Okay, so I had my BFP recently and I am now 16dp5dt and I am constantly absolutely terrified. My anxiety levels are completely maxed and I can't focus on anything else.
With my 2 previous losses and 12 years of infertility, I can't help but think that something is going to happen and I desperately want to relax.
I have my first scan on the 4th of August and all that I have going on in my head is that I am going to be told 'There's nothing there' like the last time.
When does this stop? and does anyone have any advice?
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Yes, I understand. Our anxiety gets the better of us, doesn't it? To do well, I tell myself what will be, will be, and not to worry as worry doesn't change anything. Take care!
You poor thing, no wonder you’re stressed. I don’t know if it will help you or not but I talked to bean all the time, telling it how wanted it was, to snuggle in and get comfy etc. Sometimes out loud, sometimes just in my head. And I would visualise it burrowing into my endometrium with a really good blood flow. I found it really calming. Best of luck for your scan, the next few weeks will drag but hopefully will all be worth it Xx
That's very helpful thank you. I've not tried talking to it. I suppose it doesnt feel real yet so I forget that there is something growing in there as all they have been so far is 2 lines on a test. I will give that a go tonight, thank you xx
I’m feeling like that too, I think I didn’t mentally prepare myself for a positive that I’m struggling so much to get it in my head!! I’m going to start talking to it like Purple says above, it might make it more real and help calm my nerves a bit. Our scan isn’t until the 10th which might as well be Christmas it feels so far away 🙈🙈🙈 Xxx
I don’t think it ever stops from what I’ve read from others stories, but I do think it will eventually get a little easier the more and more you settle into your pregnancy. I love Purpledoggy suggestion, I do this too and it does have a calming effect. I stroke my tummy and just tell the babies how much I want them to stay around. I had a second scan today and just cried when I saw the heartbeats as I was so worried me being sick had harmed them, but the nurse said they’re more resilient than we think and she said I may feel like this all the way up until twelve weeks so we just have to take it one day at a time. Just take deep breaths, remind yourself there’s no reason why this won’t work out - new egg, new sperm, new pregnancy 🌈
Congratulations to you, twins must be amazing. I mean, I am immensely grateful and I cant help but think back to the times I cried because I felt like I must have done something to not deserve a baby and now its finally happening I just feel like I am on the edge of something and I can't see how close to the edge I am or whether I am going to fall. I think once I see it, I will feel much better. 9 sleeps!!
Congratulations on your BFP! I totally get how you feel, I have felt my anxiety peak since mine and some days just seem a little tougher than others. Try your hardest to stay off Google (need to take my own advice there!). One day at a time lovely, you got this 💪🏻 xx
I feel exactly the same!im 5weeks and so another 2 weeks to wait for my scan.sometimes I don’t feel pregnant occasionally I think I am.I’m overthinking it and feeling anxious and a bit paranoid in case I’ve not moved enough (WFH) or done something I shouldn’t. I’m just trying to rationalise it by saying my recent test was positive and I haven’t bled and it was a good quality embryo etc to focus on facts x
It really is so much, and I can completely relate. I think all we can do is be in the moment as much as we can, you know? Saying, I'm pregnant right now, I'm doing my best, and what will be will be.
I suggest Mindful IVF app. It is so good. It even has a first trimester module and there is a new meditation for each week. It really helped with keeping me calm
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