4th transfer - feeling blue

[Millbanks]

Hi my lovely warriors.

I've just had my 4th transfer this morning. It was a double (4AB / 5BB) fresh transfer - I've never actually had a fresh before - only every FET. I should be pumped but for some reason I just feel flat. We recently got our ERA test back which showed for an FET I needed 1 extra day of progesterone - but we'd already decided to give a fresh a try as we'd never been able to.

Has anyone had failed frozen transfers and gone on to have success with a fresh one? It's so new to me, I don't really know what I'm dealing with.

xxx

[Purpledoggy]

Sorry you are feeling pants, lovely. As it's a new thing to try, this fresh rounds may just be the one Don't forget, the crap weather, COVID, and mid winter slump are probably all also making you feel flat as a pancake. Sending you lots of positive vibes xx

[Millbanks in reply to Purpledoggy]

Thanks lovely - you are right - it probably is a combo of things. I just can't see how it'll ever work - it's been such long road already xx

[Hidden]

I think once we have been through IVF a few times we are low on hope and somehow our bodies sort of shut down to try and protect ourselves... I maintain I am all out of hope, until I am in the 2ww and suddenly i realise I secretly was hopeful I was just hiding it away. They sound like cracking embryos so super optimistic on your behalf. Heaps of luck lovely xx

[Millbanks in reply to Hidden]

They do indeed - I am fresh out of it! I really hope this is our time. I'm grateful to be here though, and we've got 2 gooduns in the bank so we can try an FET with new timings if needs be. Thanks lovely - you always make me feel better xx

[Krystal_43]

Just wishing you lots of luck & sticky baby dust

[Pebbles345]

Hey,I'm hoping this is a normal feeling as I often feel flat. I think it's normal and protective given everthing we've been through and all the disappointment.

Just try to allow yourself a little 'what if' feeling, a tiny bit of hope as you wouldn't be putting yourself through it if it was completely hopeless.

Sending you lots of luck xx

[Millbanks in reply to Pebbles345]

Thank you lovely - I feel like I'm not even remotely excited about it - like it's not really happening this time... We'll see.Huge congratulations to you though - you must be so pleased xxx

[Lisichka]

Wishing you lots of luck, let this be your sticky one/s!! Keeping my fingers crossed for you lovely!

[Millbanks in reply to Lisichka]

Thank you! I really hope so xx

[Ivf2020A]

Good luck to you hun sometimes this journey can make you feel very numb to everything but thats totally normal xx

[Millbanks in reply to Ivf2020A]

You're absolutely right! Hope you're doing ok xx

[Ivf2020A in reply to Millbanks]

Im doing ok x sending you good vibes hun x

[Peanutchips]

I can’t help you on the fresh cycle front lovely as I’ve only ever had FETs but I’m sure your clinic wouldn’t transfer on a fresh knowing your ERA results unless they thought it had a good chance. It’s not surprising that you feel blue, so many hormones racing and the weather is so miserable at the moment. Those grades sound fab so I’m sure you have an excellent chance of getting your BFP soon. Rest up, take it easy and getting being PUPO! xxx

[Millbanks in reply to Peanutchips]

Yes that’s a good point. Sometimes i cant see the wood for the trees! Hope you’re doing ok lovely xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Millbanks]

Yes I’m the same so completely understand. Everything crossed for you lovely xxx

[Sparklylife]

I got everything crossed for you and just wanted to wish you all the best!! 🤞🥰

[Millbanks in reply to Sparklylife]

Thank you 💖💖

[PenguinBlue]

Ahh just seen this! Feeling flat is normal - it’s such a difficult cycle and process you’re putting yourself through, not just physically but mentally and emotionally too. I always found it a bit up and down.

Those embryos sound like absolute beauties so I have everything crossed for you. Go easy on yourself, put your feet up and watch a good tv show to make you laugh. Sending a hug and positivity for the next two weeks!! Xx

[Millbanks in reply to PenguinBlue]

Thanks lovely. I know I should be feeling more positive as these are the best quality embryos we’ve had, but I just can’t shake that negative feeling 😔

It’s like I’m just numb xxx

[Cinderella5]

I hope you're feeling a bit more positive today! This is obviously all different for you but different can be a good thing! Your hormones will all be natural on this cycle so and with you really good embryos things look bright!! Good luck lovely.xx

[Millbanks in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you! Yes I was really surprised at my bloods yesterday- my progesterone was spot on. No lubion needed... fingers crossed... xxx

[Angels2us]

Hi Millbanks, I think it’s normal to feel like that I think it’s just away of coping in case all goes wrong, I am normally really excited before transfer then really low after , so chin up those embryos sound perfect wishing you all the best let us know how to get on 😘😘

[Millbanks in reply to Angels2us]

Thanks lovely. Fingers crossed xxx

[hifer]

Oh god I totally get why you would be feeling flat. This journey is hard and it certainly takes the wind out of your sails that’s for sure. I wish you all the very best for this transfer 🤞🤞xx

[Millbanks in reply to hifer]

Thanks Hifer, I really hope one of them sticks 😖 xx

[hifer in reply to Millbanks]

Me too honey. I really hope they do too xxx