Advice on clinic choice for FET?

[magda22]

Hi everyone,

Im going through a huge process of gearing myself up to do FET, gawd...getting back into ivf world after a break! i have one embryo from 4 cycles I did 2-3 years ago.

I recently seperated from my partner, which is so sad, after years of long and emotionally arduous conversations about how and when to start a family, we dont see eye to eye. My partner is female and 8 years younger than me, but was never supportive of me doing ivf. So we have taken a break in the relationship and im gearing myself up to try FET so i can follow my dream of becoming a mother. The embryo is actually good quality, 8 cell grade 1 at day 3. Its the only one i got, i have very poor fertility (at age 36 my amh was 1.3, im now age 40).

Becuase its the only chance i have for a biological child it feels like there is a hell of a lot resting on this FET! To the point that i can hardly find the courage to go and do it. I believe national stats per embryo transfer are about 30% chance of success (and i can't help noting that means a 70% chance of failure). But i know im so lucky to have this chance.

So im trying to decide what clinic to do it at. I live in Bristol and the clinic i did cycles at, and how i got the embryo, advocate a very light touch, low intervention and low use of meds. In some ways i really appreciate this approach, but I've also found them a bit formulaic and even slightly careless in some of their administrations . It makes me not want to trust this massive responsibility to them. If it fails, i might kick myself.

The alternative could be to have the embryo transported to a clinic in London which has a far more rigorous, hands on approach in terms of monitoring. That would also be very expensive and disruptive. I'd end up spending a huge part of my savings. But might be worth it for higger chance of success and peace of mind?

I'd appreciate any advice based on your experiences and what you can see from my situation.

Much love to all of you warriors

Xxx