Ivf again after miscarriage, how soon to cycle again?

[LL01]

Hi, I was lucky enough to get pregnant with twins from my first round of IVF however sadly I miscarried at 10 weeks. This was back at the start of Feb. I have only just had my first period since. I would really like to try another round asap - my clinic are happy for me to try again, starting stims when my period comes again next month. However others have suggested I wait a little longer to rebuild strength and mental well being following the miscarriage (I have had quite bad anxiety for the past few weeks) and also to prep and nurture my body a bit more? I can’t help feeling like a lot of my anxiety and emotional distress at the moment comes from feeling time pressure and being back at square one / in limbo and the process of starting again will therefore actually help me feel better. Although I recognise that I will probably have more anxiety this time then I did on my first round. My heart wants to just start again asap. Its such a lot of money I don’t want to sabotage myself in some way by rushing but I also feel like if I wait a few months and it doesn’t work I’ll feel frustrated I waited. Just wondering about other people’s experiences - how long you waited, what if anything helped you know you were ready and if you felt this helped at all?

[CatDV]

So sorry you lost your babies at 10 weeks. It’s truly unfair after everything we go through.

After my miscarriage I almost felt a desperate urge to be pregnant again as soon as possible. I almost immediately Felt mentally and physically ready to start again.

My clinic wanted me to wait for 3 cycles, but I could not wait that long and we agreed on 2 cycles.

I am a little impatient sometimes, I have to admit.

I remember worrying that I probably they were right to want me to wait an extra cycle and maybe my body was still not ready to accept another embryo.

It is still too early (4w 3d) but I got my bfp last weeks and I’m so grateful for that.

Whatever you decide make sure that you feel ready and lots of luck x

[LL01 in reply to CatDV]

Thank you for your reply. Congratulations on your BFP, wishing you all the positive thoughts.

I think compromising on 2 cycles sounds like a good idea. Did you count those as your first post miscarriage period and one other before starting your stims meds or did you start on period 3? X

[CatDV in reply to LL01]

I had my d&c early January, first period started on late January, second period on late February. I started preparing my FET on the 2 day of this second period xx

[Scarlett13]

Sorry to hear you lost twins at 10 weeks on this tough heart breaking journey, I think only you and your partner can decide when you’re ready to go again - and I’ve read that going again as soon as possible after a miscarriage can help increase your chances of another pregnancy - I don’t like wasting time with breaks myself - but do what’s right for you and what you can cope with xxx

[PurpleOctober]

Hi,

I totally understand what you are going through right now, I miscarried at 9 weeks at the beginning of January so having the same debate about when to try again.

You must not underestimate both the physical and emotional trauma your body has been through. My pain and cramps are almost gone now but I still feel bloated and tire easily. Emotionally the ups and downs and spontaneous tears over the most trivial things , show that I am not ready to start again yet.

My fertility clinic would have gone again about 2- 3 months. The advice I have had from the midwives at my local hospital has been to grieve and heal as best you can for as long as you need. I checked the WHO guidelines and they say 6 months, which might seem ages but gives us time to get our bodies back to normal, eat well and get our minds back in a positive place.

Best of luck with whatever you decide. We're all here if or when you need us. X

[LL01 in reply to PurpleOctober]

Thank you for your reply and sorry to hear what you went through. Miscarriage after IVF is just so cruel. Good luck for your next round whenever you’re ready.

[Cinderella5]

So sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks mid feb and have only just recently had my first period and my clinic won't let me try again until I have my 3rd bleed and that is for a frozen embryo transfer. I would like to get going asap too. It's a very personal decision but if you feel being in limbo is the worst thing for you and you want try to again then go for it! In natural pregnancy doctors suggest waiting to get a period before trying naturally and lots of ladies even get pregnant before that. Good luck with what you decide.xx

[LL01 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you for your reply, and sorry to hear about your loss too. If the money wasn’t an issue I’d definitely take the gamble but think I’m going to try and make myself wait at least one more cycle. Good luck for your next FET when it happens X