Infertility and Grief - Double Whammy

[Hopingforbaby_]

Hey everyone. I’ve been struggling lately. In the beginning the stims were okay. It was a new experience and I was seeing the results. It was pretty exciting really. Now that it’s time for my FET (on Thursday), I’m getting really anxious. I started estradiol and found that made me moody and a little tried. The progesterone I just started yesterday and I am feeling pretty beat. On top of everything a week ago today I lost a very dear family member and am grieving like I’ve never grieved before. I’m worried about how the stress is going to impact our chances of success and how that may be a further detriment to my mental health. Self care is really difficult right now. Anyone have any thoughts?

[Runcaptain]

I am so sorry for your loss. One of my best friends died suddenly last July. 3 weeks later we had a FET. It didn’t stick and it was really rough. I hit a really low place and have spent the last few months crawling back out of there. At the time the distraction of the grief (it really was all consuming) meant that IVF wasn’t my everything at the time. People could also understand my sadness & grief about my friend so I could explain away my depression because of it. I’d say keep trying everyday to find joy in something. I lost my ability to do this & it is only now that I am getting back my mojo for my life.

Remember you are loved and cling on to the people around you for support.

X

[Hopingforbaby_ in reply to Runcaptain]

Thank you for your kindness. ♥️

[IvfStruggler]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and struggles- doing IVF while grieving is so difficult. I have written this in response to so many posts but when I did my last successful cycle, my life could not have been more stressful. I was still grieving (I lost my mum a few years back), I was nearly fired from my job and had to have meetings to fight and keep my position and we lived with my dad who was dealing with terrible depression. I really felt I reached rock bottom. But the ivf clinic and reoccurring miscarriage clinic said this shouldn't affect the outcome of my ivf treatment and pregnancy and to my surprise this was true. I must add that things were terribly difficult for me and my anxiety and depression were really bad. But my baby grew with absolutely no problems. Take good care of yourself because that's really important (exercise, distract yourself by watching Netflix or something like that and keep talking about your feelings with those (family/friends/professionals) that can provide you with support) but don't worry about the negative impact on your treatment. Good luck xxx

[Hopingforbaby_ in reply to IvfStruggler]

Thank you. This is exactly what I needed to hear 💕 I’m trying to get excited for the FET and I really, really am, but I’m worried it won’t work or that I’ve somehow gotten too sad and the embaby won’t want to stick. Crazy I know lol but I’m terrified of another let down. I’m trying my best to think more positively and I’m starting to see a shimmer of hope.