Miscarriage after shock pregnancy

[IVFGirlLondon]

Title says it all! I was shocked to find myself pregnant after 2 cancelled ivf and low ovarian reserves at 41 but alas I have miscarried. I’m assuming it’s because of a rough chromosome again as I’m being treated for killer cells and clotting. I’m now definitely going to use an egg donor as this is now my fourth miscarriage and I can’t go through this again. I’m just so pissed off as I was going to use a donor anyway and didn’t need the highs and lows of a shock natural pregnancy! Sorry to all the ladies who found hope in my story, it doesn’t mean miracles can’t happen but I know for me, as it’s my fourth miscarriage, my route is now donor.

[Picalilli99]

I’m so sorry to hear that you have had another loss. My heart goes out to you. The highs and lows are just heartbreaking and totally exhausting. Take care lovely. And when you are ready to go again, I wish you all the luck in the world for your DE cycle xxxx

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Picalilli99]

Thanks so much xx

[Cinderella5]

I'm so sorry sweetheart, so heartbreaking for you to go through this again. Big hugs.xx

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Cinderella5]

Thanks so much xxxx

[FrancyItaly]

So sorry to read this... I hope you are ok and I wish all the best for your DE cycle 💕

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to FrancyItaly]

Thanks 🙏🏼

[ttcemmie]

So shocked and sad to hear this. The rollercoaster of this journey truly is awful. You are such a strong lady going through this. Sending you positive thoughts, and glad to hear you have a plan in place for your next "move".

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to ttcemmie]

That’s it isn’t it? The rollercoaster is so hard. I feel a lot better today than I did yesterday and just pleased I miscarried earlier rather than later x

[Fifikoko]

So sorry for your loss and best of luck next round 🙏🏽😘

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Fifikoko]

Thank you x

[Skippy1982]

Sorry to hear you’ve had another miscarriage, that is so tough. Sending you lots of love and well wishes for your next steps xxx

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Skippy1982]

Thanks so much x

[sadievalentie]

Hi there! I am so sorry about your miscarriage. It takes a lot of strength to get through this. It's better to opt for some other treatments. They have a high success rate nowadays. It's a different story for everyone. I tried to conceive for 10 years and after that tried surrogacy. Surrogacy was my way out, even if i got pregnant, i was not able to give birth to a child. Sometimes changing your clinic can also make things better. I just hope next time things work out for you. Please keep us updated. Good luck. Stay blessed! Bye!

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to sadievalentie]

That’s really interesting. Would you recommend using a surrogate? X

[Rowly88]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, thinking of you and sending you lots of love during this difficult time xx

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Rowly88]

Thank you so much x

[Alyssa123]

Hey! How are you doing now? I know how hard it is for you right now. Even one miscarriage can break you from inside out. You had four miscarriages and still not giving up. Trust me, you are an inspiration for all ladies trying out there. You are a very strong woman. You are making the right decision by going for donor. It will increase your chances of conceiving. I just hope this time it's a good news for you. Make sure you take good care of yourself. Everything will be alright. Good luck to you. Bye!

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to Alyssa123]

Thanks very much. I agree with you that everything will be alright. I was very very ill a few years ago and thought I would die or my quality of life would be severely impacted. I recovered though and since then nothing has felt as bad! Even infertility. To be honest the rest of my life is lovely so as long as I’m breathing and have food, shelter, love etc I’m ok!!!! X

[LorrieWalden]

Hey there! I am so sorry for your loss. I must say, you are a very strong woman. You have been through four miscarriages and still standing. You will motivate a lot of people out there. In my opinion, you should go for surrogacy. It's something that will help you out. I also had 2 failed IVFs and the third one worked out for me. You can try it once again but with donor eggs. Just go for surrogacy if you are tired of taking the risk again. I hope things work out for you next time. My prayers are with you. Good luck. Goodbye!

[IVFGirlLondon in reply to LorrieWalden]

Thanks so much. Funny I never considered surrogacy as the doctors have been so positive about donor eggs. I guess I will try that first and if it doesn’t work, I will really be taking stock and considering my options (including surrogacy). I agree there’s got to be a limit on what you put yourself through! Congratulations that your third cycle worked! Good to hear of success x