Miscarriage before first IVF cycle

[Chloettc2020]

Hi ladies, just looking for some advice/reassurance from someone who may have been in a similar situation.

I was supposed to be starting my first fresh cycle in the new year (NHS). Found out I was pregnant on Friday, knew instantly something wasn’t right (after experience with two ectopics). Thankfully they seem to have ruled out an ectopic in my remaining tube, but currently have a pregnancy of unknown location with rising HCG. The consultant thinks I might miscarry naturally, thank god!

I’m now so concerned about my NHS cycle, I know all funded cycles need to be complete within a year of consultation. Mine was actually in October & they wanted me to start that month. I was adamant I wanted to give myself three months to have a huge lifestyle overhaul which obviously worked! But now I’m so worried I’m going to have to wait even longer to start & potentially eat into more months of said year.

Does anyone know in a case of miscarriage if they put things on hold? I haven’t rung my clinic as I’m going back to the EPU on Friday for more bloods & to see the consultant again. I just wanted to have a clearer overview before I contacted the clinic.

I’m just majorly stressing myself out now, I haven’t even given myself time to grieve I’m so worried :(.

Love to you all x

[CLDxxx]

Hey lovely, so sorry to hear this 😔

Are you ok to wait for it to happen naturally? Wonder if they could offer a D&C otherwise?

I think you would need to have one ‘normal’ period before starting your cycle so hopefully that won’t delay you too much as long as your HCG levels dropped.

If you were to have a D&C it would help move things along quicker during this time and also afterwards.

Try not to stress lovely. Take care of yourwlef. Wishing you lots of luck. Xxx

[SunnyDream]

Hello hun,

That's good that it wasn't another ectopic. I know that your organism should recover after an MC. What does your doctor say about this? It is a serious matter and you'd better consult your doctor.

[sadievalentie]

Hi Chloe! How are you? I hope you are feeling better. I am really sorry for your miscarriage. It's not an easy thing to deal with. I am glad that you took your break. It's important for human body to take rest between these things. In my opinion, at least 3 months of rest is needed to recover from it. You should really talk about this with your doctor. It will help you clear your doubts. I hope everything is alright. Good luck! Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!

[Chloettc2020 in reply to sadievalentie]

Ended up being another ectopic unfortunately. But I’m on the mend now. My clinic have told me to contact them the beginning of Feb so will see what happens. Thank you for your lovely message. I hope all is well with yourself xx

[LorrieWalden]

Hi Chloe! How are you? I am sorry that things are not working out for you. It's a good thing you are patient. Some people just rush into things and then ask what they did wrong. You really need to share these things with your doctor. I am sure they will understand this. A human body takes time to recover not just physically but also mentally. I hope everything works out for you. Just consult this with your clinic. Good luck. Take care. Stay blessed. Bye!

[Chloettc2020]

It actually turned out to be ectopic so they had to take my tube which was slightly gutting as all I’m left with is one ovary 😩. Onwards & upwards though. I’ll be contacting my clinic in Feb to discuss next steps. Thank you for your lovely message ❤️

[Chegotsi]

Hi Chloe,

So sorry to hear about your loss. I have no idea re the time scales. My clinic mentioned the same thing. We are heading back in three months for another round so I doubt that will be a problem. I could ask my clinic if that would be helpful for you. I also wondered about the lifestyle overhaul. I want to do that too hence the three months wait. I wondered if you had Any tips for me?

[Chloettc2020 in reply to Chegotsi]

Hi hun, when I spoke to the clinic they told me to ring them in Feb so hopefully will get some more advice then. Thank you for offering to ask though ❤️ .

I see your 31 & only one ovary too, hard isn’t it 😔.

I changed my diet to the Mediterranean one (which tbh I really enjoyed) I stopped drinking for two month (was planning the full three but once I found out my pregnancy wasn’t viable I hit the wine lol), I limited my caffeine intake drastically & I also researched what supplements to take. I take myo-inositol, vitamin D, CoQ10 & a preconception pregnancare. A lot of what I take is for my PCOS.

I also stopped drinking out of plastic bottles & replaced all my Tupperware with glass boxes. No idea if this helped lol!

If you haven’t read It Starts With The Egg I would recommend that!

I hope this helps!

Feel free to DM me

Xx

[Alyssa123]

Hi Chloe! I hope you are feeling better. I am happy to see that you took time out for yourself. It's very important to focus on yourself as well. Now when you will opt for treatment in Feb, you will be ready. It's also a good thing that you talked about this with clinic. I am also sorry for another ectopic. Please update us if you have anything new. We will be there to help you out. Everything will work when you try again. Good luck. Stay blessed. Take care. Bye!