Strong pre-period vulva pain, 12dp5dt, feeling gutted

[Mahriya]

I’m starting to accept this cycle has failed too. I didn’t test early since I know I won’t be able to pull myself through work today.

Feeling like this and a pregnant friend who knows what I’m going through is insisting to go to her baby shower this weekend. It kills me how insensitive people are and how they give advice when they don’t know a thing about how this feels.

I didn’t get any sleep last night but I’m not able to cry either. It’s like a huge object is sat on my chest pushing me down. Only you ladies can understand this feeling 🥺I just want it to be over now.

[Millbanks]

I’m so sorry lovely. It’s so hard. But period type pain is often a good sign. It’s not over yet!I would 100% not go to the baby shower. I don’t care how much someone wants you there, if you’re not feeling up to it you have to look after you. They’re a crock of **** anyway in my opinion!

Xxx

[Mahriya in reply to Millbanks]

Thank you, I won’t definitely go to to the party. It sounds like a big event with a lot of guests in this COVID situation. Of course she had an easy pregnancy so she’s not worried about catching covid or anything bad. People normally don’t appreciate what hey have when it comes so easy to them. I’ll try to keep strong, finish the work and see what happens tomorrow. Thank you so much xxx

[Millbanks in reply to Mahriya]

No they really don’t 😔Sounds like a good plan. Sending lots of love xxx

[Kbear83 in reply to Mahriya]

I totally agree with you, definitely not to go to the baby shower. Maybe when you don't go your friend might take the moment to consider why and realise it was insensitive in the first place. Take care of you. I really wish you all the best for you test today. Xx

[Loopylu1113]

Mahriya when do you test? Doing one may put your mind at ease, either way you would have an idea? There is no way of knowing with any symptoms so please don't check out yet. You friend probably thinks the IVF will work at some point I find unless people have been through it they have no idea what we go through or the obstacles we face at each step. I have my fingers crossed for you!

X

[Mahriya in reply to Loopylu1113]

I’ll be doing the test tomorrow hun. I just decided not to do an early one so I can pull through work today. I got time booked from tomorrow so I can deal with whatever happens. You’re absolutely right, other people don’t have a clue and it makes me angry when they make it sound like nothing. I think I’m just overly bitter these days as well and can’t take advice from clueless people. Thanks for your support xxx