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Hey. I want some help from here. I am really tensed about my health condition. I am 33 years old. My problem is that I cannot conceive naturally. Because doctor recognized me of heart disease. I have mitral stenosis. Due to which blood in my heart veins do not flow in a streamline manner. Rather its flow is in turbulent way. Thus, doctor said that I should not try to conceive in future. Now I am thinking of any other way to have a baby. But don’t have any proper information about it. That which clinic I should visit. What are your opinion in this regard. Please suggest me some good clinic as I am very tensed that what gonna happen with me now If I cant become a mommy.

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God Bless you. Consult a second opinion about your heart problem first. If you are healthy then you may concieve in future, for short term , you should focus on heart diesease.

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I personally wouldn't say unexplained is worse. Infertility is infertility and plenty of people with unexplained still go on to conceive.

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Oh Sara56 I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis & the potential impact on pregnancy. Your doctor will have your health as a top priority, I’m sure. So, while you could seek a second opinion, you may want to consider alternative options should you wish to start a family. Perhaps adoption, where you can nurture and love a little baby and show them a beautiful life, without risking your own. Best of luck to you, whatever you decide to do xxx

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Sara ask your doctor if you can get your eggs frozen. If you can then do so. Then get your heart condition treated. If not then get your eggs froze and hire a surrogate. I am not well versed on surrogates but I am sure there is someone here who is!!!

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Have you actually told someone that they being infertile is not important? This is meant to be a support group and people like you are putting others down during an emotionally difficult time. How would you know if unexplained infertility is worse? That's like me saying my pcos is worse than your unexplained as yours doesn't effect your physical health when mine shortens my life expectancy, increases my chance of miscarriage to nearly 50%, I'm more likely to be diabetic especially gestational diabetes, preaclampsia etc etc. However ALL infertility is just as painful and one type is not "worse" than the other.

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hey! so sorry for what you have been through,

I would suggest you to first consult some of the best doctors who would probably treat you of heart disease. Once this would be sorted out then you might conceive naturally.

If this would not be the case then you must have your fertility test or scans.

There is a certain number of test procedures that often individuals have to go through just to figure out what alternatives they might take.

You must not hurry in making any sort of decision. Here I guess no one could suggest you with a clinic as long as they have no idea about what actually the case is.

Having a heart disease is not actually end of the story. There are so many alternatives that you have to seek.

I would wish you all the very best. Show up to doctors who could help you out with your heart disease and yes if you would have suggested any of the fertility clinics get yourself a good search of their official website on the internet and get the sufficient information.

Many of them are doing the really great job in overcoming infertility.

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Hi there hope you are in good health. Really sorry to hear about your story. Infertility is a very hard phase of women life.It needs a lot of courage to face this time. Infertility is a common issue and I have heard somewhere that one out of every 11 women didn't able to conceive naturally. So don't lose hope, you are not only one in this boat. The good thing about you is that you didn't give up and looking for treatments like Surrogacy otherwise I have seen many couples give up and spend their whole life without kids. They don't even go for adoption. It really breaks my heart 💔.

Surrogacy is a blessing of science. It is growing very fast and many couples out there are getting positive results from this treatment.

It will surely work for you too. Do search properly for it. Talk with your second half. Things are going to be in your favor.Sending you baby dust. Virtual hugs to you love. Cheers.

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Hey Sara, I hope you're doing good. It is a wise decision not to go ahead with TTC as it will not only affect you adversely but also your baby. I know a relative in my family who was also warned by the doctors that she shouldn't go ahead with TTC however, she didn't take that seriously and later her health got so much deteriorated that the doctors had to abort the child. Anyways, I think you should look into surrogacy as that will be a safety gate away to have your child. It will ensure that your child is genetically linked to you and your DH as well. The only difference will be that the embryo will develop in the surrogate's uterus other than that the baby will be yours. The clinic I opted for I made sure that they were operating legally. This is really important for them to be operating legally and also if they have proper laws and regulations they will do your treatment as reliably as possible. I also made sure that they were providing the documents of the child this was something really important for me. Apart from that, I ensured that the rights of the surrogate were also being recognized. So I would suggest that you do your proper research on that. I went to the clinic abroad as it is inexpensive as well and is providing with a lot of services. I hope the very best of luck to you. I am sure things will work out don't worry as that will affect your health. Sending lots of baby dust your way.

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Sara, I know that certain health conditions pose great threats to your fertility. I am sorry for the loss and grief. I am infertile for 9 years. But my age has hindered my fertility. So after trying all the treatments, which failed miserably. Doctors recommended us surrogacy. Moreover, doctors as warned me if gestational didn't work for me then I may have to go for a donor egg. Which means that the child won't be genetically linked to me but to my husband. This unsettles me. But still, I am hopeful that this time, won't be failed. Because of experiencing different feeling and faith this time. I suggest you try assisted conception if all fails then go for surrogacy. Or consult with the fertility doctor. He would advise you more accurately and determinedly.

