Second FET- anxiety

[Blueberry211]

Hello warriors ❤️

I have started the protocol for my last embryo from my first egg retrieval ( I had 5 day 5/6 blastocysts and only two were euploid on PGT testing). First one resulted in a chemical.

I was super excited and positive for my first FET however I am so anxious during this one. The experience is completely different now knowing that it can so easily fail. I am due for transfer mid march. If this fails, I need to start the process again.

Any wise words to help me get through this?😩

Wishing you all a lovely day 💞

[Hopefulmother]

Hi thereI know exactly what you are going through

I did a FET last month, the doctor said my embryo was perfect, my lining was perfect , everything was perfect. She even asked me what baby I’m hoping for and told me to schedule a 6 week pregnancy scan.

So I was shattered when it failed

I have very little hope for my last embryo as the protocol would be the same but somehow hope and prayer is all I have left to get me through so I would just say hope for the best and pray that this little embryo was meant for you ❤️

[Blueberry211 in reply to Hopefulmother]

Im so sorry for what you have been through. The same happened during the first transfer, everything was perfect and i had high hopes. It really shattered me when I saw the low HCG result.Thank you for your thoughts and prayers!

Best of luck for your future ET xx

[MrsOrangejuice]

I had a 'perfect' embryo transferred earlier this year and because of the way the embryologist and doctors were talking about it I was cautiously hopeful. Then got an early BFP, lines got stronger, good starting/early HCG, progesterone through the roof, booked my scan and I thought I had just been one of the lucky first timers. I don't know why but I got my HCG done again a couple of weeks later and did a FRER and things didn't seem to be progressing. Repeat tests showed no development although not sure when it stopped, and clinic said stop meds. Then the NHS waits were so long for FETs I had a private round a month later and although they didn't tell me the grade on transfer, pretty much the same thing happened, although I spotted a bit that time. We changed things for the first FET as I was convinced something wasn't right, but my doctors said it's just chance. They also said how positive it was to have gotten eggs, fertilization, blasts, implantation, some development - all stages some women can't get to, and meant lots of things and tests were ruled out, but it's hard to see it like that at the time. I got another BFP on the FET and that one worked. I didn't dare to believe it until much later and I was convinced it would end and I just got on with my life waiting for the inevitable bad news, but somehow everything's ok. It's totally understandable you're anxious, and I went into self protect mode assuming this one would fail at every stage and not getting my hopes up, and although that's sad, you can't do any damage by worrying or being pessimistic so just be at peace with how you're feeling which is totally normal. If you get your happiness, this bit will fade. If it doesn't work this time, it might the next, and just keep going as long as you feel you can and want to x

[Blueberry211 in reply to MrsOrangejuice]

Thank you so much for your message xxx I am so glad it all worked out for you! Xxx