Hi all. So, I had the early scan today at the clinic and they have confirmed it's an early missed miscarriage. I have started spotting already and they expect a big bleed and for it all to pass this week. I think this is also what people call a "chemical pregnancy", but the nurse referred to it as a missed miscarriage, so that's how I am going to refer to it. Also, chemical pregnancy makes it sound like it wasn't real!
Devastated, of course. Difficult to wrap my head around. We had already picked out names and I had imagined my pregnancy, telling everyone, and our soon-to-be family of five. After 6 rounds, we have decided we have reached the end of the road with our IVF journey. I am incredibly grateful for the twins that we do have from IVF, and we move forward as a family of four. We may look in to adoption in a few years' time, but that is a separate process that we wanted to go down anyway.
Sending my best wishes to everyone still on this journey. xxx
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Oh lovely, I’m so sorry to see that you’ve had to go through that. Even with those two gorgeous miracles, it’s still hard to suffer a loss, sending you and your beautiful family a big hug.
Must be so many emotions with deciding it’s the end of your IVF chapter as well. Always a warrior though 💪🏻♥️ xxxx
I’m so sorry. Seeing that positive test and have it go wrong is just devastating. Having children however grateful we are for them doesn’t make a miscarriage any less painful. I hope you have plenty of support. My experience of chemical pregnancies the bleeding really wasn’t that bad- like a heavier period but I have endometriosis so I’m used to heavy cycles! Even my loss at 7 weeks was manageable . A consultant told me you don’t bleed that heavily before 9 weeks or so. I was worried as I had haemorrhaged losing Amelia and had a blood transfusion. With the bleeding use pads as tampons carry an infection risk, also if you go through a pad every hour or so go to hospital. I don’t know the reason of infertility for you so hope I’m not talking out of tone here but I hope you are one of those miracle stories that has a baby naturally after IVF. One of my mum friends tried for 10 years and had numerous failed IVF she had both tubes blocked and was told no chance of natural conception - after giving up on IVF and acceptance of no children she conceived twice- and had 2 boys! None of the medics could understand how it happened! Life is powerful Xx
I'm sorry hon, sending you big hugs. I hope that this sadness also comes with peace of mind, knowing you did all you could. So, time to step off the infertility treadmill and onwards and upwards into the rest of your life. We've been there and it's a relief in a way, even when you don't have the outcome you'd hoped for, to finally put follicles, progesterone and all the bloody anxious waiting behind you and start a fresh chapter. All the best xxx
I’m so sorry lovely 😢 it’s defo tougher than a negative to have that positive test and then not, I really admire your strength and wish you and your miracle family the best of luck going forward 💜🤗 xxx
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