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I'm sorry about your unsuccessful TTC. I've also faced problems with conceiving and I know how you feel now. I understand that this is really hard to move on when nothing works for you. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do to fasten the process. But don't be harsh with yourself. Just give yourself some time. We were TTC for 8 years. This process can take even more time. Remember that you have a family which needs you. So don't put your TTC in the center of your life, because it won't let you to enjoy it. Don't give up and keep trying! I wish you all the best, dear!

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Dear, don't be tensed. I know you are facing the toughest time of your life. Every woman wants to have a happy family. But you have to do a little struggle for it. I know life is not a bed of roses. There are many thorns. You have to go with them to reach your destination. Consult a good fertility clinic. There are many good clinics. But first, you have to make yourself strong enough. You should be a brave woman. Life has ups and downs. You can't leave the hope. There are many alternatives to have a baby. IVF, surrogacy, IUI etc are some. Visit a good clinic and know which treatment would be best for you.

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Hey dear, I do understand your feelings. Nowadays most women are facing infertility. Infertility is like a curse. But you don't need to be worried. Your health is more important. If you are dealing with heart disease then first cure your body. You need to keep yourself healthy. Otherwise, you won't be able to enjoy your life with your child. You have to pass your life smoothly. There are many ways introduced by science to us. You can have a baby through them. I would suggest surrogacy for you. It is a blessing for many infertile couples. Surrogacy is giving not only hope but it is the most successful process. Do consult your doctor about it. Best of luck to you.

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Hi Sarah. I am really sorry to hear this. But I am happy that you came out and shared this with us. So many are there to help you. Get the correct guidance. Do check out clinics in Europe for the treatment. They are considered very good in this regard. I am going to do the same. Cheers.

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Infertility is the difficult phase of women life. It is very hard to cope with. Sadly it is getting very common. I was reading last night that in the US, every sixth woman is affected by infertility. But it is curable. Science has provided us with the solutions to get rid of infertility. Surrogacy and IVF both are great blessings of science. It is like the last hope for infertile couples. Instead of giving up in these hardtimes and spending your whole life without kids we should go for these treatments. Surrogacy is like a blessing, though it is banned in many countries which really made me sad. I do not know when these government officials will know the true meaning of surrogacy. But it is very affordable too in some areas like India. Well, good luck to everyone who is going through these treatments.

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Hey, I feel sorry. Women always want to be a mother. But sometimes it happens which is opposite to what we want. Infertility is common nowadays. Many women are facing this. That time is hard for a woman. It is all time painful. Be strong at that time. This is not in our hand. We should understand this. Never let your self down. Many people are facing this nowadays. It is common nowadays. Don't lose faith. My advice is that treatment is best. You should consider it at priority.

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Hi, I am so sorry. I know it would be so hard for you. Don't worry. I hope you will be a mother soon. Infertility takes a lot out of a woman. If this doctor said then you should not try again. I hope that you will be a mother soon. Please tell us that what are you going to choose. only then we can help you out.

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Hey, I hope you are doing fine. I am so sorry. Do you have kids before? Well, I think you should first decide which treatment you want to choose. If you want to go for IVF, IUI and surrogacy s that the clinic matter matters a lot. Don't go for any clinic that is not reliable and first does research about the clinic. only then choose the clinic. I hope it would help you out. My best wishes are with you.

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I hope you are fine. I am so sorry to hear this. Are you a mother now? You should choose a treatment by yourself. It will help you to figure out that whether the treatment suits you or not. Well, choosing IVF is great but it requires the best clinic. You should have to choose the best clinic to be successful in the process. My best wishes are with you.

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Dear, there are many options for having the baby. But you should first consult a good doctor for your heart disease. It would get severe with the time. You need to medicate it. Adoption and surrogacy are the options for having a baby. You can opt for any. I hope you get the strength to fight infertility. Best of luck dear.

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Hey there, sorry to say but this could be signs of infertility. Why don't you consult a good doctor? He will tell you better. Don't take risk of your health. You should take it seriously. Yes, if you are having a baby through alternatives. Then let me tell you there are many options. Surrogacy, IVF, IUI etc are some of the common ways. Every treatment has its own pros and cons. You can't say that this one is better unless you consult a doctor. Science has progressed a lot in this. It is not a big issue if you are infertile. You don't need to worry. There are many fertility clinics. Sending you many hugs. Best of luck for your future.

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I am sorry for what you are facing. TTC is so hard to deal with. It's extremely a worst feeling. I think you should consult a good doctor to check whether there is some infertility issue or not. I hope things go right in your way. Just don't lose hope. I wish you the best of luck.

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Hi msrubs, Thank you so much for sharing this. I was just diagnosed with PCOS. I am devastated. Thank you for sharing this and for making me feel not alone. Sounds like it’s one of the best clinics for surrogacy programs. I'm so nervous. Reading these posts gives me hope. ♡ thank u for your story.

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