I’m reaching out to the over 40’s going through ICSI. I’m feeling like it’s never going to work after two failed transfers.
I’ve got a mountain to climb to persuade my partner to try a third time. Is it worth trying again?!
What should I be asking my consultant? The last round I had 2 embryos developing well at 3 days so they put them both in. I was so hopeful. I’m not sure I can cope with the disappointment again but I know I will regret giving up.
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Hello, I know exactly how you feel. I'm 44 and will try one last time. I've had 3 BFN transfers so far, and I feel very negative because my chances are very low. However, I would never forget myself if I didn't do everything I can. All I can say is that there are happy ending stories out there. It's very difficult but not impossible. As I said, I feel very negative as I don't think I will be one of the lucky ones, but the fact that it's not impossible is enough for me to make me try one more time. X
Thank you, I’m really hoping it works out for us both. A small possibility is enough to keep me going at the moment too x
Keep believing and don’t give up on your hope. Your thoughts have the ability to alter things for the good or the bad. Just keep telling yourself “I’m going to be a mom, my baby is coming”! Your turn is coming, happy baby dust. Let us know when you have you positive! 😍
I will give myself some positive talking to!
Yes please. 🥰
I will try too! X
I’m 41 and Like you I debated not trying again however we are currently undertaking our 3rd cycle in the hope that this time will work, if took a while to get our heads round our failed second attempt but I think you have to go with your gut and what’s right for you and if you want to try again do it 
wishing you lots of luck xx
Thank you, I feel encouraged that it’s always worth trying again. Wishing you lots of luck too Xx
Don’t give up I had my daughter 3 weeks ago at 42. Against all odds. Good luck in all you do ❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations! I feel inspired by these good outcomes to try one more time x
Hi Poiuytt, I'm currently 16 weeks pregnant after my 3rd cycle at 43. This was my last try as financially I couldn't keep going. It's such a difficult process in so many ways but if you still have the wish to keep going then I would definitely try another cycle, it can happen!
That’s brilliant to hear, I’m so happy for you! You’ve given me a bit of extra hope. Can I ask about the two week wait, did you carry on life as normal or take it easy? X
Thanks so much, yes I highly recommend having a look at Dr Norbert Gleicher who has good advice for older women and I followed some of his suggestions. For the TWW I actually took a couple of days off work and took it easy immediately after transfer but then carried on as normal. Mainly because my job can involve a bit of heavy lifting and I thought I don't want to look back with any regrets or what ifs. It's hard to know what the right thing is to do, it can all be so headwrecking. Just do what feels right for you xx
That’s useful thank you. I will look
Into the Dr and see if I can make some changes. My job is also quite physical so I was worried. I was doing as little heavy work as possible and taking a couple of days to rest a bit. 🤪 it certainly does mess with my head!!! X
That sounds like a good plan, take it easy even for a couple of days, this is too important to be taking any risks for a job! Best of luck xx
I totally agree. Thanks for getting in touch, I really appreciate it x
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