Looks like another missed miscarriage

[FrancyItaly]

So today I had a private scan at 8+1. Gestational sac was normal. Baby measured 4mm with a rather large yolk sac. The flickering of the heartbeat is visible on the screen but can’t be picked up on the machine. I can already imagine the outcome, I am measuring 2 weeks behind and with IVF it is impossible to get the dates wrong.

I don’t even know how I feel, it would be my second missed miscarriage. This time I will have the tissue examined to find out if it was healthy or not. I guess the real sadness will come after the physical separation, last time I was ok until then. But this time I want to be stronger, I have 3 frozen embryos of ok quality waiting for me.

Two years after my first devastating miscarriage, 6 months of Clomid and one round of ivf which gave me a BFP, this is how this is all ending. I need a miracle and to be honest I do deserve one, but I don’t know if I even believe it can happen. I know my story will make sense one day.

[KiboXX]

I’m so so sorry you’re having to go through this. Wish I had some magic words to make it hurt less 😢 sending you a big hug ♥️ xxx

[MissSaoPaulo]

I'm so sorry hon. Sending you the biggest hugs xxx

[Picalilli99]

I’m so sorry. Sending love xxx

[Janop79]

I’m so so sorry. Sending you lots of love xxx

[Llizzie]

What a tough journey you’re on. Please don’t try to judge yourself about your reaction - you’re dealing with much more than most people have to when wanting to start a family. Sending you a hug. x

[AuroraXen]

I'm so sorry that this seems to be the outcome 😔 I can't imagine how disappointing it must be. It's so good that you have some frozen embryos waiting for you when you're ready but sending you lots of hugs for the next steps first x

[RhinoCat]

So sorry to read this update 😢 3 frozen chances at least offer chances after you get through this storm. Hold tight 😘😘😘💐💐💐💐💐💐💐

[Rihab1]

Ohh so sorry for your loss.. Sending u hugs I wish a miracle for you.. What was your beta hcg value first??

[FrancyItaly in reply to Rihab1]

Thank you. 7pt was 181, then 756, then 2008

[Sammy246]

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending you big hugs xx

[XOXO13]

Ow I’m so sorry to read this 💔 there’s nothing I can say that will make you feel any better, it’s a horrible situation to be. So I’m sending you hugs and strength ♥️♥️ Xx

[try2020]

That is heartbreaking news, I'm so sorry, and like the other ladies have said, there are no words adequate for what is happening to you. I wish it was a different outcome. Sending you hugs xx

[Boo718]

My heart is aching for you. I’m sending so much love and hugs. This journey is soo cruel xxx

[Becatoms]

I am so sorry, IVF is such a rough ride.

Sending you love and hugs. xx

[COAGMS]

💔 I’m sorry that you are going through this xx

[Ell493]

I'm sorry, hugs.

[lnf17]

Sending u big hugs. I’m so sorry this has happened 💔 I will never understand why life is so cruel. Look after urself xxx

[MrsH86]

I’m so very sorry to read this ❤️I had a similar journey on my first IVF - developed late onset OHSS and then had an embryo that was measuring behind.

It feels so very unfair and I remember how sad and angry I was at the time. I do believe it will all make sense one day for you but in the meantime sending lots of hugs ❤️ x

[FrancyItaly in reply to MrsH86]

So glad to hear the happy ending of your journey. I just wish I could get pregnant easily after my miscarriage, but I already know it will be tricky ❤️

[Rol81]

I’m so sorry x

[Bella_Bee]

Noooooo Francy, che brutta notizia! Mi dispiace proprio tanto tanto tanto. Cazzo cazzo cazzo! Mi dispiace. Sii forte e pensa a quei 3 congelati che ti aspettano. Il tuo bambino, sicuramente, è in quei 3. Un abbraccio grande, tieni duro ❤

[FrancyItaly in reply to Bella_Bee]

Grazie ❤️

[Cinderella5]

Awww I'm so sorry my love, nobody should have to go through this, let alone again....you so dont deserve this!😢 Sending you as much love and strength that I can, I know it's only words but sure not alone lovely!!xxx

[KDA0510]

I’m so sorry to read this FrancyItaly. There are no other words. Big hugs x

[Jess1981]

