Transfer day!!

[Ems_D1982]

Hi there. I've never joined in a forum, but these things have a way of making me feel crazy. So thought this might help. Me and my hubby have just had d5 transfer (fet). This is our third cycle. Let's hope third time lucky.

[Janer85]

Fingers crossed for you.

All the best xx

[BabyD]

Welcome and good luck!! Xx

[Sunny_skies]

Welcome hunny and good luck x

[City74]

Good luck!

[Ems_D1982]

Thanks everyone. Trying to stay positive, which is not always easy. What point are you all at in this roller coaster? It's nice to have people going through the same emotions to talk to.

[BabyD in reply to Ems_D1982]

I'm 9dp2dt and resisting the urge to test!!!! Xx

[Ems_D1982 in reply to BabyD]

Oh god its so tough isn't it. I made my husband take the test away in his car to try and reduce temptation!!

[bethany2]

How are you? How are you feeling?

Good luck and fertility vibes on you!! I am praying for your success!! xx

[Ems_D1982 in reply to bethany2]

Today I'm feeling OK. Just trying to keep calm and distract myself. I always find I'm OK for the first few days after transfer, but the closer it comes to test date, I turn into a mess. How are you?

[bethany2 in reply to Ems_D1982]

oh I can imagine, it is normal, I think, to feel all of that when it is almost the day when you are about to find out the truth, but worrying and stressing yourself that'll do no help you know. but I am happy that you are now fine, staying calm might be the best in this kind of a situation!! xx

I am fine, just a bit nervous because for some time there's been any updates from my manager who are always in touch telling me what the progress is. yesterday I finally received from her a message where she said that the surro mom I was waiting for 2 weeks is not matched yet, I was thankful that she responded but it put me into even more depressive state. although I am pretty sure I have nothing to worry about..

[Ems_D1982 in reply to bethany2]

I'm sure the waiting is horrible. The helplessness in it all is so frustrating. But keep thinking how worth while it will be if things work out. Keep your chin up. x

[bethany2 in reply to Ems_D1982]

thank you! yes, waiting is the worse, like there is almost nothing that awful to experience relatively of course. i am just sitting here and wait and wait and wait. do you think i might wait even more than that, it's been 3 weeks or something. my manager replied to me telling that this period of matching with the donor is fine, that it is very common within those who sign this type of a contract... others wait even more.

I have already chosen names for the baby, have 2 male names and female ones in case I have two boys or two girls you know. That’s how bad things are, the tx hasn’t started yet but I am already 9 months in the future

[Ems_D1982]

It's so hard to not be looking to and dreaming of the future. With all this waiting it's only normal that you think about it so much. I'm climbing the wall with it all. I'm day 6 post transfer today, 6 more to go. Hopefully things will move forward for you soon. I find in this whole process, that I'm constantly waiting for the next stage and I'm getting sick of wishing my life away. not sure how many more times I can do this... Not good for your mental health, but can't imagine deciding to stop it all. I think I like certain names and then change my mind again. Well that'll hopefully be something we both have to think about for real soon enough.