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When did you start FET/IVF for second baby?

Just thinking if I'm lucky and this round of fresh IVF works out, how long I would need to wait from the birth of my first baby in June next year (fingers crossed!) to start IVF for the second one. I just can't wait to have my family, but definitely I will be blessed if just this one works out. I am day dreaming about the fantastic baby couple...

I would have loved to try for twins but the FS recommended to transfer just 1 as under 35 and first IVF attempt... although I'm almost 35 now. Was it your case too?

As always, thanks for your responses xx

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I’ve been having similar thoughts. We are starting our first IUI cycle at the end of the month (crossing fingers and toes).

We’ve been told by our IVF doctor that if it’s a possibility of twins it’s our choice and that if there is a possibility of more multiples that they won’t got ahead with the insemination.

Wishing you the best of luck xx

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good luck!! Have you made your mind up if you'll go for twins if that's a possibility? My FS was almost obsessed with avoiding it by all means.

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Yeah we decided we will go ahead if it’s a possibility of twins.

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I'll keep my fingers crossed for you, all the best xx

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I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you as well. Wishing you the best of luck xx

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I would just focus on having 1 successful treatment to start with. It is physically and emotionally draining, and you need to take time out to look after yourself. It's great that you are so positive, good luck x

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If you are under 35 and first attempt then your clinic will be under regulations to only offer one embryo to transfer due to the risks of twins- both to the babies themselves and maternal health. I would look at this before considering a twin transfer- higher risk of miscarriage of one or both twins, higher risk of prematurity, delivery problems and higher risk of diabetes and pre-eclampsia. The birth rate does not increase that much with a twin transfer (the pregnancy rate increases by a few percent). There are several posts on here about people’s twin journeys so have a look.

Re second child: there is no right answer. I would keep an open mind as you don’t know how you’ll feel after delivery; how many embryos you will get this round. There are lots of stories of successful first IVF but equally lots of disappointment too. Fingers crossed for first time success for you! X

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I’ve posted on here about my twins. They was born at 26 weeks. Doing well now but it’s been one hell of a journey and is still ongoing.

Also agree that it’s amazing to be so positive but the best thing you can do for yourself is take it bit by bit. My boys was my fourth and fifth attempts x

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I waited a year. But only because I had a c section and that is what I was advised to do.

I’m under 35, transferred two and got my little boy. A year later I transferred one and ended up with identical twin boys.

Good luck and fingers crossed for you x

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The thing is its been proved that breastfeeding is best for newborns, and that can effect egg production.

Have a word with your consultant and she /he will tell you the best , but most medical guidelines advise at least 6 months

Best of luck x

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I had a little boy from IVF and when he was 8/9 months I had a frozen embryo transfer. I now have a 9 month old baby girl and my little boy is 26 months. I really wanted to try asap for a second baby as I hated the process and wanted to move on with our life. I wouldn’t change a thing and feel beyond lucky every day. Hope it all goes well for you and you have the family you dream of, we all deserve it.

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Can’t really advise on twins as we decided we didn’t want them and never transferred more than one embryo. But I have heard the same things as others about transferring 2 having much higher risks and only a small increase in % success. Having said that, my cousin transferred 2, got twins and though she finds it harder with 2 than I do with 1 I know she wouldn’t change them for the world.

Re having a second later, I think it depends on your individual circumstances. There are plenty of stories out there if laides falling pregnant pretty much straight away with no. 2 because they didn’t think it would happen so soon and just weren’t careful. But if you are planning it then firstly it will depend on how long it takes you to recover from birth. I know they say if you have a c section then you shouldn’t have another within x period of time (think my friend said 2 years). Also, if you’re planning on breast feeding then your hormones are likely to be all over the place and breast feeding can be a natural form of contraception so you may not be able to conceive whilst doing so - my periods didn’t return until 10 months so that’s the earliest I’d probably have been able to conceive (there’s also evidence that high levels of prolactin, which you produce when feeding can cause miscarriages). I don’t know your story, but depending on your reason for IVF you may not even need a second round. There are loads of stories out there of ladies going on to conceive naturally after a first round of IVF - being pregnant seemed to get rid of whatever caused the infertility in the first place and my consultant said that it’s fairly common for that to happen. My sister is also having the same debate as you. She has no Frosties left so one of the things she is thinking is whether she could do a half round of IVF (I.e up to egg collection) fairly soonish after birth so that her eggs are younger but then freeze them and delay transfer until her body is ready for a second pregnancy (she hasn’t spoken to her consultant about it so don’t know how feasible it is) but that is something you could also consider?

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I had a c section and wasn't told to wait two years. Not really sure who to ask about that! If all goes to plan I would only be about 6 weeks from 2 years sho I guess its close enough

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It was just a random conversation with a friend who when talking about no 2 mentioned that it wasn’t an option for him at the moment because of his wife’s section. Don’t know if being an emergency section might make a difference. In any event I’m sure you’re right and 6 weeks won’t make any difference at all to things. One of my NCT friends had a section for no. 1 and I think no 2 was born 25 months later, again via section, and she certainly hasn’t had any problems recovering from it. Good luck with your second!

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