he goes to the pub after the event, is this selfish? I am worried it affects our treatment if he is mixing with other people. Honest opinions please x

[Cinderella5]

Hey, I understand why you are anxious about the whole pub thing but I dont think a one off couple of pints would do too much harm.....getting wasted is another story. Give yourselves a break I say, a little drink wont do too much harm and once you get a date in place you can lock things down and get on the proper ban. I personally feel that IVF is hard enough without being super hard on yourselves....we've been doing IVF for around 4 years now (gulp) and I think its better to have a balance of enjoying life in between cycles....maybe just not too much when one is impending of course!xx

[Cheeky_84]

Thank you, its not really drinking alcohol as much, as we still have a couple at the weekend but I am worried with going in to pubs that he catches covid and things would end up getting delayed, don't want him to bring anything home either x

[Cinderella5 in reply to Cheeky_84]

Ahhh ok, got the wrong end of the stick! To be fair we can catch it from anywhere, work, popping to the shop, getting a hair cut.....the list is endless. Its unfortunately just another worry on top of all the other stress and worry that comes with IVF! I think if you follow the guidlines with masks, handwashing and distancing (go Im so sick of those bloody words) its about all we can do honey. To be fair in Scotland we seem to be doing pretty well too virus wise so hang on to that too!xx

[Cheeky_84 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks, I know, I think I am just being over paranoid. Just feeling a bit down today, emotions all over the place. Just can't wait to get a date and then I m sure I ll feel better. Thank u so much for responding x

[Cinderella5 in reply to Cheeky_84]

Its hard as we dont want anything to get in our way but at the same time we can only try our best to stay healthy. I understand its stressful, whats not about IVF. Im desperately hoping we remain healthy for our planned transfer but there is only so much we can do. Hopefully once you have a date in mind it will lessen the anxiety too, waiting is the awful bit!!xx

[London_Lady1]

Hey I know how you feel. I was so worried about getting Coivd mid cycle and having to abandon things. Me and hubby shielded for the few weeks of the cycle. Food shopping deliveries, walking later at night to avoid the crowds in the park etc. People aren't great at social distancing at the best of times in London so we just didn't want to risk it. In Scotland you guys are doing much better than us in terms of numbers and generally how your tackling it (no more comments on politics I promise). Maybe when you start your cycle the both of you can be extra cautious to it all? Between now and then you could plan some fun things to do together while you're going through your cycle. We went to the drive through Safari. Great thing to do while social distancing, and lots of country walks etc. Do you have to take a covid test as part of your cycle?

It's just rubbish isn't it. Something else to think of while you have so much going through your mind. Silver lining is that by August hopefully the numbers will be even lower and therefore your chances of catching anything will reduce too!

Good luck with everything. xx

[cggregory]

Hi, Cheeky! You’re not being selfish at all. I wouldn’t be comfortable with my other half going to the pub in the weeks leading up to a cycle. Socializing/drinking in an enclosed space is meant to be one of the riskiest behaviors in terms of COVID exposure. You are devoting so much time and financial resource to this - plus you’ll be putting your body through so much. I think he can survive a few weeks without going to the pub? 🤷‍♀️ (Disclaimer: as an American I confess I don’t fully grasp the importance of pub culture 😬)

[Cheeky_84]

Hi, I wanted to say thank you for all your comments. Can't believe I actually doubted my husband, he said he wasn't even considering going until he knows what is happening with our treatment, i am honestly the happiest person today from being super worried yesterday, thank you everyone.