Trying again after miscarriage

[Mai94]

Hi ladies, thank you so much for your support over the last few weeks.

First FET pregnancy resulted in miscarriage, as this is my second miscarriage (first natural conception) we have now been referred for tests which I’ve been told can take up to 8 weeks for results meaning out next transfer won’t be for a few months.

I don’t know whether to try naturally in this time, I’m torn between worrying that if I conceived naturally I’d miscarry again! I wonder if the quality of my eggs/ a potential embryo may be poor having relaxed a little post egg collection and things and with having pco! Also just really unsure how I feel a about actually trying, only miscarried 9 days ago and not wanted to BD at all, Husband is really understanding! It was an early miscarriage at 5 weeks all very quick abs physically I feel totally fine.

In the back of my mind behind all of this is the worry of missing an opportunity and what if this was “the month”!

I know there’s no answer as such just wondering I guess how others in similar situations felt x

[Millbanks]

Hi Mai, I don't have experience of miscarriages so I can't really comment - but I would say just go with your gut feeling. If you think the thought of possibly going through it again is too much to bear, then just hold off until you have your test results back. I'm super impatient and if I could get pregnant naturally (my tubes are clipped) I would be trying at every opportunity - having said that it's heartbreaking enough getting a BFN so I can't imagine how awful miscarrying feels. I would definitely make sure you've had enough time to get back on an even keel mentally - as sometimes I think we feel like we're fine, but actually we're not. Good luck whatever you decide to do xx

[Zebedee1971]

When we conceived our little one it was a case of my other half dragging me up the stairs to do the deed. I do vividly recall saying to him 'what's the point?' but he was insistent we kept trying just in case we got lucky. Not exactly the most romantic conception I know! This was two months after our failed ivf cycle where I got two abnormal embryos, so I was just in a very pessimistic mood and didn't think trying naturally was going to get us anywhere. After all, we'd had nothing for over a year. Our little boy is due in July. 3 years of trying to conceive + miscarriages + failed ivf cycles... It can all ruin your sex drive and enthusiasm for bedroom activities.. But I'm glad my other half was persistent otherwise I wouldn't be pregnant now (also thanks to all the drugs I was on, but you get my point I hope) x

[Marisa32]

After my miscarriage from an IUI (also 5 weeks) I kept trying naturally while waiting for DE treatment. I got pregnant on the 3rd month after the MC. I figured, I couldn't afford to miss any opportunities given my age - in case a good egg comes along. It did. I say if you can mentally handle it, go for it.