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So exactly 6 weeks today and up until last night was feeling happy, positive, excited and calm. Since then had a huge arguement with my husband, had a complete melt down, sobbing, screaming and shouting and now utterly terrified that i am going to lose this baby because of it. We aren't speaking and i'm still so angry at him but also very down in the dumps today. I have even been thinking my symptoms aren't as strong today- sore boobs, nausea and generally feeling 'different'. Can stress cause miscarriage? its one week until my scan. Xx

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Obviously in a ideal word it would be best to avoid stress but sometimes that's not possible.

I'd try not to worry, easier said than done I know. I don't think a little stress will cause you any harm, the things you've described (screaming, sobbing and shouting) is this how you'd normally react? If not, sounds to me like you could be more hormonal than usual which is definitely a pregnancy symptom!

Try and take it easy for the next week and really hope your scan goes well xxx

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Hi Amanda86, i guess it was an over reaction thinking about it now. I told myself i wasn't going to do this! Worry all the time! I'll try to get these negative thoughts out of my head. Thanks xxx

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Hard not to I guess after everything we've been through before getting to the pregnancy stage! Just try relax as much as you can 😘 Xxx

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Good luck for this round xxx

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Thank you 🙂 Xxx

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Hi Elou we are at exactly the same stage and I share your fears. You're definitely hormonal and hubby will understand. Just talk it out. If you want to private msg then I'm hear to talk in more detail. Talking helps with everything I feel. Try and relax as best you can ❤️

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Hey, sorry you and your Hubby had an argument hopefully you can talk things through. Sounds to me like it could definitely be hormones, I'm a week behind you but these last 2 days I've felt like bursting into tears at times for no reason. Try not to worry to much, we all get a little stressed at times it's only natural on this journey x

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Hubby was apologetic as soon as he came home so we are good now. I have had moments like you also. Bursting into tears and laughing at the same time because i don't know why! I think you're right about hormones having a part to play. X

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Ah that's good, think it's harder for the men than they let on. I was exactly the same last night laughing and crying least we can take it as a good symptom I hope xx

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Being pregnant is not easy on body or mind. I fell out with hubby on Saturday and we didn't speak until last night!!!

This is a very stressful time so rows are inevitable I feel.

Don't worry about it too much just try and make up quickly so as not to prolong the stress. (Says me the most stubborn person I know)

You're probably not noticing symptoms because you're thinking of other things and they do come and go.

Crazy hormones go hand in hand with being pregnant so tell him to buckle up for the ride!!! And crazy hormones is a symptom of pregnancy so don't worry Hun. Good luck at your scan xxx

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Thank you x i'm quite stubborn too! But all ok now. I was kidding myself to think i wouldn't worry, would remain positive and would try to enjoy being pregnant. Guess the highs and lows are inevitable. Last night i noticed a funny taste in my mouth and thought this to be a new symptom as some get a metallic taste, so felt reassured by that. How is your pregnancy going? Well i hope xx

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It's a blooming rollercoaster ride Hun!!!

There will be lots of weird symptoms popping up over next few weeks and months.

We are doing ok at the min thanks. Being scanned every 2 weeks by consultants to monitor things but have a very lively baby growing away. As too am I!!

Take care of yourself xx

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You too hun x just finished a stint of 12 hour nights and been very ill! Extremely nauseous again and feeling exhausted. Not complaining though haha xx

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Like everyone else has said, it is probably the hormones! So don't beat yourself up. Stress isn't good for you but a bit of ordinary stress like that isn't going to cause harm. I was told

that the studies that show stress can cause harm to the baby concern major, massive life stress (e.g. the loss of a close loved one) and not the sorts of arguments and stresses we all have from time to time (especially when those hormones are coursing through us). Just think about the number of women who have babies in war zones! But for your own sake I would try to resolve the argument and de stress as much as you can. Early pregnancy is stressful enough as it is, especially after all we've been through. X

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Very true! I feel much better today. Yesterday felt like the end of the world!!! i hope you and baby are doing well xx

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Oh bless you. Arguments are bloody horrible. I.dont want to trivialize your feelings in any way but it sounds like you could be hormonal to me. Also your positive result doesn't negate the trauma you've (both) been through leading up to it. I'm sure the stress and upset will not impact your outcome. I got very upset and stressed due to a number of reasons during my 1st successful cycle and went on to have my daughter . Try not to worry xxxxx

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It felt like the end of the world yesterday haha. Hormones definately a factor! I can see that now. Even at such an early stage our embies are so precious. As you say, we go through a lot to get to this stage. Just want everything to work out. This baby has been a long time coming. Xx

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Ah you poor thing. Take care and lots love xxxxxxx

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Hiya I wouldn't worry about a little bit of stress. Women have babies in war zones all the time and they turn out ok! Babies are very resilient. They'll take from you what you need so you're the only one that'll be suffering! Glad you've made up now...me and the dh often have rows and can go days without talking occasionally....we're both too stubborn to make the 1st move! xxx

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Thank you. Hope all is well with you xx

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