I'm so sorry. One miscarriage is devastating enough but 2 so sad 🥲 I had 3 losses in a row one at 20 week last November, a chemical pregnancy in January and a miscarriage at 6 weeks in March which took a month to go & it is just so heartbreaking to go from loss to loss. I do believe strongly in rainbow babies & im sure you will go onto to have a healthy baby soon. Perhaps your clinic could refer you for miscarriage specialist? I was referred after my third loss in a row as mine was natural conception I think for IVF it's 2. We got no answers just like we didn't for Amelias post mortem, I concluded it was my age (39) and perhaps a cruel numbers game if we threw the dice enough times hopefully eventually one would stick! I'm now 16 weeks pregnant tomorrow but still really struggling with anxiety every scan and heartbeat check scares the crap out of me ( we discovered Amelia had no heartbeat at 20 weeks scan - big shock as before she seemed a viable pregnancy) even if you get investigations and don't get answers doesn't mean you couldn't have a successful pregnancy. I hope you have plenty of support it's so important Xx

[FrancyItaly in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you and glad to hear your pregnancy is progressing well, you’ve gone through a lot! With the first pregnancy we thought it was bad luck and with this we still don’t know the reason as I still did not have a miscarriage. This time I will have him examined, obviously if he is affected by chromosomal issues then we know where the problem is, if he is healthy then I need to be referred to a specialist to find out the reasons. Wishing you all the best for your pregnancy 💓

[Jess1981 in reply to FrancyItaly]

It's just horrible as you say one miscarriage is not uncommon and could just be bad luck. It hurts me still I don't know why Amelia suddenly just died but I did rule out a lot of issues so it's more unlikely to happen again ( a late loss that is) I think it's awful they make women wait till they've had 3 losses in a row it's so emotionally damaging for women🥲 . My first miscarriage was a chemical pregnancy before we had our 2 year old daughter I didn't expect to have 3 after her. 🤦‍♀️. I would get all the tests you can at least you can rule out things at the very least. I found my miscarriage specialist very helpful. Tommy's have lots of advice on miscarriage testing- worth a look. The miscarriage specialist told me the only thing that is proven to prevent miscarriages if you have a blood clotting disorder heparin can really help. I also took prednisone with this pregnancy ( I had that with my Francesca ) I'm sure that really helped. I have raised nk cells with can attack an embryo but due to Covid restrictions wasn't allowed in previous pregnancies but this has changed now. We decided to try for a sibling for Francesca when she turned 1 and tho it's been a shorter journey ( took us 7 years to conceive Francesca) it's been very difficult one but hopefully our journey ends in February with our completed family 🤞🏻Have every test going I don't believe these things are "just bad luck " not when it's one after another but like I said even if you don't get an answer there is no reason why you can't go onto have a healthy baby . Good luck with everything Xx

[FrancyItaly in reply to Jess1981]

It seems a lot of people are on heparin and baby aspirin, is it that common? That is why I will have him examined this time, perhaps I am the one with issues and this could have been avoided! But who knows, he might have a condition, we will find out!

[Jess1981 in reply to FrancyItaly]

Heparin is more effective against any blood clotting disorders than aspirin ( that's what my miscarriage specialist told me as I took aspirin in pregnancy on medical advice) I think aspirin is good for encouraging blood for implantation and prevents blood clots from forming tho but not enough to fight blood clotting disorders alone. . Pineapple core does a similar thing to aspirin so is like a natural alternative to aspirin 😏 my miscarriage specialist just ran tests on me - just thyroid and blood clotting ones as I had the rest when i/Amelia were both tested lots of genetic/chromosome ones as well as infections nothing flagged up. Usually with some earlier miscarriage it can be a chromosome issue and sadly can't be prevented. It's definitely nothing you did wrong. as a species we are the least successful species at reproduction. I would rule things out for total peace of mind and hopefully it might be a little tweak and you get passed those scary horrendous early weeks🤞🏻. If you can get the babys tissue tested that might be helpful going forward I know it sounds really morbid say that - when we lost Amelia we desperately wanted to know why she just died suddenly we never found out it just "happens" - in 60% of cases it comes back "unexplained " sometimes we just don't know why a baby suddenly just stops 🥲 we were pre warned that we would likely not get an answer. Losing a baby is such an awful thing for any women to experience but when it's a few it really does take it out of you emotionally. I found it completely traumatising even tho I'm so lucky we have a beautiful daughter together. I hope some good can come out if something so bloody awful. Xx

[ttcemmie]

Oh my Francesca. I am so so sorry to hear this. There are no words... it's unfair and just awful. Sending all my love. xxxx

[FrancyItaly in reply to ttcemmie]

So unfair, literally praying for a miracle xxx

[ttcemmie in reply to FrancyItaly]

You deserve one xxxx